I think people hinting that there's some lack of honesty from OP who is, allegedly 'drip feeding' need to understand something.
When a victim of abuse goes to the police they give a statement. Often that first statement doesn't contain every single thing that has happened and sometimes leaves out the worst bits, the most degrading bits, the most painful bits, the bits that were the most shocking/painful to the victim. On subsequent statements additional information is reported.
Do you for one minute (like the CPS do, stupidly) think that an OP is going to give you EVERY single thing that has happened all in one go?! It's a process of slow realisation and reflection, a slow dawning of how awful things really are.
I for one would be very sad to see the OP lose this thread and all the support it's giving her which may help her to leave this vile creature. As we speak her brain must be in overdrive as things slot into place and she realises what is and isn't normal and starts thinking about how to get away.
She's not wrong to spend a day or two thinking about how to do that, the practicalities - getting your ducks in a row is what's usually advised isn't it? I know he's utterly revolting as a human being but if that's how she wants to do it, that's up to her. We all want her to leave straight away and I hope it will not be very much longer before she manages to do so.
OP, keep at it, actively planning to get away from this disgusting man. You DO deserve better, normal relationships just aren't like this.
I would definitely make a trip to the police to ask for charges to be pressed and for a restraining order because you are scared of him and being abused by him. I know I'm saying do get sorted out if you need to but I cannot urge you enough along with the other posters, that you NEED TO LEAVE AS SOON AS YOU CAN. It may be a bit messy and a bit disorganised compared to what you would like. But you need to get away and very very soon. I personally would start with the police and get a hotline to Women's Aid. Presumably if you report him to the police he'll be arrested and put in a cell and that will give you breathing space of a day to get yourself sorted and out of there with your lovely children.