Dating thread 114 - come and join us!

[WavingNotDrowning]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

• ND not ND, in case anyone was wondering what the new acronym was.

FFS bloody phone - NC!

Thanks Spring. I have the same situation with bumble... Spend all my time in London, so tend to swipe during lunch etc... But then when I head back up north at night it is like stepping into the Bumble twilight zone. I sometimes wonder if I get so few matches on Bumble is that by the time people start looking in the evening, I'm now 60 miles north...

Go nuts for the day Spring... Wear your thumb out swiping and lining up some potential irons !

I have a speed date this morning. Chatting with a new iron last night and he suggested meeting. It was either a quick half hour coffee this morning or wait a couple of weeks.
I thought this morning was best and I can get some shopping done after.
He seems very keen though. I'm not so sure. But we'll see.

Good luck Runny hope it goes well... 😊

See I feel a bit guilty doing all that swiping down here....we're talking a 3+hrs trip each way!!!

Morning all
So, last night Mr Band and I had our phone call. It lasted 2 hours! It went really well and the conversation flowed really easily. Even turns out that he knows a couple of guys from my old high school (in some random town) ... small world. He is lovely, kind, and has varied interests.
BUT
If I end up fancying him in real life, I'll eat my hat. It was a bit like chatting to a family friend for 2 hours. I don't think I'll have that 'rush' whenever a text comes through from him, like I did with Mr T. It's not that he's boring, just that I didn't feel a spark.
Of course I will meet him (next Saturday night), as I have been banging on about wanting to meet a guy who is nice, reliable etc. But I think I forgot about the importance of chemistry.
I am now a convert to having a wee phone chat with someone before meeting up though. It's actually a good idea, and would recommend it to those who get nervous about first dates in particular.

Other thing is that his children are very young, which I hadn't been expecting, as we're both the same age.

Good to see all this dating going on!
Well ... I joined POF
GSM being a washout and all that
Mind you I did have a like at 3 am from someone with a waist length beard who said he was a moody miserable git and never went out - The like was immediately withdrawn - I am obviously devastated!
Can't work out how POF works - but I am obviously very attractive - because in less than an hour 116 men wanted to meet me - I just need to pay POF and they will be lining up. Obviously
If anyone has a moment - how, actually, does it work?

I have just been favourited by someone with a blurred photo of him and a dog poo bag - I am on a roll here

Ha ha at the dog boy bag!
The guy I was meant to see last night said it's quite nice that's I'm old fashioned about sex (as in I can't do casual sex). It's frustrating at times, but I just can't do it. It doesn't feel like me.
I've a date tomorrow with silverSmith at his workshop. I'm going to have some food and make myself a piece of jewellery!

Dog boy should have been dog poo obviously

poo indeed
Just been asked if there are any real 'ladies' left.
Well that's me ruled out.
Silversmithing sounds exciting

Education the 'wants to meet you' thing on pof is a waste of time. You do indeed have to pay for that. On the free version, I tend to add favourites if I like a profile and that way they can actually see me. If you like the look of someone you can add them as a favourite and/or message them. That's the basic functionality.

Dieu does the age of the children put you off? I am also having great phone conversations with Mr Drums and lovely coffee date yesterday but feeling it will be a slow burn for chemistry, but exactly the same as you, he is all the things I know I need - reliable, stable, normal and interested lol! There is a mental spark but the physical chemistry is questionable at the moment. We shall see. I'm determined to hang on there because I know he would be good for me. Physical chemistry had not got me very far in the past!

Hi guys
Not been on for a while , took myself off PoF after some dire dates , had to give myself a break . It's all a bit off a roller coaster with your emotions .
Have been continuing to read the threads on here for tips though .
Tonight I have a date from some one in real life - my bosses mate . Boss having a small party so we can meet and see how things develop . We have met , at my work but he didn't know who I was and ignored me . We have swapped numbers but he doesn't text - literally . I suppose he's old school , will reply to a message and that's it , no conversation. He leaves his phone in house and goes out . It's strange , doesn't make him a bad guy but after you've OLD - where you get endless messages off a new iron this is bizarre , keeping thinking he's not keen . Well will see what happens tonight , He's going to take me down the pub for a couple so we can talk without an audience lol .
Nerves and excitement kicking in X

How do you favourite someone on POF?
I am not very bright!
Can only see 'show interest'

This is hilarious - just been ultramatched with someone who, in capital letters, says he has an issue with short women who try to make up for their lack of height with attitude - so would anyone who was less than 5'9" 'pass by'.
But what was most amusing was his user name - a variation on 'super relaxed laid-back guy'!
Obviously, POF is onto a winner with their ultra matching - I am 5'1.

That is bizarre!!! How many women would even fulfil his criteria!

Education on the website when you click on someone's picture and it opens up their full page profile, if you scroll almost all the way to the bottom there will be two buttons, message "username" and add to favourites.

On the app on Windows phone ( don't judge me ! LOL ) when you open someone's profile from the thumbnail picture there is an option ( icon is a star ) to add them as favourite...

Hope that helps.

( And yes, it is a crazy site !!! )

RLD.

Thanks RLD
Not judging - used to have a windows phone myself (deliberately not highlighting the used to ...)

So, two dates this weekend, a pint this evening with a first date and 3rd date tomorrow with the guy who I got locked in the car with, I think we'll call him Mr Carjacker :-)

I sent Mr Science a nice 'thanks, but no thanks' WhatsApp which he hasn't replied to - which is fine, but makes me a bit sad.

I've been chatting to anothe iron for the past week or so, but we can't meet until Friday and it is reaching a bit of a 'meh' stage. No point getting too involved as we might not like each other, but seems a bit rude to ignore him for a week.

Then there is the extremely hot guy who messaged me last night & wanted a pretty intimate conversation right away - I headed that off of course, but this morning he is messaging me about normal, how's your weekend stuff. Don't know what that's about. I think he might have a bored housewife fetish

oncemore hanging on in there because I think he would be good for me is exactly what I'm doing with my iron who I had my 4th date with last night - will call him Mr Golf. He is completely different to all others I've met on OLD in that the chemistry is a very slow burn. But it's gone from nothing to a little flicker so I am definitely hanging on there. Chatting to a few others but no one else that's really clicking. If only someone with a dog poo bag would message me...

My speed date was my worst ever date! I told him I only had 30mins so he turned up 20mins late. I can't work out if he was nervous or just plain miserable and boring.
He didn't smile once. Looked at me like I was something bad he'd stepped in.
Complained about the sugar content of the cakes in "these coffee shops" then added 5 sugars to his cappuccino, spreading the packets all over the table.
I was so glad I only had to stay for 10mins. At least he bought coffee but had a moan about that as well - not paying, standing in a queue.

You dodged a bullet there, RM

What a speed date? I assumed you were going to a speed dating session rather than meeting one person. He sounds bonkers btw, and not in a good way.