Dh has died - the MN Aunties are helping me keep on

[JuanPotatoTwo]

New thread, not very imaginative title sorry! I can't remember how to link - having a blank moment.

'Tis OK, been 15 years now...

Hope eyes survives.

I was PetallyTyrants. Not one for wise words (I leave that to your other aunties!) but I have managed to do a couple of links for you

Sudocrem is magic stuff if you can bear to rock the Adam Ant look until tomorrow, or maybe a slice of cucumber or a cold tea bag might be soothing?

I totally understand magi's sacrifice, but seeing PFGD will be worth it. I'm missing the first week of the Giro d'Italia cycling race to see family abroad, but unfortunately I don't have a PFGD to make it worthwhile.

Juan - It's leg of lamb. roasties, peas & carrots, redcurrant jelly, mint sauce gravy & meringue bombe with fruit compost compote.

Rang the family today & for the first time PFGC came on the phone & said 'Allo, Granny. SO clever & she's not quite 2 years old yet. Without a doubt an Einstein in the making or if not that a world leader, famous artist, scientific inventor...........

Oh you did anna, you were very helpful on the link front!

Drama - cucumber is a good idea, I'd forgotten about that. The teen magazines of my youth were always suggesting that, and the cold teabags thing. Ds2 had a good idea I thought - he said to put two dessert spoons in the freezer and then put them against my eyes!

Magi, tomorrow's food sounds lovely. And I'm perfectly sure PFGD will be at the very least md of ICI, or head of the UN - or perhaps a tennis player of such skill that the Williams sisters will be looking to her for coaching.

evening all! - may as ell nick that :)
Sorry been awol tonight - busy doing a somewhat complicated crotchet square, but its finished now.
You really don't need to try to like gardening - I think you either do or don't.
I wouls also suggest cold flannel, soaked in ice water if you can bear it. , but poor you ,< ouch>
magi - GC are so wonderful- when they cuddle up and lean into your shoulder, all trust , is worth the world, even the first week of Wimbledon. All the best games start after the first weekend :)
a meringue bombe ? sounds intriguing. I made some old friends smile last year - I did a 70's retro dinner menu, and that included baked alaska - I had forgotten how good it is!

Evening, just popping by after a long day at work. Sorry it's hard some/most days but it will get easier I promise. You're doing better than you think, no matter how many tears are shed

My DGS(3) is staying out with his mum at her cousins tonight so I can actually have a lie in. He usually gets up before 7am and hits the noisy button immediately! Of course he is a genius

I was going to suggest a tea leaf poultice juan I am now sounding like my Granny, but it did work for me as a child when I was sufferingg from a nettle burn.

I admire your forée into gardening if it isn't your thing!

Morning ,
hope you had a restful night Juan
lovely and sunny here , though that was not what was forecast.
need to do a bit as family arriving after lunch , cake to make and a tidy up....
Will pop by later
wishing everyone as good a day as possible

Morning everyone,

Juan and Chasing hope today isn't too tough for you both, the firsts can be quite hard

I refused to buy eggs for my DD's they got an absolute load of family and friends, I ended up donating some. DD2 (DD1 is out at a friends) seems happy with a few bits of craft stuff.

Morning everyone.
I fell asleep on the sofa last night then had to make myself go to bed when I woke up - I hate that and if I used to drift off John used to stop me and tell me to go to bed, and I'd get stroppy with him if I was very tired, but he'd never just leave me and would come to bed with me.
I'm very very lonely atm.

Chasing - would it ease your loneliness a bit if your sons were with you more? Would your exH be amenable to that in the short term?

(Apologies if I'm speaking out of turn)

(((Squirrels)))) ive got something in my eye ...

((Hugs to juan and squirrels)) for Easter (or Springtime and renewed hope if thats a more appropriate message) x

It might do, but equally I think I need the breathing space from them to be able to miss John. And I think it's good for them to have the normality of their dad's as well.
They were meant to be with him for the 1st week of the hols and me for the 2nd, but we swapped it a bit following John's death so that the hols were more split up between us rather than a longer period.
So he had them the 1st weekend, back with me Mon & Tues, away with him Wed & Thurs, back with me for funeral Fri, with him Sat & Sun, away with me Mon - Fri, with him Sat & Sun and back tonight and with me Mon & Tue then back to school Wed.
In term time they are with him 1 weeknight (he collects from school and drops back in the morning) and a 24 hour period every weekend (alternating Fri/Sat and Sat/Sun).
So in reality it's never very long between having them here.
And it's a routine we are all used to, we split up 9 years ago and it's not really varied.
They are going away for the 1st week of the summer holidays and that's going to be hard, plus maybe a week scout trip in the summer. But that feels a long way off at the moment.

Morning everyone. Squirrels I'm so sorry you feel lonely, it's shit isn't it? I'm really living the "you can be lonely in a crowd" thing these days. If it helps you at all, you are pretty often in my thoughts - as in several times a day.

Daisychain - umm, something in my eye too.
Juan - yeah, and you in mine. The Internet and faceless connections is a VERY strange thing.

Hallo - big hugs for Pesky & Squirrels. My DH does exactly the same thing of waking me up & I react just like you, Squirrels. I had a lump in my throat when I read that.

Love the idea of PFGD being a tennis player - good chance for her living in France as there are courts everywhere.

Thinking of you today & hope it goes as well as it can.

(((xxx)))

How is your face today Juan?

Friends have invited me to Easter lunch, which is lovely. What do I take??? They only invited me yesterday and I haven't had chance to get anything. We have lots of wine in the house, but I don't drink and have no idea what's good/bad/indifferent - although it will all be good apart from the £10 meal deal bottles I've picked up occasionally, as John liked his wine. Red or white with lamb?

Most people would go for red with lamb. squirrels.

Great thank you Medi, we have more red as John preferred that, we'll and pudding wine.
Now I just have to make sure I don't take the £££ bottle (!!!! OMFG - for wine???) that senior partner gave him last summer just after he came out of hospital.

You'll have to find an occasion to drink the £££ bottle sometime!!

Hope you enjoy your meal Chasing, I think keeping your kids in a routine is quite sensible and very selfless of you.

It must be so hard, I can't begin to imagine losing a spouse

Will be thinking of you both today.

I've just remembered my dream - you know how they suddenly come back to you? Mark and I were lying together and he had his arm around my shoulders. I was thinking (in my dream) how good it was to be held and how safe I felt and how much I'd missed his touch :(. Now I'm crying too.

Squirrels and everyone else, I hope you have lovely Easter lunches/dinners. And I'd also say red wine with lamb.

Oh Juan