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Original poster

I'm 42 with kids, boyfriend is 34, what if he wants kids??

137 replies

Frothyfreddie · 22/04/2017 10:41

Hi

I've just met the most amazing man online. We have chatted for 3 weeks before finally arranging a date on Thursday night. As he walked into the bar I was dumbstruck at his beauty, he is 6'4, dark hair, incredibly handsome and his accent nearly made me faint.

As we sat and chatted, I could tell he felt the same way, we couldn't keep our eyes off each other and as he leaned in for a fist kiss I almost melted, it was perfect.

We ended the night with talk of how much chemistry we have and how into each other we are.

He messaged the next day and said he would find it very easy to fall in love with me.

I would love nothing more. My only issue is that although our age gap is not huge i can't help but think that he will want kids and as I'm 42 and have 2 kids I feel like I'm done.

Is this a conversation I should be having early in in the relationship with him so as not to waste his time or do I just let us both fall in love with each and cross that bridge when it comes?

I really have fallen for him, I can tell he feels the same

OP posts:
arsenaltilidie · 23/04/2017 21:07

He's been on one date and is already saying "he could fall in love with you"
I'd be wary of this one.

Lovemusic33 · 23/04/2017 21:37

Been here a few times with OLD, you will learn ( probably the hard way ). Of course he seems perfect, he's a stranger and he is not going to tell you his bad points is he ? You can't possibly know him well enough to know you want to spend the rest of your life with him. He's told you everything you want to hear, treated you perfectly and your flattered ( who wouldn't be ) but wake up!! You don't know nothing about him other than what he has told you.
I have been here before several times and it has ended badly, I ignored what people on here told me and I got hurt.

lifesjoys · 23/04/2017 21:47

I notice that the person with whom you got pregnant is now your ex.

Trills, I didn't want to end the story on a negative

I wasn't sure if op believed in fairytales & happy endings! Hmm

wickedfairy · 23/04/2017 21:48

I would certainly be cautious in introducing your children. It all seems s but too full on, too soon. Red flag behaviour for me

TokenGinger · 23/04/2017 23:01

I can't wait to hear those 3 words from him! I know he's dying to say them

You sound like an absolute nutjob. You are either doing a fantastic job of fooling people that you're being serious here, or you really need to sort your head out. This is fucking ridiculous.

debbs77 · 24/04/2017 00:06

I met someone on OLD and he actually said the 'three words' before we even met. Felt our connection was so strong. We didn't even actually talk until our first date.

We were together 5 years and have two children together.

I left him because he was a verbally, emotionally and financially abusive arse xx

Original poster
Frothyfreddie · 29/04/2017 01:53

Would you all like an update?

OP posts:
ShoutOutToMyEx · 29/04/2017 02:25

Yes

Hellobye · 29/04/2017 08:02

Go on then!

theaveragewife · 29/04/2017 08:09

Yep! Although your last post actually made me dizzy with fear - and I'm lying down....

Chatelherault · 29/04/2017 08:12

Yep

robinia · 29/04/2017 08:17
Chippednailvarnishing · 29/04/2017 08:23

This thread is hilarious!

SprinkleOfInsanity · 29/04/2017 08:49

Shot gun wedding and pregnant?

Paperdoll16 · 29/04/2017 08:50

You're pregnant, engaged, have two pups and the wedding is next Saturday? 🙌🏻

Ellisandra · 29/04/2017 08:50

The update has to be at least that he has said the "three little words".

But OP, I recommend you wait until at least 10 people have given you attention in asking.

Update, don't update... some random bloke we don't know says or doesn't say something that's kind of nice but too early to actually be meaningful... hold the front page! Grin

Ferrisday · 29/04/2017 08:56

I want an update
I also wasn't to know who Ulysses is?!!Grin

Chippednailvarnishing · 29/04/2017 08:57

Three little words?

"Leave me alone"

LadyFuchsiaGroan · 29/04/2017 09:00

Excited for the update... suspect more people need to ask though before the big reveal.

shesnotme · 29/04/2017 09:03

I can see what you are all saying. However I have been with dh 17 years, we exchanged I love you within 2 weeks, moved in within a few months, had first dc within 2?years....

hippyhippyshake · 29/04/2017 09:04

Married with kids?

Gallavich · 29/04/2017 09:06

Op has spent the last few hours writing and re writing her update for maximum frothiness Grin

I'd say this was trolling but I know a woman like this. She is late 40s and falls in love with a new man every few weeks. According to Facebook she has had 4 'partners' since Christmas and one of them she was going to marry after their first RL date. Her life is lived online like a soap opera and every time a man shows her interest she thinks it's true love. She's been doing this for 30+ years so will never learn.

Camnico · 29/04/2017 09:07

You're getting ahead of yourself here OP.
Although I do think that before any sort of relationship materialises you should make him aware your mummy days are over and if it doesn't work out then, well... that's just life I guess

Camnico · 29/04/2017 09:10

I wonder what the 'future mr frothyfreddie' would say if he seen this thread. I'd be bloody terrified lol

DonaldStott · 29/04/2017 09:11

He's told you he loves you and you told him you love him?

Your 'beauty' is fab at DIY and has offered to do all the odd jobs around your house that you couldn't do?

He's offered to dust the places you can't reach due to his 6ft 4 frame?

He doesn't want kids because you and your kids will be enough to fulfil his life?

Am I right?

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