I would like to ask about... bjs

[nottobeknownbyname]

um... i was wondering if there are any... tips or techniques i could use

anyone? i know its a delicate/embarrassing topic

make sure he washes or you wash it first!!

don't chew !!

if you're going to spit, don't make gagging and puking noises while you do!!

you can get some stuff from ann summers that you rub on him and itll be a nicer taste, called "banana dick lick" and tastes of banana (obviously)

Decide before you start whether you're a spitter or a swallower

I'd personally swallow - its like the difference between necking tequila and having to hold it in your mouth

Yum

And (sorry to get onto serious tips) definitely cover your teeth with your lips.

when I am giving him one, we don't get to that point, so it makes me wonder if I am doing something wrong. Dh seems to enjoy it, but I don't think I am "satisfying" him enough

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buy a good sex book and there's bound to be loads of hints in there. Sorry, don't think I can bring myself to talk details considering the little eyes that will be watching me and bringing up the subject in the bar for months to embarrass me.

have you asked him what he likes?

PMSL Twiggy!!!!!!

i have but he just tells me fantasies he has

don't they give you any hints as to how to go about it? soft and tickly,slow,fast,rough ??

OK, WK has made some good points, let's get down to the nitty gritty.

You have to approach a BJ as though you are about to devour your favourite ice lolly on a very hot day . You should lick the shaft and tease the helmet with your tongue on the way up and then swallow as much member as you can and give a few strokes right up and down with him fully enclosed in your mouth.

It's really a combination of these techniques and showing that you are enjoying it too, also when he's on the point of coming do cover your teeth with your lips and concerntrate on sucking the helmet. Swallow immediately and surface with a smile on your face.

If you are a troll I should charge you for this. Now I can't post on MN for an hour or so, I know people cross check to find out who the anonymous people might be.

Anyway good luck and the most important thing to remember is that good sex should be about mutual pleasure and consent, so don't do anything you don't really want to.

fantastic voiceofwisdom, I don't need any tips but that was a great post! Your favourite lolly on a sunny day, ab-so-bloddy-spot-on! PML Your husband is a lucky man!!!!!!!!!!

Ladies, come on now! There are no real tips/techniques about bjs and you all know that. Just go with the flow and after a few attempts you'll surprise yourself at what you will come up with nottobeknownbyname. Even if he doesn't get to the final stage as you mention, it doesn't mean he's not enjoying it, otherwise you wouldn't still be doing it. Only do it if you like it otherwise is not going to work. Don't make any plans (i.e how to hold, what to do, do i need to swallow etc). Just explore and see what happens. The only practical tip I can offer is make sure you at least glance at him, it really does make a difference. And don't keep your hands on 'it' all the time, explore him in other parts as well at least to start with... You'll be fatastic, i'm sure of it and he'll love you for it! Enjoy!

twig ... half way through and PMSL!!

voiceofmisdom ....!!!

But you've worried ME. What can happen within an hour?

Not with BJ's (heaven forbid ...), but how can M'netters cross check? Worries me ...

Also if you fancy it, I (and DP) can recommend getting your tongue pierced

works best when he's least expecting it........ not in bed, maybe when's he just come home from work (Fri night sets you both up for a great w/e )

wear a push up bra in red/black - when he looks down there's plenty for him to get worked up about!

Telling him he's huge does wonders for the ego....