See, the organisation thing I can do. If I'm interested in someone I want to impress them, find out places they might like, book a table there, make myself look and smell nice and, yes, but the drinks and pay for the meal, if there is one, because I asked them out. If someone is interested enough to ask you out, they should organise details - although I still think that suggesting the evening and the type of date is reasonable, because he's possibly writing his thesis too. And teaching his students.
But.. I want them to be impressed by me too. I'm not ugly. I'm actually quite attractive, if not a model. I'm educated, I can be funny and generally make them laugh if there is any kind of connection. Usually they want a second date. Not always, but usually.
But I've been on dates before where women have suggested a pricier restaurant than the nice one I'd suggested. Where they had ordered cocktails with their starters and continued to order them throughout the meal, until they've had about fifty quids worth of alcohol while I'm on my second beer or wine. And they are, quite obviously, out for the experience. Wanting to be treated, at which point it's not about me, my personality, my looks. It's about the size of my wallet.
And at that point it's like going on a date with a man who just stares at your cleavage for the whole evening.
It's incredibly offputting.
Other women can do exactly the same thing - the cocktails etc, and at the end when the bill comes she'll say 'oh I had cocktails, you just had beer, let's split it because that's fair'
Them, I'll want to see again. Not because it saved me money, but because they have a sense of fairness. And fairness is important.