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Dating Thread 116 - come join us!

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InfoSec21 · 09/04/2017 19:52

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread.
OP posts:
Dieu · 20/04/2017 12:40

And it seems to be the way that the ones I don't fancy are by far the most keen.

Mumfun · 20/04/2017 13:03

Its the great conundrum for me at present - a lovely guy with a mutual attraction. Didn't find it hard in past but elusive now Gin

And thanks re the turning down after the second date advice - he sent a sweet but odd reply back. Feeling relieved .

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InfoSec21 · 20/04/2017 14:02

I'm sat in that tattoo chair killing myself laughing at that typo about 'PIG'. So funny 😂😂

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lettucesoup · 20/04/2017 14:45

How can you laugh in a tattoo chair?
Intrigued by tattoos.
Do we get to see the final result Infosec?
Unsure if a tattoo will ever be for me.

I am not into pain, usually I take painkillers before eyebrow or other hair removal and always before a smear test. Confused

lettucesoup · 20/04/2017 14:46

Oops TMI perhaps.

Rockluvvindad · 20/04/2017 16:26

So I got the new car and frankly don't seem interested in dating as a result... Grin Used a full tank of petrol just hooning around country lanes over the easter weekend.

Of course my lack of interest in dating has resulted in two new irons. Ms Dancer and I decided that there was a mutual concern about distance to let that go ( I obviously said something right as she called me a true gentleman... ).

I've hidden my profile from GSM and OKC, and will see how the two from POF turn out before hiding that too. If they draw a blank then I'll concentrate on having a great summer and see where things go after that.

And it is easy to laugh whilst having a tattoo... You just need the right material ! Wink

Seems like there's such a lot going on at the moment. Good luck all.

RLD

fortunacookie · 20/04/2017 16:34

That happens to me too where the ones I'm not bothered for really keen on me.

Thought it was going to be that was the way with mr private as I wasn't sure I fancied him but I was very drawn to him and now I fancy pants off him Grin

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InfoSec21 · 20/04/2017 17:02

Can do pics when finished, needs a couple more full days yet 😉☺️

They do hurt but it's totally manageable and funny things are a good distraction ☺️.

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RunnnyMummy · 20/04/2017 18:30

I went to see a friend today. Turns out she knows Mr Gym from years ago. She said he was a nice guy and had seen him recently and they'd said hello and had a short conversation. This was before I met him.
I told her the story of him setting up a date with my fake profile. We had a laugh but I also realised that I don't trust him. And I don't think I can ever really trust him.
But if I stopped seeing him and found someone else then I would probably have the same trust issues again.
I don't know if it's because of problems in my past relationships or just the general lack of trust you can have with online dating.
Does anyone else feel like this sometimes? I'm trying to just enjoy the moment but I'm finding it quite hard.

Princessmollygolly · 20/04/2017 18:47

Got long awaited date 3 with Irish Guy tomorrow, since my wisdom teeth seem to FINALLY be on the mend properly! We're going to a late opening gallery so it's going to be quite a tame date.... well.. we'll see Wink not if date 2 was anything to go by!

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InfoSec21 · 20/04/2017 19:06

Don't know if this will attach but here is a little pic of some work from today. This is a second pass at this big face with white detail added. Just bear in mind it's only one piece of a full arm and it's all still work in progress. Oh and it's fresh obviously, just done today.

Dating Thread 116 - come join us!
OP posts:
fortunacookie · 20/04/2017 19:07

Wow that's fab!

fortunacookie · 20/04/2017 19:09

I think runnnny when u find the right person who you both feel same way then there is no trust issues at all and believe me up until now I've never trusted anyone

Lovemusic33 · 20/04/2017 19:11

Runny I have the same issues with trust due to my last partner (who I met on POF ) cheating and lying Sad, it's made me extra cautious this time and it has made me really fussy, it's almost like I'm looking for a reason not to trust someone, sometimes before I have even met them. I am struggling this time with OLD, I hardly ever reply to messages and have only had a couple dates.

Mr Beard has been a bit cold this week, I can see he has been on whatsapp but he hasn't opened my message (I know, I know, whatsapp drives me crazy) but when he does message he still talks about meeting and seems keen, I have noticed he has been on POF quite a bit so maybe he's talking to someone else. I haven't really got any other irons at the moment. Had a match on Tinder, he messaged me saying 'why did you match me?' So I read his profile which mentions a YouTube video about making the best hot chocolate so I replied with 'I was hoping to find out how you make the perfect hot chocolate??' He then ipunmatched me.

LanaDReye · 20/04/2017 19:32

Runny and Love I'm not feeling confident about dating and trusting either. My exH cheated on me over a year ago (now divorced) and all the men I've dated so far have ultimately left me feeling let down.

I'm not sure if I want to date now or not. I would like to chat with men but dating feels like hard work!

Mintychoc1 · 20/04/2017 19:32

info I'm not a big fan of tattoos so maybe I shouldn't comment, but am I the only person who would find this image intimidating? A picture of a beautiful woman (brilliant tattoo by the way, obviously a good artist) so visible on a partner would make me feel inadequate every time I looked at it. It would say "this is my idea of beauty, and I feel it so strongly I've had it tattooed on, and anything less beautiful than this is just not good enough for me". Is it a particular person or just a random gorgeous woman?

Maybe I just have low self esteem!

Farontothemaddingcrowd · 20/04/2017 19:35

I think the right person can help you overcome trust issues. Takes a lot of time and patience.
Staying in a hotel with wildcard this weekend so I am probably going to need to cancel my other dates. I hope I like him as much this time. He is super keen.

Chucklecheeksagain · 20/04/2017 19:42

Info I'd go weak at the knees seeing that in person! Amazing art work!

lettucesoup · 20/04/2017 19:45

Infosec that is so amazing!

Lovemusic33 · 20/04/2017 19:57

info loving the art work. I met a man many years ago who had a tattoo of a naked woman covering most of his back, it's wasn't a sleazy tattoo, very artistic (like one of those naked statues) but he got so much grief from women because of it, he was once asked to leave a swimming pool Shock..

I hope one day I can trust again and find someone who I feel comfortable with, at the moment it feels a long way away. It's hard to trust when you have been cheated on buy someone who you gave your trust too.

Farontothemaddingcrowd · 20/04/2017 20:16

That is a beautiful tattoo info.

Bant · 20/04/2017 20:34

It is lovely.

I've never liked tattoos personally. It's just never appealed to me. Someone with tattoos all over themselves is making a statement I'll never understand.

I'm trying to set up date 5 with MissCivil, given that date 4 was at A&E for her wrist (I offered to go and she asked if that was okay) - and it would be nice to go out and do stuff. We're talking all day every day on whatsapp though.

I'm not bothering with trying to meet anyone else. MC is funny and clever. I'm still not completely sure i fancy her, but.. I'm impressed.

Mangoandpassionfruit · 20/04/2017 20:38

Wow info I'm not into tattoos but that's beautiful.

Runny it's pants, I don't know if you ever will trust because you'll always be checking. It's a bit of a mare. Sorry nothing more helpful to add. I guess just have to go with your gut instinct

Farontothemaddingcrowd · 20/04/2017 20:41

Miss Civil sounds lovely Bant.
I'm nervous about seeing wildcard tomorrow and spending so much time with him. But I am excited too. Hopefully it'll go well.

UpYerGansey · 20/04/2017 20:46

Has anyone heard from our poster who was going off on holiday to a mystery destination with her guy (that she was a bit unsure of at the last minute??) Confused
Hope all went well?!!