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My Dh died this morning and I don't know how to go on

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JuanPotatoTwo · 27/02/2017 19:18

But I will because I have to, because I have 4 incredible dc he loved.

I'm so so sad, didn't see it coming this time. Been lots of occasions in the past when we thought we'd lose him but he fought back and pulled through. Too much for him this time. One month today we would have been married 24 years.

Being self indulgent posting but I'm trying to put on brave front for dc even though 3 of them are adult and trying to be brave for me. We all loved him so much.

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UmmNo · 27/02/2017 22:21

Sorry to hear about your husband. 💐

Coconutty · 27/02/2017 22:22

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Bones17 · 27/02/2017 22:23

God, I'm so sorry. I've not read any replies but please accept my condolences. Revel in your love for him. He's watching. X

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 27/02/2017 22:24

juan I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

ellesbellesxxx · 27/02/2017 22:25

Flowers so sorry x

ohgoshIdontknow · 27/02/2017 22:26

I'm so sorry xxx

Lapinlapin · 27/02/2017 22:26

Words are so inadequate, but I, too, just want to say how very sorry I am for your loss.

You are someone I 'recognise' on here as your username has always made me smile.

I'm so sorry Flowers

SwearySwearyQuiteContrary · 27/02/2017 22:27

He sounds wonderful. I'm so sorry.

WicksEnd · 27/02/2017 22:29

So very sorry Juan. Lots of love to you and your family 💐

RoseOfSharyn · 27/02/2017 22:34

Flowers for you and your family Juan.
Sending huge un-mumsnetty hugs

And in respect of your husband, who sounds like a beaitiful human being, I will be adopting the phase 'The Mumsnet'.

sunflower2008 · 27/02/2017 22:34

i just wanted to say how very sorry i am for your loss xx

Ilovewillow · 27/02/2017 22:35

I'm so sorry for your loss and will be thinking if you and your family. He sounds lovely as do you Flowers

guinnessgirl · 27/02/2017 22:35

Oh Juan, how heartbreaking. I'm so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a truly good man. I'll be praying for you tonight. Hold your DCs close and you will all support each other x

Chimchar · 27/02/2017 22:35

I'm so sorry about your husband. He sounds like a lovely, kind, gentle man.
Sending you and your children strength and love X

SloanyAnne · 27/02/2017 22:37

Wishing you and your family strength for the days ahead. Flowers

SloanyAnne · 27/02/2017 22:37

Wishing you and your family strength for the days ahead. Flowers

spub · 27/02/2017 22:38

So very sorry that you and your dc are going through this terrible loss. Big un"themumsnet"ty hugs to you all.

flossisboss · 27/02/2017 22:39

Thinking of you and your children, Juan, and sending lots of love. I'm so sorry that you've lost your husband. I will be lighting a candle for you tomorrow.

vinoandbrie · 27/02/2017 22:40

With love and light to you in your darkest hour.

Thinking of you all Flowers

MumBod · 27/02/2017 22:40
Flowers

So sorry, Juan.

FloatedWide · 27/02/2017 22:42

Sending you strength and Flowers. So sorry to read of your loss.

Dontaskmegoogleit · 27/02/2017 22:42

I'm so sorry for you and your children's loss.
Take care x

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JuanPotatoTwo · 27/02/2017 22:45

I will tell you a little bit more about him because you're all so lovely :)

He was a very promising rugby player when he was young - played for England schools, England universities, sponsored for a year to play in Bordeaux, played at Leicester Tigers and Headingley. Just as his career was taking off, kidney failure hit. He was on dialysis within months. He never once complained - really he didn't. He just got on with his life, concentrated on a career in business/law and loved his family. He had two transplants that failed - just kept on keeping on. He was one of the very few people I've ever met who genuinely counted his blessings.

In case you're getting the idea he was perfect, he was the messiest person I'd ever met (until I had 4 of his dc!), a fussy eater and could be a contrary bugger. We loved him so much.

I will ask for this to be moved so I can read all your kind words in the hard days/weeks ahead. Thank you all Flowers

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PenguinDi · 27/02/2017 22:46

My thoughts are with all your friends and family tonight, he sounds like a wonderful husband and brilliant father to your children.

There is a tolkien quote I always turn to at times like this "I will not say 'Do not weep' for not all tears are an evil". Take care Juan

SandyY2K · 27/02/2017 22:52

I'm so sorry for your loss. No one can prepare you for this. I hope you and your family can comfort each other during this difficult time.