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We are a bus load of Babes all battling alcohol and trying to resist, reduce and get our lives back under control. Whatever you have to say, we will have heard it before and no-one will judge you. This is a warm, friendly,supportive place with tough love when needed ( slap round the face with a wet squid called Barrie). Join us here.

thanks flowery, i know i should bit i dont. I still have the memories of before and know what could happen. As soon as i get a proper job i want to move out but on min wage its unlikely. Youre right though, bed. Alarm goes off in just over 8 hrs then servibg the not great british public, so any big decisions can be made in morning. Thanks for being so gentle everyone

Night night made, sleep well lass. See you tomorrow, xx

dubh I used to be able to recite the whole poem The Puddock. "A Puddock sat by the lochan's brim/ and he thocht there wis never a Puddock Iike him..."

Not been around much, too much stuff going on, too many burdens to carry.
Anyway, am going to spend today re-editing my CV. You can only take so many beatings before you have to call it a day. Sadly, this is going to have to apply to some other areas of my life too. ( metaphorical beatings, I mean, in case anyone is worried)

Made hope you are ok today.

Morning my lovelies. I'm sorry to see yesterday didn't pan out well for a few of us.
I stupidly without thinking, sat down after 6 hours gardening and opened the wine and drank 3 glasses in the sun.
I feel absolutely terrible, slept like shite and my breath could slay a dragon.
I'm so disappointed in myself.
I need a bacon sandwich and a run.

This makes me smile. Hope it does the trick for the rest of us.
Here's to a better Sunday.

Morning all,
hope all if us who have a rough evening got some sleep.

I've been up since 5.45am with no regard for the noise I've made, I can barely bring myself to look at Mr Lux, I really think I've come to the end of the road here. Not drinking has made me see my life so much more clearly, and like you ma I think it's time to call it a day. I can't waste the rest of my life on living with Peter Pan who just will not grow up (it's not just the boozing)

It's going to be a beautiful day today - let's hope the sun shines kindly on us all - onwards Babes, onwards.

Thanks lux and dubh I've got virus which son had and he was ill for a month! Gah.
Of course, drinking will DEF help
Not been too bad but need to up the AF days back to 4pw.
dubh I'm going to read and digest and do some googling of this magnificent Doric
Have a good day babes x

lux sorry to read about your H.
Mine currently making huge effort...because I said we'd need to look at divorcing. Sigh. Be kind to you

Oh 42 20 years experience tells me that in our house the huge changes last a week or 2 before everything goes back to normal.
I'm fast heading for 50, I need to get my life back before it's too late, I can't spend the rest of my life miserable and I won't.
Sober, sorted and single is probably the way forward. I have to make some side plans and get a few things sorted but enough is much more than enough.

Ma good luck with the cv writing today

Lux hope you're still making plenty of noise, so sorry you're going through this though. There's nothing worse when you hit that point where you realise things aren't going to change especially when you've put so much effort into yourself.

42 I'll be joining you with Pom poms for 4 af days next week, I'm sick of drinking but I know I won't manage tonight but no wine tonight for me, my belly is struggling with it. A few magners and that's me

I'm away to be top sister in law and attempting to clean sil's couch before I come home to do more packing. Keys tomorrow so I hope it's early

Have a good day babes x

Sober,sorted and single. That sounds bliss....

It will be ma I'm done x

Hi everyone,
I am trying to re-enter the bus via the back stairs after a bit of a stint in the side car.
In January I managed 25 AF days (I was very pleased with that). In Feb, 20. In March, 14. I guess you can spot the trend.....in April only one so far :( I need a good talking to.
Tonight I will not be drinking anything, even though it's another gorgeous and actually hot day today and there's wine and beer in the fridge.

I haven't posted much recently, but have been reading the thread every day. I won't name check as I'll be bound to forget someone, but big waves to you all.

We have a new guinea pig companion for our bereaved girl. She's lovely - white and pale grey with a butterscotch patch on her face and red eyes - and they get along quite happily. Guinea pig equilibrium is restored :)

Hi Grumpy good to see you again, you've done brilliantly, well done.
Drinking won't add to this gorgeous day, enjoy it to the full!

Guinea pigs are so cute!

Hi everyone, so sorry for last night, got a bit messy. Am ok this morning and probably overreacted as got a lift to work and all seems fine

Hey Made no need for sorry! Glad things are better today, hope you get to enjoy the sun after work.

I am Queen of the house today, been sunning myself in the garden, and have now taken over the TV remote to watch rubbish like 'The
Real Housewives of...' fabulous!

I don't think I want to make any dinner tonight, not the law it's my job hey?

Hope everyone else is enjoying the beautiful day

It's cold , grey and windy here. Really disappointed after yesterday's sunshine. Today's job has been pulling the crows nest out of my chimney after it blew down in the winds.

Not particularly warm here either. Saw an agency recruiting for two jobs with same company u serving major restructure. I applied - for the wrong one! So then applied for the right one. So now look fucking stupid and like someone who just applies for anything regardless.
What hope have I got if I can't even get that right?

Every hope Ma you can shrug it off like a boss.

lux also love the housewives. All of them. Brilliant chuddy teev. My favourite was Jill Zarin. Would love her to come back. lux my dear, set your boundaries, give them a time limit and take a leap of faith. xx

ma also have been tackling my cv. Just in case. Sucks arse, doesn't it? I feel too old to stick with the grenades of shit barrelling towards me any more. I love the Puddock. I used to be able to recite Tam O' Shanter, no more though. Can cope with To A Mouse and a few Yeats.

Boss has just texted to see what shift I'm on tomorrow. Would it be rude to ignore it? Will just say I was out of range. Not difficult here. I feel so deflated after Friday. Just seeing his name flash up has given me the dooms.

He said I'm the opposite of my colleague. I'm empathetic, I interact well with the patients and family, but I look for something back where she doesn't. Yes I do. I look for respect and civility in the workplace. Can cope without being included in the chitchat about facebook etc. He said she doesn't interact and can be short with patients, and mutters under her breath to patients and staff which they acknowledge. I know which end of the spectrum is good for me. I'm too old school.

made I don't think you over-reacted, no. You felt how you felt. Glad things are better for you today, xx

I have never, ever done this, but seriously considering asking for my GP to sign me off for a couple of weeks so I can get my strength back. I'm scared that this will affirm that I can't cope, I don't know what to do. Sorry for wittering. As Monday rolls closer I'm dreading going in.

dubh take the time off. I'm considering the same thing but I run the company - cue hollow laugh- so will just go back to a shit storm if I stay off. Plus,I don't want to be stuck in the house all day with dh and depressed dd1. Work is the lesser of two evils.

Dubh lovely one, your health is everything, if you really feel the need for some time and space then you must take it. Sometimes, actually we can't cope not forever, just at that moment, and why should people keep on coping? really? Time to think, rest and recuperate is essential in my humble view. Not easy though, not a bit, but our mental and physical health is really everything.

Those housewives, they never stop glugging back the wine and champagne, I had to turn over as I was developing a thirst. 100 days of no wine people, done it! It is possible. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I could manage that.

100 days, that's brilliant! Calls for a celebration......of the non-alcoholic type :)

Right, time to stop being so blimmin’ selfish. I’ve completely ignored everyone else’s problems.
Lux how did the early morning hoovering go? Sorry dh isn’t being a bit rubbish Definitely not your job (cooking that is). Either order yourself food in or if that’s not an option, have what you fancy – whether that’s prawn crackers, fruit and yogurt, whatever. Or if a shop is open near you, some nice crusty bread, posh cheese/ham, grapes, few chocolates etc. Well done on 100 days!
Dubh I think fighting is the only way, hopefully she reins herself in soon. How are your eyes? Your health is so important, I think being signed off and getting back up to strength is a good idea.
Flowery ooh moisture bomb pom poms, sound gab!
Hello grumpy
Mother of all hangovers today, dry mouth, sicky feeling, slightly snappy with customers, the works. Livened up a bit by midday. Going to the gym tomorrow morning – I will join the police (eventually), I first need to be fit and healthy to be a special or a PCSO and then go from there. So up at 9.45 to go to the gym for half 10 and have time to get home, relax, have food and go to work for 3. Also signed up for an 11 hour shift on Good Friday but it is double time so worth it.

Made so glad you feel more positive today!! Nearly Pom Pom Monday

Lux I'd go get stuff I know he hates but I'm petty 😂 I love real housewives, have you watched the Cheshire one?

I cleaned that suite for 4 hours, came up amazing though, really want to start my own cleaning business so this was step 1