I'm in my late forties, divorced, one dd in her teens.
Ive been seeing someone for two years now. He's significantly younger than me but we get on well.
However when we talk about our future I'm not sure I can envisage spending the rest of my life with him. He wants to know that I will and I've been saying I do because I love him, but the truth is it's not easy.
It's very difficult to explain. He's very quiet, doesn't really show enthusiasm or passion. He doesn't like to go out so we spend all our evenings in watching TV.
I don't mind mostly, I don't really like pubs or clubs. I do like to go shopping or out for a meal and on days out though. I feel sad we can't do that together.
However I also feel there's something missing. I want someone to look after me .. he says he does, but I guess I mean in a different way .. hard to explain really. I miss passion, wild kissing, I miss going on outings or on holiday. I can do this alone or with dd, but then he feels sad that I'm doing things without him.
When he's here I often look forward to time alone, but the few times we've split up (I've finished with him a few times over trival things, although they didn't seem it at the time) I feel lonely and miss him and we make up again.
Sorry, this all sounds clumsy .. it's difficult to explain. I don't know what to do.
I've tried to explain but then he feels very hurt and says he can't change.
He is a really lovely gentle man and I will never find someone so lovely again. He loves me very much. I love him too, but I'm not sure it's enough.
I don't really know what I'm asking for, just advice I guess. I don't want to hurt him and I do love him.
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Leavemealonepls · 20/03/2017 05:22
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