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I don't know where my boyfriend gets his money from??

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mummytotwo2 · 16/02/2017 15:41

Hi, i have been seeing a guy i met from instagram for 3 months now, everything has been great with this guy we became like best friends in an instant. He has met my kids and I've met his. He was friends with my sister but we had never met before until we started talking on IG. (he added me on there as he had my sister on there already)

One thing i'm curious about with him is that he NEVER goes into any detail about his life/background and he doesn't have a job but always seem to have money to take me out. He buys me gifts out of the blue sometimes if he's passing a shop where he sees something i'd mentioned i like but can't afford he just buys it me and gives it to me next time i see him. He bought my eldest daughter a new coat for school, he is always buying himself new things too, the other day he had two new tattoos done and i know they weren't cheap i asked him how much he paid for the latest big piece he had done he just said "does it matter".

all he says to me is that he's looking for a job but needs to be motivated to do a job otherwise he gets bored too quickly. Anything around money/income/job he just sort of brushes it off and laughs, like i went to pay for a cab we took into town last week and he said it doesn't matter he will pay and then i jokingly said to him "Oh you're loaded aren't you so it doesn't matter" but again he just laughs and says something like "well it's better to have money than not isn't it"

He very rarely tells me anything about his family outside of his children. He always keeps saying how life is stressful and how he gets depressed but i can't help him much because i just can't see what he is depressed about! he won't open up at all.

the reason i am interested about this is because i have basically opened up to him about every single personal and private thing i have been through and he's been so understanding and supportive and has never judged me for any of it, yet he himself hardly tells me anything about his life or about his current circumstances (plans for the future, etc)

am i just being overly nosey here or is it normal for a man to be this reserved about himself?

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Hatemylifenow · 22/02/2017 20:31

MNHQ!!!

Ellarose85 · 22/02/2017 20:35

This is just beyond ridiculous.

How have MNHQ not stepped in!?

Munchkin1412 · 22/02/2017 20:37

The Islam mention was a dead giveaway. Really surprised nothing from HQ yet ( but then again this thread's kept me occupied all night so far!)

BigApple11 · 22/02/2017 20:41

I've just read the whole thread. OP, you are a nutter. Have a Biscuit

JazzFunk · 22/02/2017 20:45

Oh don't delete it MNHQ GrinGin

Ellarose85 · 22/02/2017 20:56

eagerly awaiting the OP's next instalment/update

Perhaps Wenworth is trans?

SittingAround1 · 22/02/2017 20:58

This thread is ridiculous- he now wants to become a Muslim- don't know why but this made me laugh.

I feel sorry for his mum. She's probably had years of trying to get him off his arse to no avail.

Anyway, I'm glad you've met the man of your dreams.
You won't listen to this advice , but trying help/motivate/build him up will be a complete waste of your time.
Just enjoy his sexy body & trips to nice restaurants.
Protect your children & don't expect anything more than a superficial fun time.

MommaGee · 22/02/2017 21:00

Deleting is mean, the OP is going to change his life and tell us all about it!!

Holly3434 · 22/02/2017 21:09

If he's got so much money why does he shop in sports direct? Forget everything else OP that's a big no no and you should dump him for that

SestraClone · 22/02/2017 21:10

I study psychology at uni. He most certainly will need new books as I doubt the ones he read for fun are anywhere near academic enough!

PoorYorick · 22/02/2017 21:14

Maybe he has a personal, portable minting machine to make cash to order. Maybe he is the Grand High Witch of All the World.

bloodymaria · 22/02/2017 21:16

Oh, gods bless you OP. Good luck!! You will definitely be needing it.

Holly3434 · 22/02/2017 21:20

We still never found out what a £30 starter was? Hmm

thegoodnameshadgone · 22/02/2017 21:22

Sorry if I have missed this but can't op just ask him if he works and what does he do?

thegoodnameshadgone · 22/02/2017 21:24

I can't read 600 posts so am reading vackwards down the thread. Am totally Lost. Anyone want to be lovely and tell me what s happened dead quick xxxx

nestofvipers · 22/02/2017 21:26

This is just beyond ridiculous.

How have MNHQ not stepped in!?

Don't know but the even more unbelievable husband and wife threads where she'd cheated within 6 months of marriage threads are still running so think this will keeep going for some time.

EnriqueTheRingBearingLizard · 22/02/2017 21:30

goodnames top tip is make sure the OP's posts are highlighted and just read them because everyone else is saying much the same thing.

thegoodnameshadgone · 22/02/2017 21:30

Ok so op won't ask what he does for a living. Known him about a year. I'd ask someone I'd just met what they do as it's an icebreaker. Is this a real thread?

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mummytotwo2 · 22/02/2017 21:33

LOL He DOES NOT want to become a Muslim! He simply said that years ago he considered it after he read some of the Koran. He also read the Bible and he liked some aspects about Islam and some of Christianity but he doesn't believe in religion and would feel hypocritical if he joined one. He's said that before to me too quite a few times. He just brought it up today on the phone that he'd seen a guy who he used to know who converted and was talking to him a bit about it in the gym. . He always talks to preachers and stuff too if they stop him in the street he takes the free leaflets and stuff and reads them and even has conversations about Jesus with the Christian ones. My daughter is big into all the religion stuff at the moment and even answers the door to bloody Jehovah Witnesses! She was asking him questions about Jesus when we were walking around Primark once and he kept saying that he doesn't specialise in religion but it's good to see kids ask questions like that because these days kids don't think for themselves and are conditioned by the school system to be sheep.

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PoorYorick · 22/02/2017 21:34

She was asking him questions about Jesus when we were walking around Primark once and he kept saying that he doesn't specialise in religion but it's good to see kids ask questions like that because these days kids don't think for themselves and are conditioned by the school system to be sheep.

He walked around Primark while lecturing you about herd mentality?

Kudos, OP, I'm killing myself...

MommaGee · 22/02/2017 21:34

hegoodnameshadgone Wed 22-Feb-17 21:22:40
Sorry if I have missed this but can't op just ask him if he works and what does he do?
No

Can someone tell me how you highlight the ops posts please?

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mummytotwo2 · 22/02/2017 21:35

Holly3434 Who said he shops in sports direct? I never once said that. He shops in Selfridges and House of Fraser that i know of because we went shopping together and i went in Primark and New Look and when he went to his shops he went to House of Fraser and an electronics shop i know he shops in selfridges for clothes too cos he had pic of it.

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Holly3434 · 22/02/2017 21:36

Primark? Ok he ain't got loads of cash

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mummytotwo2 · 22/02/2017 21:36

PoorYorick I dragged him around Primark. He absolutely hates it, it's too crowded for him but still comes with me as i leave him no choice basically.

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PoorYorick · 22/02/2017 21:37

PoorYorick I dragged him around Primark. He absolutely hates it, it's too crowded for him but still comes with me as i leave him no choice basically.

He sounds like a sheep.

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