I don't know where my boyfriend gets his money from??

[mummytotwo2]

Hi, i have been seeing a guy i met from instagram for 3 months now, everything has been great with this guy we became like best friends in an instant. He has met my kids and I've met his. He was friends with my sister but we had never met before until we started talking on IG. (he added me on there as he had my sister on there already)

One thing i'm curious about with him is that he NEVER goes into any detail about his life/background and he doesn't have a job but always seem to have money to take me out. He buys me gifts out of the blue sometimes if he's passing a shop where he sees something i'd mentioned i like but can't afford he just buys it me and gives it to me next time i see him. He bought my eldest daughter a new coat for school, he is always buying himself new things too, the other day he had two new tattoos done and i know they weren't cheap i asked him how much he paid for the latest big piece he had done he just said "does it matter".

all he says to me is that he's looking for a job but needs to be motivated to do a job otherwise he gets bored too quickly. Anything around money/income/job he just sort of brushes it off and laughs, like i went to pay for a cab we took into town last week and he said it doesn't matter he will pay and then i jokingly said to him "Oh you're loaded aren't you so it doesn't matter" but again he just laughs and says something like "well it's better to have money than not isn't it"

He very rarely tells me anything about his family outside of his children. He always keeps saying how life is stressful and how he gets depressed but i can't help him much because i just can't see what he is depressed about! he won't open up at all.

the reason i am interested about this is because i have basically opened up to him about every single personal and private thing i have been through and he's been so understanding and supportive and has never judged me for any of it, yet he himself hardly tells me anything about his life or about his current circumstances (plans for the future, etc)

am i just being overly nosey here or is it normal for a man to be this reserved about himself?

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OP met this man on Instagram (he posts hot pics and has legions of women followers..). He's perfect as in he buys her lots of stuff, looks hot and struts and does cool stuff like that, and is really intelligent as he talks about conspiracy theories and The System... He's a fab dad to his DC who he had no choice but to leave with his mental, lazy ex. Oh and have I mentioned that he's hot - and really intelligent?

But he doesn't work. He can't find the right job, the world is against him because he's a hot, intelligent gangsta from the wrong side of town, and anyway he wants to 'do' psychology or philosophy - but the world hadn't let him for some reason. But he also always has plenty of cash to splash. And won't tell op where he gets it from - when she asks he goes all mysterious and hot and she goes too giddy to continue the conversation.

That's about it.

I know Yorick, I know.

When will he start reading up about irony?

I had my photo taken outside Harrods once, I like to show the bag for life off that I bought there too. Everyone in asda just looks at me as if to say why are you shopping with us peasants, I completely understand where he's coming from on this one

Selfridges. Last bastion of the free spirit fighting against the system...

I spent ages chatting to a nice fella on FB. He wrote me a poem. It was shit, but it was a poem. Turned out he grew weed in his loft for money to look after his kids and keep his ex at bay.She cheerfully told SS and lo and behold was busted.
No more maintenance for her then. Bit dim, I should think.

Also; can you MEET people on Instagram? Really?
I thought it was for hip photographs done on Lumos.

Yes, well, Holly, when I go clothes shopping I travel by litter throughout the store and I do not touch any of my purchases until my band of oiled eunuchs has disinfected each one with Himalayan spring water and carefully placed them all into bags of spun gold and mermaid hair. You sound like a sheep.

Incidentally, I pay my oiled eunuchs in cash so they can save up and don't have to use banks...

He wears 90 percent designer stuff (as far as i can tell) Armani, Hugo Boss, D&G etc i'm always looking at his clothes as he recently bought a belt from Ferragamo and i couldn't believe someone would actually spend that kind of cash on a belt. My clothes tastes are simple his are EXTRAVAGANT! Not that it matters i suppose but i can never understand how someone can spend over 200 quid on a belt, over a 100 on a hat etc. I'm happy with a 5 quid belt myself.

But yes he also has basic tracksuits and jeans etc but when we actually go out for food or something or even to the pub he dresses UP UP!

He wears 90 percent designer stuff (as far as i can tell) Armani, Hugo Boss, D&G

An anti capitalist free thinker who wears overpriced designer crap and goes around Primark because his girlfriend makes him.

Please stop Yorick you're nearly making the wee come out.

lemon Yorick's doing a sterling job but right now I think it's OP who is extracting the wee

Well he just posted a picture showing that he's taken his younger son face painting today too but he didn't mention anything about that on the phone call we had. I can't tell if he's excluding me from parts of his day/life on purpose or because he just doesn't think i'll be interested in hearing it. Why would he not mention he took his son out today?

Man the barricades Yorick for the revolution has found its leader.

That drug dealing must be really lucrative with all those designer togs. 200 quid for a belt! If, by any slim chance he is spending 'savings', highly unlikely spending that kind of cash is going to severely deplete it pretty darn quick. What's he going to do then for cash OP?

Op....come clean now

You've had a good run

I've just found him on Instagram. Here's his real picture.

Yorick

Op you still haven't answered about supporting him to go to GP re his depression

I can't tell if he's excluding me from parts of his day/life on purpose or because he just doesn't think i'll be interested in hearing it.

It's just another way to keep you hungry for his attention really.

I thought you enjoyed the mystery of him op, so just go with it yeh?

You spend an awful lot of time "tracking" and analysing him on social media, plus his string of beautiful supporters, don't you?

What's the most lavish item he has ever bought you?

OK there's beenlts of talk about his intelligence then he paid £200 for a belt and has no job. He's an idiot. Because either he's spending hard earned savings like its water. Or he's spending ill gotten gains. Or he nicked it.

And I agree that the delay between "ooh baby I really want that pretty thing hint hint" and you getting it is cos it's being nicked to order

Op if you send us his instagram link we can check him out for you. Like a mn honeytrap

Ha!, did Del Boy say innit??

I don't understand why you cannot have a straight non jokey conversation with him asking him where he gets his money from. I think because you will find out something you don't want to hear.

If it was drugs he was selling he'd own a moped, or quad bike which by sounds of it he doesn't. I'm wondering if he's a shop lifter, in which case I saw a lovely coat in zara other day.....

Makes sense now of course sports direct for the foil lined bag to go shop lifting so alarms don't get set off I've solved it, he's so clever

I think the word Angieloumc was searching for downthread was not ' Uncle' to the OPs kids, but 'Spunkle'

Legit term in South London for this brand of Wenthworth.

I thought I was having fun on The Sexy Ghost thread but this is tremendous.

Anyway, you were saying, OP...?