Dating Thread 116 - come join us!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

Pavonia and Farontothemaddingcrowd I wouldn't have been annoyed if he'd said so earlier, even earlier today, I don't know why he didn't

Anyway, I had a few messages with Mr Boxer a month ago and I thought I'd replied to his last message but hadn't so sent him a message this morning. So, will see how it goes tomorrow!

Dammit, I have restrictions on YouTube as DD can be addicted to it.

Regarding that song: what, so let me get that straight. If you're a woman you have to smile, pout, look at the camera AND show your cleavage all at the same time? Is that not like rubbing your tummy and patting your head?!

Sheesh, no wonder I never got that many messages

Stubborn you need to hold a selfie stick with your cleavage to get the shot.

How do you pout and smile at the same time?

'Flirty face'??

I don't have a flirty face I find it hard enough to flirt! My facial expression can be the opposite of how I feel, I even say no when I mean yes... damn health issue.

I have a rearranged date, seemed more complicated than it could have been but the other two are keen to meet. This didn't happen last time I tried OLD and now MrBike has messaged me lots of things that have been very stimulating he's the forerunner. Maybe he'll make me a candle?

I've got to try to go for other dates though as I keep getting pulled into exclusivity, which doesn't then last.

Buckets sorry I don't know the number of dates you're on with Mr decorator. Could he be checking that you want to dtd at somepoint? If you let him know it could be on the cards but when he's proved himself and not looked like a thoughtless git not now, perhaps he'll put effort in?

I think dating luck has more to do with opportunity than a pout. I live in a city with lots of 40 yr olds. It's not surprising that there are a fair amount of men around. If I lived in a rural location I know it would be lower and a pout wouldn't change that.

LanaD Mr Bike for candlestick maker!! Well done on all the dates!

I think in a big city you have more chance of finding a match on OLD however the chances of finding someone in RL can be harder (although I have noticed that my friends who are out canvasing for votes seem to be surrounded by some fit blokes - perhaps its the hobby that one chooses).

Can I join in please? 40 odd and female looking to start OLD shortly. Looking for advice on how to navigate my way around GSoulmates, POF and OKC (although OKC seems to be full of fetishists from what youve all been saying so may swerve that one!)

I live in the Midlands (semi-rural) and Im just wondering what distance you think is workable realistically. 40 miles? 30?

Date 4 with MissCivil tonight, she's coming to stay over at mine.

Things may be slightly awkward with her arm in a cast though.. :)

Rise - I think generally GSM is only good if you're in a large city, not if you're rural. Okc has normal people as well, but people are more open about kinks than on other sites, maybe because the questions encourage it? Pof is the biggest, of course, but there's a lot of crap to wade through.

Distance wise, well that depends on circumstances - transport, whether you're looking to pop round to someone's for a cuppa and a shag or weekends away with someone. I'd try ten or twenty miles and then work your way out.

It's a numbers game so while you want to speak to lots of people, you also want to easily meet people, and it's annoying to travel for an hour to have a coffee with someone dull that you know you don't want to see again.

Hi all well I'm back! I posted a while back re my last partner that I met old that lasted 7 months..he was fab in the beginning and all was great but slowly he became very possessive and moody and it ended a few weeks back after I'd heard for not the 1st time he'd cheated on me. I was gutted and had no trust so now I'm awful.
Anyway I ended up nosing at my pof again, not in the hunt for anyone but just being nosey. Anyway various messages which I wasn't interested in other than 1 that caught my eye. I messaged back and clicked straight away, funny, interesting attentive etc..I was honest though and said maybe it was too soon and came off (he sent me his number & said he hoped I'd text him)..I did!
We went on date 1 a couple of weeks back..I wasnt sure whether to go but also knew if i didn't go I'd always think 'what if'..meal and drinks out, great date, 6 hours and neither of us wanted to leave! He then announced he was off on holiday so asked to see me before he left..
Date 2 the week after at his house, dinner and it was a great night, me rolling home at 1am! Now he's away and I can't wait for him to get back!
Will try and read through this thread later! Good luck to all so far!

Runnymummy ive just spotted your posts through reading and am so sorry. The man I met was seeing someone else when we wer together and I let it go..turns out now I've heard about a few so they don't change.
I'd love to walk in and see his face but tbh doesn't deserve the time wasted on him.
My new date told me he'd come off the site already..I'm too scared to look but so far he seems trustworthy so we will see! Hugs x

Bant good luck with date 4

missmove that date sounds good. I not on OLD at the mo but plan to get back on it after a brief intense few months with someone. Trying to give myself some time but I can't help feel that getting back out there might be the best way to forget the last one! (Also doesn't help that my siblings are very negative about relationships and think I should be single)

lana it would have been date 2 last night. I haven't heard from him since last night so oh well! I've got to get ready soon for my first date with Mr Boxer

Hi RiseandGrind my distance is 12 miles, would ideally like someone in the same town.

bant good luck!

missmove38 that's sounds really good

Biddylee why are they like that? This is the longest I've been single, but my requirements are different now! I have to think of impact to DD now.

allthem My brother is an alcoholic and knows that he can't do a relationship and my sister is incredibly insecure. They both spend a lot of time doing their own thing and happy in their own company. Which is fine. I do my own thing too but I'd like a relationship - nothing full on - bit of company, bit of romance, bit of sex. I have spent time being single. It was fine (although my sis didn't think it was proper single because I was dating, snogging randoms). I need to sort out boundaries with my family - they are too opinionated and I find it difficult to ignore (on some issues).

Hey all waves Been up to my eyes in work this week, had a few likes, (don't like any of them back, of bloody course) and zero messages. Going out for a drink tomorrow night, may try and flirt; it all feels like a massive effort at the mo presents arse for kickage

Hope the dates go well for those of you having them. Have a snog or five for me x

Last night I had a messenger request/friends request. Someone sent me a message on messenger saying 'hi, I saw your profile on POF'. I was pretty anoyed that someone had hunted me down on Facebook just by using my loacation, my picture and my first name. I just wrote back saying 'and you thought you would stalk me on Fb??' . Some people are just crazy.

So the weekends coming up, I have child free time but no date (yet again), I'm starting to enjoy my own company .

Bant I hope your date goes well and the cast doesn't get in the way .

Hi all. Just back from Date 3 with a guy, and just had an uncomfortable experience. I'm a little drunk and not sure what to make of it.
So, we had a meal with wine, and a lovely chat. A very nice evening on the whole, and we got on great. Then he walked me partway home, and we chatted about what we'd do over the weekend. We walked down a kind of woodland path and started snogging, with the odd bit of heavy petting thrown in. I then went to look over the cricket fields, and was standing by a wall. He come up behind me and thrust himself into my (fully clothed!) bottom. All fine. We were both turned on.
Then he stuck his hands into my pants (front). I knew that I had to get home for my kids, and didn't really want to be doing that outdoors anyway.
I asked him to stop, but it took a few asks for him to actually remove his hand.
I was annoyed at this, and he was genuinely horrified at himself and very apologetic.
He said that he had been carried away, and wasn't sure if I was 'teasing'.
I explained that he should have stopped the first time I asked.
He's a lovely bloke, and very remorseful.
What would you make of this?
Thanks all x

I think i quit. I dont know how i manage it but i must be a magnet for all of the numpties. Either that or i only have eyes for numpties.
Sometimes i think it must be me. Only they just come out with these things that are massive red flags...yet they dont see that they are which makes the red flag even bigger!

Hope all the dates go well tonight.
That would annoy me Lovemusic . Someone from my single parents group found me that way on fb and was obviously trying to chat me up. I didn't like it. Felt intrusive.
Wildcard is texting loads. He's nice. That's all I can say really. Seeing him sunday.

No dieu. He should've stopped straight away. Hope you are OK. I wouldn't see him again.

Thanks. I should add that we've never had sex.