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dementedma · 05/03/2017 17:52

We are a bus load of Babes all battling alcohol and trying to resist, reduce and get our lives back under control. Whatever you have to say, we will have heard it before and no-one will judge you. This is a warm, friendly,supportive place with tough love when needed ( slap round the face with a wet squid called Barrie). Join us here.

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LuxuryWoman2017 · 14/04/2017 09:58

Ma google clothes agency - might be just the thing!

LuxuryWoman2017 · 14/04/2017 09:59

clothesagency.com

Haggisfish · 14/04/2017 10:52

Thanks everyone. I have a sewing project to occupy me tonight. If I can get through dinner without wine, it's a lot easier. It is such a habit to have wine with dinner, though.

dementedma · 14/04/2017 11:07

Ooh, thanks. Will look.
Haggis I have the same problem. The evenings are a real killer

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Todayisanewday75 · 14/04/2017 16:07

OH is going out to a local beer festival and I can't go and not drink so I'm going to be home alone and feeling like I'm missing out and it feels so unfair. Any advice would be gratefully received.

Haggisfish · 14/04/2017 19:41

Can you treat yourself another way? Watch a film you like? Seems a bit mean of him in a way!

CuileanDubh · 14/04/2017 19:52

today I see that as a positive. You have the house to yourself.

Crank up the tunes, order in a veritable feast of a takeaway, face mask on, dance about in your pants, boa optional (all your best moves, mind) or just get a pile of magazines and crisps/dip/super noodles whatever floats yer boat. Or sit on here and chat to us. Smile

ma that frock is lovely. You'll look a right stoater in that xx

dementedma · 14/04/2017 19:59

Think I'll be outbid dubh as still a while to go...

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EllebellyBeeblebrox · 14/04/2017 20:06

Evening ladies I'm old to Mumsnet but new to this thread if you don't mind me tagging along? Need to get my shit together and don't know how or where to start Sad

CuileanDubh · 14/04/2017 20:09

ma did you see there's one for a buy it now/best offer? Sorry haven't read back Blush you might have already said.

CuileanDubh · 14/04/2017 20:10

In the words of Julie Andrews elle let's start at the very beginning....

In you come, grab a pew and tell us a bit aboot herself, xx

CuileanDubh · 14/04/2017 20:11

Yerself. Autocorrect does not love the Doric. Grin

dementedma · 14/04/2017 20:25

Hi Elle
Dubh I'm new to eBay and don't know what you mean. Buy it now? Aaargh, I'm skint. How do I buy it now?

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CuileanDubh · 14/04/2017 20:29

Hang on ma will fire up the battop and link xx

EllebellyBeeblebrox · 14/04/2017 20:30

I feel like an absolute failure. Hating myself this evening and the raging hangover isn't helping. Short version is that I've had chronic depression for years, and trying to alleviate that with booze (beer or wine) has made things a million times worse. Marriage is on the rocks due to my twattish drunken behaviour, and debts. Shouldn't drink on my antidepressants (200mg Sertraline) but I always have, am reckless and irresponsible and often forget large parts of the evening. Feel like I'm constantly trying to fill an empty gap in me. Absolutely loath myself. Have two children who are 3 and 7, they are my world.

CuileanDubh · 14/04/2017 20:35

frock

CuileanDubh · 14/04/2017 20:46

Balls lost that post.

Click make offer, enter amount you're happy wi, they will get back to you if they accept. You can start lowish, best not cheeky low just in case they get the hump, and increase offer as necessary.

Nae sure what your top amount budget wise is, but I've had a couple of bargains making offers. xx

dementedma · 14/04/2017 20:48

Oh, thanks dubh bit skint until payday. Seriously, don't have that spare and the car needs a repair so will have to chance my arm in the auction.
Elle quite a few of us on here on ADs and drinking and it's not great. Coming on here is your first step. Do you have a plan for trying to wrest back some control?

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Elba84 · 14/04/2017 20:56

Elle hi and welcome. I can so relate to the 'trying to fill an empty gap' feeling. You sound so low tonight Sad but just keep posting. It really does help. You said you don't know where to start, but by making that first post you already have.

Sorry for lack of posts- I've yet again lost track of the thread. Been having major wobbles over this whole stupid marathon thing, not helped by problems with my left leg. Totally terrified that I won't be able to do it, and will of just made a total fool of myself by even attempting it. And my default when stressed is to drink too much, smoke too much and not eat. Which is obviously not ideal considering I'm meant to be running a fecking marathon in 9 days time Hmm.

It's too late for tonight Blush, but I need to be af tomorrow to have a decent run on Sunday. Need to post that to make myself accountable somehow.

Lovely dubh you asked about a sponsorship page a few days ago. I do have one, but I'm worried about linking to it here and 'outing' myself. I got a bit freaked out a while back that someone 'knew' me and it stopped me posting for a while. I'm splitting my sponsorship money between MIND and CALM (campaign against living miserably, who work to try to prevent male suicide) so a donation to either of those would be very much appreciated as they are both very significant to me! I have a ballot place not a charity one, which means I don't have to raise a set amount of money so how the money reaches the charity doesn't matter. And thank you- means a lot xxx

CuileanDubh · 14/04/2017 20:59

elle, ah now. Most of us have felt the despair, the shame, the regret, the anger, but look at that fabulous last sentence.

You have two lovely bairns. That's a great positive right there.

Start off wee, don't set yourself an unrealistic target. Half an hour will do to start with, then build from there. If you must have a drink, give your teeth a brush, tastes bogging after that. If that doesn't put you off, make it a spritzer and have a non alcoholic something after. I like Fentimans or Fever Tree drinks.

Stick a face mask on, its hard to drink when you're clarted in clay. Busy your hands, I post all manner of bibble just to keep typing. I knit dishcloths because I can't turn corners to knit socks. Paint your nails. File your feet.

You can do this, you don't have to worry about managing it all of the time. For now, a little triumph is good. And a good thing to build on.

Most of us have the odd slip, but we pick ourselves up and crack on again. We do the best we can, one day at a time.

venus posted a corker of a post a couple of pages back, page 31 I think, have a wee read, xx

CuileanDubh · 14/04/2017 21:04

elba don't you worry my dear, I'm so sorry I didn't think that through when I asked, Blush, what a tattie I am. I will do just that, donate direct, xx

CuileanDubh · 14/04/2017 21:14

elle in fact read through everything. Grin Everybody has a story, everybody offers a hand to hold, everybody has helpful advice, everybody has handy hints.

Don't fret, you have made a very significant start already, xx

ma tit can't hurt, if you get outbid on first frock throw in an offer of £18/£20 on the one linked above and cross yer fingers. As my grunny said, dinna ask, dinna get. Crossing everything for you! xx

dementedma · 14/04/2017 21:18

Is that a different frock then dubh?
Fuck me. I'm confused with this newfangled way of buying things. I apparently bid on a blue dress too which I have now apparently won!!! Sheesh! I haven't a Scooby what I am doing.

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CuileanDubh · 14/04/2017 21:23

tit can't hurt? tit can't hurt?!?

'sake.

And tonight I'm bibbling. Bibbling for all I'm worth. Left work in tears today, not coping. Phoned GP to see if I could start again on ADs, and was seen straight away, (I know, you can only imagine what I sounded like to get an appt that quick). So tonight me and my slow typing will probably seem a bit needy but I know if I have one I will be lost until the house is dry. I just want to feel better, but waking up with a hangover tomorrow wouldn't be a joy.

dementedma · 14/04/2017 21:26

Don't have one dubh my love. Don't do it. Clean your teeth. Go to bed.bite the pillow.cuddle the Terrorist ( her dog, not mad bombing bastard for puzzled newbies).
Phone in sick, get the ADs. Stay with us.

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