Dating Thread 117 - summer loving!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

Yeah i agree with buckets. There could be a number of reasons things changed. If youre considering it, then you might as well go for it. As you say youve got nothing to lose

Cover I vaguely recall a threat about Centre Parc and anal, not too sure what the Oxo Tower was about.

*thread!!! Threat could be seen as accurate too

Ha ha I am a serial 'liker', I must say it hundreds of times a day!!

Hi all, I enjoy reading about all your dating adventures and it's great that everybody can be so open and honest about it here. I feel a bit weird discussing it with my friends (who are all happily married!) as they can't really relate.

The constant swiping and messaging just feels a bit relentless at times with not a lot to show for it! I've just joined POF and can't believe the amount of 'how's you' messages! Some quite scary looking men on there, tattoed faces and pretty sinister looking Not sure how long I'll stick around on there!

Me too info. Its just part of us really ha.

I gave in and messaged WG because wasn't it just obvious that I was going to.

She won't reply like but I did it and I don't feel bad for doing it. Nout lost ☺️.

Nipples I address Info when we chat "haway petmanflowermanpet". He doesn't seem to mind.....

Hi Victoria I'd worry more about pyscho behaviour, but yes seeing lots of faces like a meat market can feel strange. I think it's better to set up a good search and only look into at profiles that match. Those same men are then more likely to message you (or get in first and ask them about something on their profile).

Info it sounds like it would have irritated you more not to have messaged her?
So better to try...I'm hoping she replies!

Hi Victoria it's feeling quite relentless to me! But I don't really have the opportunity to meet many ppl in RL aside from when I go out, which isn't the best situation anyway!

I need a slap to keep ignoring the message from Mr Decorator. Should not accept "crap" after date 1!
Mr Levy is calling soon ish, feeling quite nervous as I've only messaged ppl before.

Hi Lana, I know it's stupid but I do find it quite intimidating, especially when the messages are sleazy! I think there's an element of feeling a bit exposed too, putting yourself out there for so many people to see. I never really noticed that on tinder.

Buckets, i think it's so hard to meet people in real life. Other than at work, I just can't imagine where it would happen. At the park with my kids, the supermarket?? Probably not likely!

Good luck with the call, that's my worst nightmare!

Victoria I've been super liked by someone from work on Tinder and spotted a team mate on Bumble. Most guys I know, who are single, I have spotted on dating apps.

I hate autocorrect, it kept changing mate to mare it also keeps changing random words to start with capitals regardless of punctuation!

Thanks for the luck, I think I'll need it

Allthembuckets enjoy your chat with Mr Levy...you are the prize.

info good on you messaging weapons, you too are the prize.

I have talked to people and it has fizzled out, sometimes I have started chat again, there is no harm in trying.

She hasn't replied from an hour ago but I didn't think she would anyway. Didn't harm to try though. I am prize af.

Wey let her get on with it info. At least you now know rather than wondering

So, I was conflating a few things with my Centre Parcs comment - the sex contract mentioned by someone and the person who asked on the first date if they did anal, mentioned by someone else.

On Mumsnet (or, Bumsnet, as it has become known) there was a thread about a woman whose husband when they were going to CP seemed to think he had read that CP meant getting anal sex.

And 'taking her up the Oxo Tower' is a euphemism for anal sex. Googling it brings up some really funny stuff, and there is MN thread about it too.

Crikey, I have led a sheltered life

My only iron who I had a first date with over Easter is just off the phone.
Date two now planned but not until next week. He travels with work and we both have children and other commitments.
My very sensible friend quizzed me just to check he was busy with work; as her thoughts when I mentioned him were that he was probably very married!
Really looking forward to seeing him again but would prefer if it was tomorrow rather than next week.

That's the problem now, free time lettuce trying to arrange evenings out with friends, work and dates means little time. And I'm lucky that my ex has DD when he has days off, 4 week rota so different days each week. And my mum provides childcare regularly.

The call with Mr Levi went well, another one tomorrow but we shall see... I definitely don't want to reply to Mr Decorator now! I sent him a message nearly 2 weeks ago, can only think he's bothering now bcs no one else is interested.

I've led a sheltered life too!!

Mumsnet leads the way

Has anyone used Zoosk? It's on my FB feed again as weirdly my DD's great grandad liked it I don't know if he realised what it was as he's my ex's grandad so I only send him pictures of DD and Xmas cards.

Have been to centre parcs in my youth, urgh. Each to their own.

When I first found myself alone [way back early 2012] I would have dropped an arrangement with a friend in order to meet some eejit from on-line dating.
I have learnt that friends need nurturing and keeping so my priorities are very different now.

Zoosk looks interesting, I just looked at reviews and information about it.