I don't know where my boyfriend gets his money from??

[mummytotwo2]

Hi, i have been seeing a guy i met from instagram for 3 months now, everything has been great with this guy we became like best friends in an instant. He has met my kids and I've met his. He was friends with my sister but we had never met before until we started talking on IG. (he added me on there as he had my sister on there already)

One thing i'm curious about with him is that he NEVER goes into any detail about his life/background and he doesn't have a job but always seem to have money to take me out. He buys me gifts out of the blue sometimes if he's passing a shop where he sees something i'd mentioned i like but can't afford he just buys it me and gives it to me next time i see him. He bought my eldest daughter a new coat for school, he is always buying himself new things too, the other day he had two new tattoos done and i know they weren't cheap i asked him how much he paid for the latest big piece he had done he just said "does it matter".

all he says to me is that he's looking for a job but needs to be motivated to do a job otherwise he gets bored too quickly. Anything around money/income/job he just sort of brushes it off and laughs, like i went to pay for a cab we took into town last week and he said it doesn't matter he will pay and then i jokingly said to him "Oh you're loaded aren't you so it doesn't matter" but again he just laughs and says something like "well it's better to have money than not isn't it"

He very rarely tells me anything about his family outside of his children. He always keeps saying how life is stressful and how he gets depressed but i can't help him much because i just can't see what he is depressed about! he won't open up at all.

the reason i am interested about this is because i have basically opened up to him about every single personal and private thing i have been through and he's been so understanding and supportive and has never judged me for any of it, yet he himself hardly tells me anything about his life or about his current circumstances (plans for the future, etc)

am i just being overly nosey here or is it normal for a man to be this reserved about himself?

He's probably busy exercising down the gym and reading conspiracy theories on line. 😂😂😂

Op, ask him.

Genuinely I've never read anything like this in my life. I can't believe anyone is this daft.

Op, do you think he's also doing drugs as well as dealing them? The shite he talks would indicate he's on something.

Probably busy watching back to back you tube conspiracy videos so he can pretend to be intelligent.
My ExH was the same. Notice I say EX.

This does read like an episode of East Enders.

No he doesn't take any drugs he won't even touch marijuana occasionally i'll have some myself and if i offer he won't touch it although he says he used to smoke weed but never really saw the appeal so he doesn't bother at all anymore. He doesn't really drink either unless socially.

Again he says he wants a job but doesn't know how because he doesn't have any experience. He wants to study something but doesn't know where he would start, he said he never had a dad about to show him so that's why he's there for his kids because his dad was never about

Soooo....

Is your question actually, what would you do if you suspected your boyfriend is a drug dealer, but he's attractive and buys you shit?

Because the answers will still be the same.

It's almost as if because he may be involved in something dodgy or drugs you want to write him off as scum and a loser

Why would you want drugs or anything "dodgy" around your DC?

What a weird thread
It's like it's not real ....

Honestly OP you are a complete idiot. You're just posting without reading any replies aren't you?
But like Forrest Gump says 'stupid is as stupid does'

i don't only like him because he buys me things i said there's a balance that i like in how he treats me and buying me sweet gifts is a part of that. Besides i buy him things too not expensive things just little things that he likes and i like his laid back style. If i want to talk and i am upset i know he will always be there at the other end of the phone. He's always available unlike some of my friends boyfriends who will be off down the pub when she wants to talk this man listens to every single thing i say and not only that he reacts to it and discusses it with me like an adult. I've been with guys who were just like "uh yeah yeah" "i know yeah" with this man i can tell he is actually paying attention to my rants and worries and taking it all in and responding and reacting to it. It's not all going in one ear and out of the other. he cares about me and wants to comfort me if i'm upset.

If i want to talk and i am upset i know he will always be there at the other end of the phone.

But doesn't want to be honest with you.

Again he says he wants a job but doesn't know how because he doesn't have any experience.
Job centre, ain't complicated.
He wants to study something but doesn't know where he would start
College, yours perhaps. Again ain't complicated.
he said he never had a dad about to show him so that's why he's there for his kids because his dad was never about
And yet he doesnt want to teach working for a living, providing for your own, respect

And sits and calls the mother useless.😱

😂😂😂 this is honestly pathetic. I'm embarrassed for you OP. I know you're only on here as a hashed stealth boast but fuck, I cannot stop cringing at how ridiculous this all is. He sounds bloody awful and stupid to boot. Good luck with this prince amongst men, if only they could all look so good in trackies!!

marijuana occasionally i'll have some myself

That explains a lot.

You obviously like him despite the absolutely massive amount of red flags so I suggest you delete this thread and get on with it. Good luck as you clearly need it.

OP this honestly reads like a Professor Green track or some such shite. I'm picturing some geezer in a tracksuit and Dappy hat....

Assuming it is for real, this is not a grown up relationship. I could understand reticence if independently wealthy, but if that was the case he wouldn't be banging on about the illuminati, not getting a 'foot in the door' at 30 ffs and the Daily Mail.

I actually can't decide who's behaviour is worse, his or yours for believing the obvious BS.

Oh come on this isn't real!

You say he wants a a job, but not just any job, but he's no experience. What has he been doing since he left school?
I'm all for people studying later in life, my mum had me young and ended up finishing her degree at 30, but she's always worked and studied her way up to that. There's plenty of access to education courses available if he really wants to do something he'd be doing it!

MommaGee I was going to reply the same thing. He could start at the job centre or his local college.
He could also ask his mum for help & guidance on how to find a job, as you previously stated she has worked hard all her life.
I don't think the posters on here are stereotyping against working class people from council estates but are just merely going on information you've provided about what he actually does -which it seems is a total mystery.

He will always make excuses about why he can't find honest employment. You say he has potential but I can guarantee you're wasting your time if you hope he'll change.

I'd forgot about his Mom sitting

he said he never had a dad about to show
No but he had a mother. Sounds like your kids dad isn't around op - you think that will be an excuse for them to not work an honest job when they're older or you think they ought to see you working hard to provide for them and know better?

He's got no excuse for not working apart from some ^no man gonna be the boss of me^ chip on his shoulder

Oh God there are so many things i want to pull apart with what you've written op!
Ok waynetta, lets have a little chat about your new beau Wayne..
He is a drug dealer, and if you think its wrong of us to say you should leave without giving him a chance? I seriously hope ss get involved asap.
The freemasons aren't going to entertain a wannabe gangster to be one of them.
Allowing said gangster to buy your kids clothes and give you money means you aren't going to be his moll, if you're as plain as you claim to be you'll be a prostitute and he'll be your pimp.
Only a speshial kinda stoopid would believe to become a psychologist only needs a lucky break.
9/11 did happen, and some moron reading Beano wont convince me otherwise.
So either go back and write your article for the DM, or be honest and fess you are as totally unscrupulous as him.