Dating Thread 117 - summer loving!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

I think technology is a wonderful thing minus social media especially shitagram and shitbook lol
I wouldn't say paying for a site yields better results either. If you read Trust pilot the reviews of Match.com you will see its not highly recommended.

Thanks Countryside just had a look and youre right. Think I'll skip it.

Polarbear I know exactly how you feel. It's when they go, having had such a great (and close) time. I used to get that with someone I saw last year. It passed and I was able to enjoy it for what it was hot sex

Your welcome 😆

I'd like to date someone who likes dancing in the rain just so I could organise when it's raining and tell her to go out there and dance.

No, didn't fecking think so pet. Dance in your bullshit instead.

I like the ones who take their photo in front of those shit wall murals with such shit phrases on as it makes knowing who to avoid that bit much easier.

Lol - Info - I've never seen those walls but can imagine.

Considering what you guys all say you hate on women's profile, why do women do it and why do us totally normal ones get so few contacts!?

So I messaged mrcar ... I feel you've had a change of heart, that's ok just let me know ..... Nothing and he's read it!!!!!! He lives in the next village to me and we drink in the same pub!! He was lovely last night! When will I learn!!! Onwards and upwards!! Again!

I don't know why you wouldn't just have several normal pictures of just yourself. I don't like inspirational quotes etc. That's what Instagram is for not your OLD profile.

Women don't realise it's bad until someone tells them or that's just them and it's best they show it clearly. I feel the same about why don't us regular ones get the contact. Pfff. Oh and here is an example of such a wall murals. My mate's ex missus had one, she was a tit.

Wingletang1 he might be having a think about what he really wants before replying? It sounds like its been a bit of a whirlwind.

Does anyone have a list of straight no's?

Motivational quotes, no pic, no words, fuzzy pics, ask me (pet hate) and my favourite of all ' looking for my princess'?

I'm getting more and more picky, haven't liked anyone in over a week and getting sick of the 'hey sexy' 'hey gorgeous ' messages. I'd be happy with a simple hello.

I understand sending that first message is difficult but surely not that difficult?

I'm expecting too much, I doomed to buy a cat (or ten) and shout a children who get to close to my car.

Countryside8 I tried Happn. It has similar problems to Tinder and Bumble. A lot of people don't have much/ any info about themselves. A lot of people don't message after matching. I did have a couple of dates from there with local people, they were nice guys but we didn't really have anything in common. We didn't message much before meeting, and that might be the expectation on there, I'm not sure. I didn't mind because they were local and therefore it was easy to meet, which is the point of Happn.

You've nothing to lose by giving it a go. I'm in London though, if you are elsewhere it might not be any good. Even in the London suburbs I didn't "cross paths" with many people, in central London there are more but they are often transitional so not so useful. If you work in central London it might be good.

Ah, those murals....yes, I have a few of those.....not really!!

I know it's a bit of a thing but I'm not really into words stuck round the house unless they are lyrics from James' songs obvs

I can't do: men who have photos of cars, or motorbikes; men whose pics are all of them on marathons or tough-mudders (I find people whose lives revolve around that stuff incredibly dull); any mention of 'princess' and I can be a bit squinty-eyed at 'lady' depending on context ('lovely lady to treat' is a no-no, for example); any message that says nothing at all specific about my profile ('nice profile' is not enough - I would tend to reply 'without going back to it, tell me one thing you liked in it', which is mean of me really....).

I am too picky.

I already have a cat.

I shouted at some kids making a noise in the street a couple of weeks ago.

Doomed.

I shout when I read 'girl', I'm a woman after a man!

I have a list of no things and the biggest no no is people that put their no lists on their profiles. Awful.

I don't want anyone without a car. I don't message anyone without a car and I don't reply to anyone without a car. There is zero need to mention this or any other no no on my profile.

Oh, yes, girl is bad too.....and of course, any text speak. Just seen one who has messaged me, apparently he 'luvs' a lot of things, He's bloody 59! 59 and can't use real words!

Why the car thing Info? I suppose it's less of an issue for women as I don't think I've ever seen a guy without a car so far on POF, but maybe more women are carless. I had a FB who didn't have a car once and I lived in a village, it was a bit of a pain I admit.

@Pavonia I am in East Anglia and not many people on these apps really.

You would be surprised the number of gay men that can't drive!

My no list: no pics or pics of themselves, text speak, not too far away, out of my age range, a properly completed profile instead of "just ask" erm I think that's it? No doubt I've forgotten things.

The princess/girl thing would annoy me, I'm in a male dominated industry, I'm a woman and I can take care of myself! That's reminded me, I avoid anyone who says "looking for someone to spoil" in their profile.

Out I live in a village and it's nigh on impossible to get to without a car. I'd like to be at my place sometimes and it's just not possible with someone who doesn't have a car. Would be lovely for someone to turn up at my house instead of always me going to theirs.

It's probably a 99% deal breaker. Like if Cameron Diaz messaged me and she had no car, that would be okay.

Out Mr Xbox didn't have a car and Mr Boxer only has a provisional licence. My ex was late 20s before he passed his driving test, despite his mum moaning at him about it.

Gets waring when your the one that always has to drive. I have a 'friend' who always wants me to drive to theirs but will never drive to me. Needless to say I've cut ties with that one sided 'friendship'

Sorry about Mr Car Wingletang. Maybe just wait and see now, but try not to invest too much yet. I do think he would try to reassure you if he was keen and he hasn't just yet. I think it's important to try to invest in a way that's relative to the time you've known them. It's crap, but I have spent far too much time searching for unlikely alternative explanations when the simple one is the right one.
I keep reminding myself of that with wildcard, as although it's going well, it really hasn't been long. I don't have the exclusive or not issue, as he was the one wanting me to be exclusive, which I agreed to. So I'm just having fun. He's very skilled in bed, so I'm happy.
info I agree on the car thing. It makes life easier. I'm in a big city but it's nice to be able to drive to places and not have to do all the driving yourself.

Was just looking at a profile. Lovely pictures, settings going well, was thinking to myself this is someone I could message and then no car and all she said was 'ask'.

Jeez. What a let down.

Well he finally got back to me ... He just wants to be single!!! Yeah right! Anyway I said fine, you can buy me a drink when I see you in the pub!! Buggered if I'm going to let him know I was upset!! The fool!! anyway feeling better now, just annoyed I didn't spot a player! I'm going back onto bumble, always found more decent guys on there.