Been on my own for 19 years. Need advice...

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I have been on my own 19 years now... I live in a remote part of the Country. I have tried online dating sites, joined clubs, walking in the countryside (safe here). Joined local fb groups. Trouble is there are no men and when they are no interest from my or their side. My Son has his own Family now and my family member. Sometimes it doesn't bother me and I go from day to day quite laid back and happy. I have tried everything and looked at situations from different angles. I have been actively looking then not for long stetches. It doesn't enter my mind. Any tips... part of me is still hoping. Thanx.

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So 19 years of effort has produced zilch. What happens when you don't make an effort? Just merely trying to put another slant on this, maybe it is putting the effort in, that is causing the OP discomfort. Perhaps relaxing and letting things take a natural course might help. A nonchalant attitude if you like.

I don't read it as 19 years of effort. A lot of that time would have been raising DC etc so no opportunity for a lot of effort at OLD especially in a rural area. Years can go by in that way - been there :( Seems its become more of an issue recently.
In the end no-one knows if making an effort will definitely make a difference but while waiting to be that lucky person who meets their OH at a bus stop/the dentist/by complete chance one might as well do something towards achieving what you so want. Rather than look back in 10 years and wish you'd done SOMETHING and not been a passive object...

In that time I have had a kidney transplant later an ovarian cyst followed by a full hystertomy.... but when I have been well I have put in effort.

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So that's quite a lot to deal with 1234

I'd suggest you put a profile up on eg POF with recent photos and set it to not deliver messages with less than 100? characters so you don't even see the 'How's you' messages. When you feel like it have a look through some profiles and send a few short messages (with reference to something in their profile) if someone interests you. The rest of the time yr profiles is there & men can message you. The 2 relationships I've had started when someone messaged me at times I hadn't been online for months. Equally something may start from you sending the first message. Try to decide within 2 weeks if you want to meet - don't get carried away online (voice of experience!) because it may not carry over into real life. Assume you'll have to meet 20 people, fewer if yr very lucky :)

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