Dating Thread 116 - come join us!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

Farontothemaddingcrowd Looking good. (Lovely streaks.) Have fun!

Thanks pringle. Part of me can't be bothered to go but those are often the best dates

pringlecat sounds like a great experience and good for the soul. I am keeping my mind open about age/type (that is once I go back to dating). How much younger was he?

In the mean time I have been busy window shopping until the time comes for some considered bidding on the dating equivalent of ebay.

I chatted to a random man on the train though the conversation dropped after I said I'd probably not move out of London (did I hit a dealbreaker??? ).

So he texted me an hour ago (I held out on texting first! Phew) and he seems keen to set up date 3. Phew!

Biddylee Oh, that's a question. I reckon about 5 years? I hope not more, but it could be more. But it puts him on the other side of 30, which is a bigger deal than the difference itself. My experience is that most men change at 30 and I can't be bothered spending time with them on the other side because you don't know what you've going to get when they come over the line to join you.

Yes, keep your mind open. I would never have entertained the idea of someone like him, but there is no arguing with those moves! I feel much more confident in myself.

PS Good on you for refusing to leave. This is the best bloody city in the world. I cannot stand all these "escape to the country" types. Why are they even here?

Princessmollygolly Ooh, I'm pleased for you. You can relax now, you know he still likes you! Have fun on date 3 when it comes.

Yay really pleased he texted princess. See don't you feel better that he texted you! Now you know he's really interested.

pringlecat Before Christmas I caught up with a guy who is 14 years younger than me (he's just turned 30) - he is more sensible that my peers and in some ways more together. Although I probably wouldn't date someone that young, I have decided I am more interest in a wider age range - my most recent ex was 46 with more baggage than the warehouse holding Samsonite stock - so it's swings and roundabouts...

I feel quite excited at the idea of not being so prescriptive about what I go for.

Am off out tonight catching up with my friend who is in her late 20s (hopefully she won't tell everyone I'm old enough to be her mum like she did a couple of years ago ) and I will practice my chatting skills.

Farontothemadding i totally agree that the dates you have lowest expectations of/nearly cancel oddly turn up to be the good ones!! Enjoy

Thanks all- yes it's really nice to get that reassurance I'm so glad I didn't text first. And the museum he suggested for our date 3 is on a very niche subject we chatted about back on date 2 at the beginning of the week so he clearly did his research! Always nice...

hi all, can I join?

I'm quite recently single after a slightly mad relationship which lasted on/off for a year. (met online) but decided I need to move on from him.

I have a question: I had one date with a guy who then went away for a week and a half. I did message him while he was away and he said we'd arrange a second date when he gets back. He messaged this morning to say he was just back, but no suggestion of a second date. Should I wait for him to suggest something? (he wouldn't message me if he didn't want to see me, would he?!). I did really click with him, but don't want to seem too keen....

In the meantime, I've had a flurry of activity this morning and have arranged a date for tomorrow and one for Monday. (had been planning to spend this weekend with the other guy so am very available).

There seems to be a lot of success on this thread at the moment - I hope it rubs off on me!

Biddylee Yes, the advantage of younger is the smaller likelihood of baggage. Have fun later catching up. Being able to sustain a conversation with someone from OLD is an art - just catching up with an old friend will be good practice, I'm sure.

I had a good chat with a guy on Bumble recently then it tapered off. He messaged me again yesterday and I can't be bothered to reply. You know when you just lose the energy?

Dating seems to be about moments. You have a really good moment, then life happens, then you can't get that moment back.

AnnaNimmity I'd suggest something casually but not push it. It lets him know you're still open to the idea of meeting up.

There does seem to be a lot of good activity going on, I think it's spring kicking in.
Well I deleted all my dating apps before going on holiday and had two warm irons. One I had 1 date with before I went away but then holidays clashed and haven't seen him for 3 weeks few texts in between. Suppose to have date with him tonight which he just cancelled as I broke my arm before my holiday but only had it ported yesterday due to flying. His excuse was he didn't think I'd be up to much with a broken arm! I've just done a two week holiday with 3 kids single handed ffs!!! Said no worries
He then tells me he's come off tinder as can't be arsed with it all, wished him luck but kind of want to rant at him to make myself feel better but walking away from that one with my head held up high!

Time to reinstall the apps and enjoy my weekend of been fresh meat 😂

Date is going well. I'll call him Mr property developer

He's asked to see me again. I did like him. So that means I'm at date 2 with him and date 3 with M&S so far.

Date 2 with MissCivil went well too. Lots of flirting, a kiss, wandering around town talking rubbish and laughing a lot.

Had to head home after a few hours, but possibly I'll see her again tomorrow - she's rearranging things with a friend

I had a coffee date this afternoon. Again, a lovely guy but not for me. He was quite the talker and left me feeling bit exhausted to be honest.

I'm messaging someone else and it looks like we will probably meet next week. I've also sent a message to a mutual like on OKCupid.

I've come off Tinder for the time being as I'm just not finding anyone with potential there. I'm sticking with OKCupid and Happn for the time being.

Yes I'm not a tinder fan. I love bumble and okc. If you are exhausted it's a good sign it's not right.
Yay bant! Sounds promising.

Spending bank holiday Monday with Irish Guy (unsure whether it is a bit shameless to comment I am child free Sunday night and could start the date early?!?)

Do it princess

He won't say no

Haha madding, I don't want to be too full on though!? I don't know if date 3 should be such a long one? (We already dtd though and it was )

Just say 'I'm actually free Sunday if you fancy an easter drink. If not, I'll look forward to seeing you Monday!'
I slept with pastry prancer on date 3 and had a very very long date. It didn't put him off at all. Unfortunately it put me off, but that's another story.

Quiet on here at the moment.

I've got date three with MissCivil this afternoon. She's coming over to mine for a cuppa.

I think she's checking I live alone :)

Bant glad it's going well.

I think a lot of people are away for the weekend. My two potential dates have said that.

Things seem to be going really well for a few of you lately. Its giving me hope as i was slowly losing it.
The one i have been talking to has gone silent on me from last night. We were planning on a possible meet today but nothing was set in stone.
The other one (old friend) just keeps asking if im ready for a fwb yet ha. Its tempting at times but i couldnt.

Yes, thread is quiet atm! Hope everyone is having a good Easter!
So got my date with Irish Guy on Monday and it'll actually be our first daytime date (and I can't drink anything because I'm on antibiotics) so also first date sans alcohol. I think this is actually a v good thing as by date 3 I want to see if I actually could see it turning it anything. He's not the best texter but I've got to keep reminding myself that I've only "known" him less than 2 weeks! Hard not to over invest as he is quite gorgeous and very funny, and the sex was too good
Got a couple more irons on the fire just in case. Let's call them Scot and MrDoctor. Hopefully will meet one or both of them next week!