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[dementedma]

We are a bus load of Babes all battling alcohol and trying to resist, reduce and get our lives back under control. Whatever you have to say, we will have heard it before and no-one will judge you. This is a warm, friendly,supportive place with tough love when needed ( slap round the face with a wet squid called Barrie). Join us here.

You do need to talk to dh if he is encouraging or enabling your drinking. He needs to support you. Personally,I would suggest a reduction to start with, rather than trying to stop totally.

He wants to support me but I'm vile if I have no wine so I guess he buys it to keep me happy

Have you seen the film "When a man loves a woman"
I fear that is us

time welcome, and yes posting is definitely the first step. Take as long as you need to just talk and work out your thoughts around drinking, and the next steps will follow naturally in time!

I've been an idiot tonight. Woke up about 3am with horrendous mouth pain, emergency dentist first thing and dry socket packed (immediate relief thankfully) Have antibiotics to start if it flares up again. Spent all day struggling through lack of sleep and the hangover from a fairly large amount of codeine overnight...and have come home with wine. Which leaves me with one dose of paracetamol if pain kicks in again. And now won't eat, despite good intentions, or stop at two glasses. I know all this so why bother??

Oh and was confused when the dentist asked why I didn't tolerate metronidazole (never had it before, but you really really can't drink on it) until it clicked that I'd registered at a time when I literally couldn't take a night off drinking. Scary thing is I can completely see, looking back, why I would of lied about it

And where, exactly, are we supposed to wash our hands??? The General has a new place to sleep!

Time Just wanted to welcome you aboard (going to sleep in a minute) I hope you will enjoy the support here and will post more fully soon.

Hope everyone else is OK tonight, ma Love that pic

Meant i will post more fully, you already did, my eyes are terrible!

Night all.
I've had some wine. Not the whole bottle!
More tomorrow

Welcome time and hello to all other babes. Sorry for beimg awol today, busy but good day. Goodnight everyone, will catch up tomorrow

Morning all. Loving the picture of the general 😂😂

I've been drinking since Tuesday, I'm ashamed. I have a night out tonight and rugby this afternoon so I've given myself today and tomorrow to relax and drink and I've told dh no wine is to cross that front door until Friday next week. Things like cider I can have one and leave it but I can never leave a bottle without finishing it.

I'm worried about my liver, I want to be around and present for my kids, I want to be happy without using wine to medicate. So this weekend is written off but Monday I'm making sure I'm prepared. I'm meeting a personal trainer and I'm going to the gym. I can do this, I need to do this.

Sorry for the selfish post just needed to write it down as dh just wants me to be happy and he enables my wine habit with this. But you guys won't

Hey to everyone, hope you have a good weekend

just checking in. Have the day pretty much to myself which is fab except it is dreich and horrible so don't fancy going for a walk, doing any gardening, looking for sea glass....and don't really have any money to do anything else to be honest.
Seems a waste of a day not to do something.

Flowerydems
I could have written that post.
Same for me re liver, kids, self medicating and DH who thinks he's being nice by enabling.
I feel much better having finally said all this out loud.

What does everyone do to stop thinking about drinking?
I never drink before 7pm but I think about it all day I'm ashamed to say.

However on days when we eat as a family I find I dont drink as much as I'm full if that makes sense. We cant eat as a family Tuesdays and Thursdays so DH & I eat much later which gives me plenty of time to drink wine while cooking.

Time glad someone else is in the same boat

I don't think about drinking all that much but wine is so normalised from me growing up that I'll start while making supper so go you lasting til 7.

It's just crap feeling like this though

Flowerydems - I'm not that good on a weekend - I start around 3pm when cooking Sunday dinner.

I've sat down with my DH just now and told him about this bus. I've also told him he needs to take my credit & debit cards off me so I cant buy any. I've asked him before and he said I had to take control but I've told him I cant which is why I need him to help.

Dementedma I've suggested to DH I cant just stop so he's going to still buy wine but he'll be in charge

I feel absolutely pathetic but also relieved I have such a great DH.

That's brilliant that you've told your DH Time4Change.

There are other alcohol support services out there, other than AA. I think there's something called SMART recovery?

You'll need to find something else to do at 7pm. When giving something up, you must find something else to replace it, I believe that with every fibre of my being.

When I was battling my nicotine addiction, I taught myself sudoku. I carried pocket sized books around with me. When the cravings hit I would do sudoku for 10 minutes, no matter where and no matter what. It just helped me ride out the craving.

What's your plan for today?

Sorry, I got your name wrong TimeToChange .

not sure. I am running tomorrow morning though so I try to drink less knowing I will struggle if I dont.

I think telling DH he needs to help and him finally getting it is a huge help. I might try the puzzles idea - I have lots of puzzle books for holidays so might make it my 7pm thing instead.
DH also said as nights are getting lighter maybe we can go running together.

Im off to the library now so going to see if anything there to help

Time It’s great you’ve told DH, and I’m glad he’s supportive there might be other alcohol services than AA, maybe google them? Are you planning on giving up straight away or doing it gradually? If you do it gradually you could do it yourself by having one or two drinks less of a night

Hi flowery you sound so positive and proactive good luck!

Ma loving the photo, the General is clearly in charge

Elba how are you feeling? Hope you’ve not been in too much pain overnight

Hello to everyone Lux how is your back?

Had an interview at Tesco yesterday, I have the job (Fri and Sat evenings but chance of overtime) on the checkouts and my induction is Monday, then I start next Friday unless there is overtime available sooner . I weighed in this morning and gained a pound although my eating has been mostly good, I know it is my own fault. Codeine affects it, which I know, so last week when I wasn’t taking co cocodamol I lost, but this week when I’ve taken them like sweeties I’ve gained. If that’s not a sign to stop I don’t know what is

Well done madein
Just checking in, didn't manage any af nights but didn't overdo it either. Back to a big glass of red every night, not good. I need a kick up the arse to start getting fit again. Have put on bloody loads of weight since having DD & you can only use the baby as an excuse for so long. Think I might have stretched that one out so far that it will ping me in my fat face any time now : )

On the plus side, I've had a really nice week and felt very happy. I went out with friends and had 2 glasses of red and a fuck load of water. Could have been much worse without the water.

We have sunshine here, Dawhn Saaaf. '''Tis lovely.

Well done made hello to everyone else,
Can I please have a little selfish moan? Sorry in advance...my delightful young teen is behaving atrociously at the moment, I had no idea that I was quite so stupid and that I know nothing and that I am actually the most horrible person in the world. Nobody warns you that the little bundle placed in your arms that you vow to protect and cherish always can turn into quite such a monster do they? I know it's normal growing up stuff but it's exhausting. Mr Lux has fucked off to the pub and I am stuck in doing laundry (not his, no way) - I hate him right now (quite often truth to be told)

A part of me would like to take my book and go to a different pub and sit quietly reading with a glass of wine, I like that chilled and 'adult' image but I know it's an illusion and it would turn messy.
I am not tempted to drink indoors, the cravings are rare now (others, maybe you can take heart from that as I used to drink rivers)

Hope everyone else is ok, sorry to not namecheck you all, just a fed-up five minutes here - it will pass.

Hi you lit. I kept meaning to pop on during the week but I got sidetracked distracted by parking and MIL threads . 😁
Anyway. The last time I posted I was thinking about drinking a bottle of wine after having a glass. Well, I didn't. I had a bath and watched Dr Strange instead. I'm also starting afresh with C25K and the gym. I think I'm finally beating this virus. Apparently it's called the 100 day virus. 😯 So luxury wise I've done a lovely Avon order. Apparently the salted caramel shower gel is gorgeous so I've gone for that amongst other treats.

Help. Am in free fall again. Had a bottle already. Have 2 really massive interviews for promotions next week. Am meant to be preparing....but instead am wading into a second bottle of wine. Am short and grumpy with children and absolutely hate myself. I feel like locking myself in a room and screaming extremely loudly. Why oh why cant I control this? I was sooo determined to be AF today.

lux that sounds so hard to live with- I admire you! I would love to have children, but not sure I have the resilience to cope with the teenage years...

made great news on the job!!

Predictably I really, really regretted drinking last night. Woke up at 5 in agony, with a lovely hangover too. Nothing but paracetamol seems to work, but obviously that's limited to my four doses. Codeine weirdly doesn't seem to touch it, but combined with a hangover just made me sick and dizzy. So not a great day. Started antibiotics and hoping that something will help- quite literally never had pain like this. It's relentless, and I feel like a wimp. Thought I had a good pain threshold but clearly not!!

swars huge hugs. Will you, realistically, be productive tonight on your preparation? If not can you instead aim for an early night and an early start? Maybe take a shower and clean your teeth as a distraction?