He had an affair...breaking out the Ben & Jerry's (2)

[Syc4moreTrees]

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Not sure if I've managed to create a link to the old thread...someone more tech savvy can maybe help me out a little bit if not?

The old thread closed before i could thank you all again for all the collective wisdom, it's been a very surreal month to say the least, but it's been crazy how much support you can get from a bunch of lovely strangers.

So thanks!! You're all awesome!

I ❤️ Leaf as a name.

Go on! And never tell him why...

Hhehehehe I've changed my mind anyway, I'm sending the holy terror back. He wont stop trying to milk me!

Ash, Oak or Leaf - vote now!

We had a name chosen each and were waiting to see if he looked like anything in particular...but now WH just bloody loves my name and thinks it's the best thing ever. I told him to stop being a wanker and express an opinion! I shall not be won over in my weakened baby euphoria state by his being sweet and lovely and agreeable 😁 I'm tempted now to pick his name just to stick it to him! (But not really cause his name is shit and mine is actually better)

I think probably pre-emptying the pain and double dipping on painkillers has been a very good strategy. 😂

Probably he'll just end up being called someone terribly normal like James. 😆

You sound great! Enjoy the high and call him what you want to.

Just read the full thread. Congratulations on the birth of your new baby. I am in awe of you Trees! How the hell have you managed to act with such dignity and strength? You are Wonder Woman!

I'm so sorry that you've had to deal with this. I am honestly hoping that everything will work out and that you and your children will all be happy. You are an amazing role model to your children, they are so lucky and this new one has no idea how incredible his mummy is yet!

Take care of yourself and enjoy all the beautiful new baby snuggles!

I actually really love the name Oakley

My next DS will be Acer. DH doesn't know yet.

You're awesome by the way.

Nigel's as in actual leaf or Leif? I believe they're pronounced the same but Leif is an old Norse name.

Congratulations trees loving the idea of making WH squirm!

Sorry nigels autocorrect.

So happy to read baby sapling has arrived safely. Welcome babu sapling! You are doing fantastic syc

I think we have established that your judgement is considerably better than WH's, so I vote your name

Leaf spelt the modern way it is.I quite like the Norse .

Congratulations Trees!!!! Enjoy your gorgeous baby and remind him every day what an awesome warrior mum he has There's no rush for anything, just enjoy bonding with your new addition x

Congratulations 😍

Congratulations Trees! So pleased for you 😍

Hope you're enjoying lots of newborn snuggles Trees and WH is behaving himself!

Just arrived home! Bubba is having lots of cuddles and his big brothers are smitten with him.

WH hasn't got round to leaving yet after collecting us from the hospital. It's so difficult to throw him out now though! I feel like we are in danger of just slipping back to normal life.

I think you should file for the quickest divorce possible. You can always remarry if you want to. He destroyed this marriage. If you get back together it is more likely to work if there was a clear beak and clear consequences for his reckless behavior. It would be a totally new start.

There's no rule book here, Trees as long as you are comfortable with what's going on. Bet it's lovely to be home.

Trees lucky sapling having big brothers to look out for him.

Agree with JaneEyre there's no rule book, accept as much help from WH as you feel comfortable with at this point.

Now's the time for him to really to own what he's done. So big smile, CBeebies presenter voice, "daddy will be back at xx to take you to school, let's all say goodnight to daddy", and off he goes to his borrowed flat. DC will be too distracted by the baby to care.

I love the names Ash and Leif, but I think Ash Leif might be taking the piss!

Wally

If you're stumped you could always branch out and call him Rowan. See what I did there?

Perhaps leave the discussion with WH until after the children are in bed. Even if he ends up staying tonight he needs to understand that this does not mean that you have made up your mind he can stay permanently.

Don't let him stay. You asked us not to let you give into him, so remember: this is the baby he used as an excuse for his weekend away shagging, this is the baby he exposed to an STI, this is the baby whose mum he intended to keep cheating on.