Dh has died - the MN Aunties are helping me keep on

[JuanPotatoTwo]

New thread, not very imaginative title sorry! I can't remember how to link - having a blank moment.

And your lovely DD to be thinking of me. Give her a hug from me

Evening Juan. I'm smiling at you telling magi I'm 'young and innocent'. I wish... the 'young' bit, anyway But I promise not to tread on anyone's toes re Pot, we can't be having any fights on here, now can we?

Sorry to hear DD and DS2 have had a row today, it's so frustrating when you feel you should mediate but can't get it right. Maybe in a way it's kind of healthy they've had a row, it might have helped them to let off a bit of steam? Depends what it was about of course. Hope the atmosphere doesn't last too long.

If it helps, they sound like my DS2 & DS3 (also 22 & 19) who fight like cat & dog at times. Yesterday they had a silly row over whose turn it was to empty the dishwasher. I'm afraid I just lost patience and told them I didn't care whose turn it was, stop bickering and one of you just bloody do it. They did, they don't like it when I get cross

Happy birthday Selena and well done your DH.

Chasing I'm popping over to your thread in a minute.

Hello and evening Juan - been out tonight, so just catching up.
I actually think it is a good sign that you DD and DS have argued. It means they are relaxing into their 'normal' behavior.
Happy Birthday Selena
Thoughts and prayers for you both xx

Oh bless you - you must all be finding it so hard. DS1 sounds lovely

Just sending you a hug too Squirrel

Morning Juan hope you slept.
I am due to go up to my allotment, and it has started to rain, so here I am instead .
nevertheless, thinking of you xx

I'm hoping you are having a nice Saturday.
I managed to get to my allotment, not much rain in the end. I am now frittering around and doing crotcheting and MN'ing along with a puttering around - a gentle Saturday afternoon :)
Thoughts and prayers to you Juan

Thank you for the birthday wishes, yesterday was a good day for me and 5 minutes of rain early evening produced a beautiful rainbow which felt - supportive? I shared it on WhatsApp (won't do Facebook) and it was lovely to read the replies. And today DH's pain has been mainly 6, a good drop from 8-10.

I hope you've had a reasonable day todayJuan and Squirrel?

Just flying in and out tonight Aunties. Woke up with migraine this morning. Tried to do some stuff this morning but gave up and have spent the day alternating between being sick and lying in the dark :(. Past experience tells me I prob have another 1-2 days of the same to look forward to. Haven't had one for a while now.

Hope you're all well. x

Checking in - hope you get over the migraine ASAP.

You don't have to post if you are feeling shite - just wait till you feel better again.

We'll keep an eye on the thread.

Much love winging your way from me....

(((xxx)))

Much sympathy, migraines are horrible. Hope you feel better soon x

Poor Juan, hope your migraine calms down. Take care of yourself and keep your fluid levels topped up xxx

Sorry about the migrane, they are horrible. Hope you get over it soon.

take care *Juan^ hope it sorts itself out sooner rather than later - too much stress I suspect .
xx

Hope you feel better today.

just popping head around the door- hope you are recovering okay xx

Keeping an eye...............

My love

(((xxx)))

Hope the migraine fucks off sharpish.

I used to pop an asprin in a full fat Coke, sometimes shifted it sometimes didn't.

Much Love

thoughts and prayers xx
((hugs))

Hope you'll be feeling better tomorrow X

I hope you are feeling a bit better today Juan and that you rested over the past couple of days. Xx

Hope your migraine is subsiding now Juan.

(Am at asprin in coke! I used to suffer a lot from migraine, and I used to drink a lot of coke. I cut out the coke completely, drink very little caffeine from other sources, and rarely have a migraine now).

Have been missing John a lot this weekend, and putting down my experiences on my thread - I read it back last week and cried buckets over his last couple of months. I wonder if I'll read it back in the future, coupled with the time after his death.

Morning lovely Aunties, thank you for keeping an eye on me. Migraine mostly gone now but best part of two days in bed. Such a waste of time. Thank you for the well wishes.

Selena how are things? squirrels I'm sorry you're missing John, it's so very hard isn't it? I don't know if weekends are particularly bad for you? They are for me because, in effect, Mark died over the course of a weekend. I think and hope your thread, all of it, will bring you some sort of relief in the future, if not actual comfort. It will be good to have a record of what happened, how you felt at the time and to read the messages of support. I haven't been able to read back mine yet - in fact every time I see the title it gives me a sort of split second minute of recalling how I felt on that awful day. But I'm glad it's there and I'm fairly sure re-reading it in the future will be helpful.

I cried my eyes out (again) this morning. I charged Mark's phone up for some reason. Of course there were missed calls, voicemails and texts. Just scanning briefly showed most of them were sales calls or the like so I didn't read or listen. But one text had been received from a friend of ours after Mark had died. Oh it was so sad - friend said he knew Mark would never read these words but he wanted him to know how much Mark had meant to him, how he felt cheated and that he wished he'd died, not Mark, how Mark was the only person he felt he could be himself with, how he promised to look out for us etc. I hadn't realised this particular friend felt so strongly - I'm pretty sure Mark didn't either - friend being a no-nonsense outspoken Aussie. Really choked me.

That is lovely, and sad Juan - hardly surprising it made you cry. I still cry sometimes about both my DF and DM -usually a lovely reminiscence rather than a sad one. .
Don't see being in bed ill as a waste of time. In some respects, I think it may be a way your mind is dealing with the stress.
thoughts and prayers xx

What a beautiful text message Mark's friend sent him. That's really touching.

I was very pleased to see your post today and that you did manage to rest up. You mustn't tell yourself off for having a couple of duvet days, I reckon you'll feel a bit brighter for having had the rest, even though it was enforced by a migraine.

Do you have any thoughts around what you will do over the Easter break? It might be good to plan something specific, so you have something to focus on, even a trip to the cinema or an afternoon tea. It will lift your spirits to get out in the sunshine, I think the holiday weekend will be OK weather wise. xx