Is anyone awake? I think I was just raped

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I'm in shock. I don't know what to do. My friends are sleeping

But he basically said 'exactly, he just got carried away' like it was no big deal. I'm even more traumatised than I needed to be

Try Victim Support. Just had a quick check on their website and looks like they have local services in most places. Do sorry this is happening to you

Can you try asking to speak to another officer?

Have you been able to get to speak to rape crisis or similar? x

Not yet. Will try again when they re open.

Don't feel I can speak to anyone else as the other officer agreed with him. I feel like I'm making a fuss about nothing

I'm so sorry you've had a bad experience with the police. You're absolutely not making a fuss about nothing.

Rape crisis should be much more supportive

Did you manage to get some sleep?

You're not making a fuss about nothing. At all. You have nothing to be ashamed about. You've done nothing wrong. At all.

I'm so sorry this has happened and then the police are being unbelievably crap.

I believe you. And if it helps, I was raped by differ t people at different times too. It happens a lot more than you think. I also felt like I must be doing something wrong and nobody would believe me. But they do. We all do for a start.

Did you manage to get through to rape crisis or similar?

Bloody hell. It's awful how you've been treated by the police.

Please don't listen to the police. Try Rape Crisis.

Thank you. Not spoken to anyone yet

Managed a little sleep

That's good. Have you tried googleing Victim Support for their support line number? Can't do links with my phone.

Hi OP,

We're glad to see you're getting some good support and advice on this thread. Just wanted to point you in the direction of Refuge's webpage on sexual violence, which offers support for those who have been sexually assaulted or raped. They operate a 24-hour National Domestic Violence Helpline for support on 0808 2000 247 (run between Refuge and Women’s Aid).

We really hope you're okay.

Victim Support number - 08 08 16 89 111.

They're open 24/7 currently I think

It doesn't matter where the conversation happened, surely!?

You are being so brave. I'd try Rape Crisis again and if that fails try Victim Support or the nearest SARC centre.

There's also local Victim Support teams by county (different phone numbers) here:

www.victimsupport.org.uk/help-and-support/get-help/support-near-you

Oh I'm so sorry you've been through this. I absolutely do believe you and I do not believe for a second that you're being stupid or over reacting.

What the police told you is wrong, how disgusting that this officer was allowed to perpetuate rape myths like that.

If you have it in you, I would take this further.

Thank you, my head is a total mess still

OP which county are you in?

I'm scared to say

I am in Angus, Scotland, and have a friend who volunteers with Victim Support. If we can be of any help to you, give me a shout.

I have no further advice for you, the things pp have said seem very sensible. I just wanted to add that I believe you and believe in you. What a courageous woman you have been, calling the police took incredible courage.

It did take courage and now i feel stupid. Wouldn't say anything if I was ever in this situation again. I thought I was doing the right thing to protect us both

You did do the right thing op. It's the police officer who told you you weren't raped who was in the wrong. I'm disgusted on your behalf.

I'm in Norfolk OP. PM if you're close.

You were not stupid, we have a sexist abusive culture in this country and you have fallen foul of it twice in 24 hours, which is horrible for you.

You were not stupid, you were brave and you have done the right thing. Others, unfortunately, have not.

I believe you.