social services took my beautiful children

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it really is not fair to do it to someone who absolutely loves and adores them they really need me and are probably so unhappy i am so done with life and really really want them with me

Op- when the Police came, if you were under the influence of drugs or alcohol, it's possible that they felt it just wasn't safe to leave the children with you at that time.
I hope things get better for you all.

OP. Why don't you write a step by step narrative of the events.
It's understandable but your posts aren't informative and so aren't helpful. If you provide the information that posters need so they can help this can go a lot smoother.
When did this happen?
The reality is we don't know you. You could be a fantastic mother and this all be a horrible misunderstanding or you could be awful and it's a mercy that you're children have been taken to safety.
If you tell us what happened you can get help.

I think the point the op is trying to make is the police and ss were not informative or helpful.

We are taking your children but the reason we are taking them is a secret.

Have I got that right op?

Okay, hope today you get some more answers first of all, it's every parent's worst nightmare.

Secondly no, you don't always get a warning, if the children are believed to be at immediate risk of physical or sexual abuse they will be removed immediately for their protection. Removal from the home is a last resort, and not one taken lightly.

I think posters are just confused as they want to help, but can't really understand from your posts what has happened OP, you are understandably very upset but that has made the information a little muddled.

It's not possible that the reason was a secret. She may have been told 'child has disclosed that he has been harmed' but without details of the alleged offence, but they can't just take them with no explanation.

Well apart from the allegations that can't be disclosed I.E a secret

Gosh some people are utterly vile to others in clear shock.

OK, users posts are pretty rambling but someone has just taken her 3 children and she doesn't know why.
Loads of people telling her she must be wrong about how it happened is just abhorrent.

Sometimes there are emergency care plans. All parents get told is the children are being taken for their safety whilst an investigation takes place. Like any investigation details are kept secret so anyone involved doesn't get a chance to form their 'story' in advance.

I hope you et some answers soon. As difficult as this is and as angry as you are you need to take deep breaths and co operate, speak clearly without swearing and ask what you can do to work with SS for your children's safe return.

Good advice from youarenot ,
To the people having a go at op, this isn't the place or time. She has come here out of desperation and is in a vulnerable place, shame on you all.

Op as hard as it may seem keep calm, portray a calm person when you speak to ss and as pp said ask what you can do to help their safe return.
Hope your ok op x

Try to turn it into a positive thing. Your son is being helped for something pretty serious that you don't know about. You believe it isn't your fault but now whatever it is, be it a false allegation or not, his problems will be investigated and he will get help. If you aren't involved then this will soon become clear to ss and they will be returned. But the important thing to remember is that your son is being helped. This is A GOOD THING although it doesn't seem like it at the moment. Your role in helping your son is to be as cooperative and helpful with ss as possible so that he gets the help he needs and you get your children back asap.

Ask any Judge worth their salt and most would have been dragged out of their bed at stupid o clock at night at least once to make an emergency protection order.

^OK, users posts are pretty rambling but someone has just taken her 3 children and she doesn't know why.
Loads of people telling her she must be wrong about how it happened is just abhorrent.^

Pretty much what youarenotkiddingme said. The OP is bound to not be thinking straight.

I know of someone this happened to, with the exception that ss were already involved, just finished bathing the children one evening when ss turned up at the house unannounced with police. It was completely unexpected as they'd been nothing but co-operative with ss but they obviously still felt/had their reasons that what they were doing simply wasn't enough.

OP. You've had some great advice on here. The most important things to remember is to keep calm and collected when talking to ss and the police and any other relevant authorities. Get some support in real life by people you know you can trust, get some legal advice, there are some brilliant family solicitors that deal with this sort of thing everyday, and most importantly, keep going for your children.

Hope you start getting some answers soon OP.

I am a bit confused. Why hasn't anyone been arrested and questioned? Either OP, her partner, someone else?
Her eldest ds is at possibly risk of significant harm? So much so that all 3 children need to be removed , whilst an investigation is conducted.

From whom? Who is ds1 at risk from? It must be OP or her dp, surely?

OP there's some good advice from p.o.. I know howshicking and cruel this is BUT if one of the children has disclosed something to the authorities it needs to be investigated. Work with these ppl to get your DC home safely. As another pp said, there may be some very uncomfortable truths and changed to be made. You can do this & I wish you & your children the best of outcomes.

^I am a bit confused. Why hasn't anyone been arrested and questioned? Either OP, her partner, someone else?
Her eldest ds is at possibly risk of significant harm? So much so that all 3 children need to be removed , whilst an investigation is conducted.^

They don't necessarily have to be. The woman I knew of that this happened to had all her children removed.

No arrests were made.

OP

The majority of the responses on this thread really sickens me to the core.

A person has posted who must surely be at her lowest ebb and in shock at what has happened and you lot gang up on her. Some of you are bullies and not being helpful to the OP. She posted for support, not admonishment.

We don't know that someone hasn't been arrested i.e the partner. As OP isn't in the right frame of mind to disclose this information.

I think you are reading a different thread, devil.

No one has condemned the OP. Most people are empathising, offering an idea of the likely scenario without wanting to be misleading, based on, understandably limited information and encouraging OP to listen to what the authorities have to say and seek RL support.

The majority of the responses on this thread really sickens me to the core.

I don't really anything all that terrible on the thread tbh. There's the odd arsey comment but people are simply telling the truth when they say that children aren't taken away for no reason. That reason isn't necessarily that the OP has abused them, but nonetheless there is a reason somewhere.

You'll struggle to find anyone whose children are removed who will admit that it was justified, so even if she had loads of warnings she would still feel that it was out of the blue. The one person who I know very very well (a relative) whose children were removed had social services intervention for about four years before it finally happened. Ironically they had given her so many final warnings but then gave her one more chance that when they finally removed them she couldn't believe it and felt she hadn't been warned.

Ha someone made a call impersonating your DS? A school bully perhaps?

Ha someone made a call impersonating your DS? A school bully perhaps?

That's really unlikely but easily discovered if so.

The suggestions of someone impersonating the ds or the ds making up an allegation for attention don't really stand up to scrutiny.

If the average eleven year old made a false allegation they'd be likely to retract it fairly quickly because going into emergency foster care with strangers would be far more terrifying than admitting to people that they'd got carried away looking for attention.

I just want to reiterate what pp's have said. Your children are safe for now and hopefully things will be clearer tomorrow. If you need to keep talking to work things around in your head then please do so.

Not all of us are so judgy

I find it really wierd that a small child has been calling childline for over a week and you have no idea why?

None of the story adds up.

I really wish op had just told us when it had happened. That would have made things much clearer.

If you're still out there user I hope you are ok this morning 💐

It's not really helpful to ask for details, because as soon as the case goes before the courts the OP won't be able to discuss the details anyway.

I'm sorry you've had such a shock, user. I can't imagine what it must be like to find out in this way that your child has been disclosing something that is so serious. I hope your family gets the help that is needed and that the best outcome is found for you all.

I hope that you will be given the support you need to make any difficult decisions you need to make, and that you will find the strength to make them when the time comes.