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I don't know where my boyfriend gets his money from??

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mummytotwo2 · 16/02/2017 15:41

Hi, i have been seeing a guy i met from instagram for 3 months now, everything has been great with this guy we became like best friends in an instant. He has met my kids and I've met his. He was friends with my sister but we had never met before until we started talking on IG. (he added me on there as he had my sister on there already)

One thing i'm curious about with him is that he NEVER goes into any detail about his life/background and he doesn't have a job but always seem to have money to take me out. He buys me gifts out of the blue sometimes if he's passing a shop where he sees something i'd mentioned i like but can't afford he just buys it me and gives it to me next time i see him. He bought my eldest daughter a new coat for school, he is always buying himself new things too, the other day he had two new tattoos done and i know they weren't cheap i asked him how much he paid for the latest big piece he had done he just said "does it matter".

all he says to me is that he's looking for a job but needs to be motivated to do a job otherwise he gets bored too quickly. Anything around money/income/job he just sort of brushes it off and laughs, like i went to pay for a cab we took into town last week and he said it doesn't matter he will pay and then i jokingly said to him "Oh you're loaded aren't you so it doesn't matter" but again he just laughs and says something like "well it's better to have money than not isn't it"

He very rarely tells me anything about his family outside of his children. He always keeps saying how life is stressful and how he gets depressed but i can't help him much because i just can't see what he is depressed about! he won't open up at all.

the reason i am interested about this is because i have basically opened up to him about every single personal and private thing i have been through and he's been so understanding and supportive and has never judged me for any of it, yet he himself hardly tells me anything about his life or about his current circumstances (plans for the future, etc)

am i just being overly nosey here or is it normal for a man to be this reserved about himself?

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Holly3434 · 22/02/2017 10:58

Is this shit still going on? As your not really that bothered where he gets the money from, so sucked in by the Nike trackie bottoms and all his excuses do what your still doing enjoy it spend his cash, then when you've had enough post again and again ohhh and again then finally leave simples

UnbornMortificado · 22/02/2017 11:08

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MommaGee · 22/02/2017 11:37

I hope the OP isn't for the sake of two lots of kids

ANameToHide · 22/02/2017 11:39

Could be selling cigarettes. I know someone who makes a living doing this. @unbornmortificado might know who I'm on about as he's from ferryhill.

forumdonkey · 22/02/2017 12:44

If OP is for real, then he's dealing.

He'll move in, you'll have the biggest fuck off TV on your wall and every gadget going. In return, you can look forward to a knock on your door and raid from plod or your windows shot through.

Good luck

JazzFunk · 22/02/2017 12:51

OP did you say somewhere that you've never been to his house? Do you actually know where he lives - or who he lives with (ie not just where he says he lives - if he's said at all).

Tell him you'd really like to go to his place for a change - that might be an eye opener...

murphys · 22/02/2017 13:05

Alrighty then...

Hmm
exWifebeginsat40 · 22/02/2017 13:45

i think it's an important question OP. does he refer to the mother of his
children as his 'Baby Mama' or variations thereon?

eh. it doesn't matter really when you boil it down.

rampant prickery. would you want this for your daughter?

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mummytotwo2 · 22/02/2017 13:46

I've replied to tons of comments on here asking me details about him so i don't know why you attack me for not replying to stuff. what else would you like me to reply to?

He said he won't go for custody of his kids yet because he is still on good terms with the mom even tho she is not a great parent and he doesn't want to be mean to her and for her to think he's snatching the kids from her and denying them a mother. He said she has problems but it's not extreme enough for him to completely take them from her. But he has his kids at least 3 times a wk and some weekends while she is in bed asleep all day he'll take them out on days out and have them with him, take them to nursery, school etc. he said if he felt they were in danger of neglect with her he'd act on it but he's around enough to ensure they are not.

I already replied about his family, his mom is working full time and she always has. His sister works and his younger brother is in college, as he said that's one thing he respects about me is that i've always had goals and liked to work rather than doss about like his kids mom does and he says i remind him of his mom because i am driven but he wishes he could be the same. He says life feels pointless, we're all slaves to the system anyway and he's depressed but he has no choice but to get on with things for his kids sake and if he doesn't get money his kids won't eat.

and some of you are judging him and other ppl from council estates for wearing tracksuits (lmao) and liking a spliff every now and then.. It's almost like half you girlies think he looks like the stereotypical teeth missing chav lad you see on jeremy kyle! Nothing could be further from the truth. My guy looks like a younger Wentworth Miller and is extremely handsome. My point about the way he dresses was that he looks smooth and suave in ANYTHING he wears even a pair of old joggers. It's not like i'm saying he walks around in a filthy sweatsuit everyday am i? Can a man only deserve respect in your opinion if he is wealthy, white, middle class, and wears suits all the time even leisurely? Come on. Mine also wears suits when he wants but you've gotta be more open-minded haven't you?!!

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mouldycheesefan · 22/02/2017 13:48

do you know where his money comes from yet???

UnbornMortificado · 22/02/2017 13:53

Whoever your right.
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Batshit, completely batshit.

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mummytotwo2 · 22/02/2017 13:53

Is the reason why you think he uses terms like 'baby mama' because he is not white? just curious if that's why you would assume he would use such phrases?

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Bluntness100 · 22/02/2017 13:58

Tell him you'd really like to go to his place for a change - that might be an eye opener...

NoSquirrels · 22/02/2017 14:01

My guy looks like a younger Wentworth Miller and is extremely handsome. My point about the way he dresses was that he looks smooth and suave in ANYTHING he wears even a pair of old joggers. It's not like i'm saying he walks around in a filthy sweatsuit everyday am i? Can a man only deserve respect in your opinion if he is wealthy, white, middle class, and wears suits all the time even leisurely? Come on. Mine also wears suits when he wants but you've gotta be more open-minded haven't you?!!

I for one would love to see his Instagram. Can I follow him?

Come on, OP. This is entertaining, but it can't possibly be real life, can it?
I agree that your heroine needs to buck up her ideas a bit before her romance story turns into a killer-twist-at-the-end identity switcheroo crime drama. If his money's not from drugs or other illegal activities, where on earth is it from? That's the point of your thread, yet you still haven't found out...

MommaGee · 22/02/2017 14:05

and if he doesn't get money his kids won't eat.
"so baby, how are you getting that money? "

Cos according to an earlier post he's not claiming benefits, not working and just using money he saved from a previous" job

Happybunny19 · 22/02/2017 14:06

Oh yeah can we all join the hundreds of women who want him on Instagram? I'm dying to see this intelligent, deep-thinking Adonis in his tracky bottoms Hmm

angieloumc · 22/02/2017 14:08

OP you're contradicting yourself. On earlier posts you said he didn't smoke weed now you're saying he has occasional 'spliffs'.
You also said he didn't own a suit or formal wear, now you're saying he does have suits.
So which is it?
Honestly if you're 32 years old with kids you really ought to grow up! Seriously.

MommaGee · 22/02/2017 14:09

his mom is working full time and she always has. His sister works and his younger brother is in college and yet he can't do it cos he has o exams, the system is out to screw him, everyone is a robot or a sheep.

You're o amazing cos you work etc and he could only ever hope to be as awesome etc and you repeatedly say about how cod he want someone "thick" like you. Even he knows he's too good for you

Emboo19 · 22/02/2017 14:14

My guy looks like a younger Wentworth Miller and is extremely handsome
Photo?

Joking aside op, it's really not about his looks or his upbringing. No ones saying you need to be wealthy, middle class and wear suit to be respected at all.
Why did you post on here?
What do you want to achieve?
Why if you've shared so much with him, can't you insist he gives you a clear and honest answer about where is movers from?

MommaGee · 22/02/2017 14:14

lol i don't think he even owns a suit or any kind of formal wear

Mine also wears suits when he wants

Spending more of his money in between your posts eh OP? He'll need to be smart for that £30 a starter place. Also good for job interviews

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mummytotwo2 · 22/02/2017 14:14

HE DOESN'T SMOKE SPLIFFS! I do occasionally but not him! Are you going to judge me now as a bad mum for that??

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Holly3434 · 22/02/2017 14:15

Maybe he does porn if he looks like Wentworth Miller. ...send me the link to his video's Wink lol

Emboo19 · 22/02/2017 14:15

Money not movers! Typing while breastfeeding.

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mummytotwo2 · 22/02/2017 14:17

and he told me he doesn't own a suit but he has pics older pics he showed me on his phone where he is in an armani suit and a dinner suit so...that's why i specifically wrote he wears them 'when he wants'

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UnbornMortificado · 22/02/2017 14:18

Mummy I've tried like other posters to give you genuine advice.

Your not listening to it your just romanticising the situation.

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