"Surrendering" to your femininity... Have you done this/ do you do this?

[MoreSacredDance]

Name change because this could be a bit "outing" put together with some other posts of mine.

My husband and I are currently going through the toughest period of our marriage. I am hopeful and positive though, because we both love each other very much and want to stay together.

In short, he feels emasculated and this has filtered into lots of different parts of our relationship, including a much reduced sex life. I accept that my behaviour have led to or worsened this. My job means I have to be strong, confident and in control. I have probably attempted to use a lot of the "tools" I employ to succeed at work within our marriage, and that has NOT worked well. I see that now.

I watched John Wineland's "What Men Crave" ten minute talk and it was like a lightbulb moment. My husband has actually told me all these things, just in different ways that I didn't take time to listen to and understand.

I don't think it's a bad thing for a husband to want to lead or feel like a hero or all those other cheesy things. Especially if that is what he feels is missing in his marriage. I think it IS possible for me to surrender to my femininity while still being strong, assured and confident. Submission and surrender are different in my eyes now. Deep down, I actually do want to surrender at times as I am exhausted from constantly fighting to control every little thing.

But how do I do this? Has anyone else recognised this and actively made this change? I'm not even sure where to start in a practical sense.

The OP and all her later posts were about her, her feelings, her interpretations, and her 'revelation' when watching this sexist crap. She didn't say her husband agrees with it or even whether he had watched it

This thread has the hallmarks of fishing for book fodder written all over it

It'll be a pretty shit book.

It'll be a pretty shit book

About as good as video was

This is actually kind of funny. Anyone who thought Mumsnet was a massive untapped resource of submissive, cock worshipping slaves in waiting hasn't spent much time here. The naivety is almost endearing. This is the site that gave the world Penis Beaker and the term "cocklodger".

...didn't wankbadger come from here too?

OP have you thought through what you crave?

Perhaps you'd like him to be naturally more confident and assertive, better organised, more reliable, less insecure. Perhaps you'd like him to be a bit heroic, rather than demanding to be treated like one when he's not.

If you really wanted him to change, could he? Likely not. No more than you can.

So the sensible thing to do rather than swallow a pile of misogynist stereotypical gender cack and try and be someone you're not, is just to acknowledge that you're very different people and that perhaps this relationship doesn't work.

Oh bollocks. This post will probably get deleted for troll hunting but is it yet another one of those UK Punter twats we made fun of last week, trying to get us to watch the video and fall on the floor with our legs in the air? They're fucking everywhere at the moment.

TBH, when I first read the OP I assumed it was John Wineland trying to flog a book. Turns out he hasn't written one. So then I thought I'd give OP the benefit of the doubt. But your theory is plausible.

I actually am a genuine sub and it's making me want to nail his balls to a spanking horse

That's the spirit