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Seen a dubious message..

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ughwhattodo · 07/02/2017 10:14

Well there I am enjoying my breakfast with DH and he gets up to go finish getting ready for work.
The next minute his phone dings and automatically my eye is drawn to it (reflex thing, honestly I wasn't snooping it was right next to me)
And there's a message showing on the screen from 'Z' saying
"Are you really happy with your life the way it is...?"

He's gone to work now and I can't stop thinking about it. No, I didn't say anything to him as I was a bit shocked/confused.
The fact he has someone's number saved as just 'Z' is a bit strange to start with and then asking such a personal question....

To be honest it's felt a bit different recently but I'm not sure if now I'm overthinking things. We are newlyish married (nearly a year)

Any advice?? It's weird isn't it Confused

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Cakingbad · 07/02/2017 12:49

My guess is marketing.
If he was having text exchanges with an OW, wouldn't he keeo his phone with him or change his settings so that texts don't display?

Pinkapple47 · 07/02/2017 12:50

Why would a marketing text ask how happy his life is?
Op, I agree with the swiping and snooping advice. If he has form for this then go with your gut, snooping will give you evidence so he cant deny anything. I was in a similar situation last year and snoped, read things that destroyed our relationship, I was heartbroken but so glad I know now.

Pinkapple47 · 07/02/2017 12:52

caking not necessarily, my p hadnt deleted texts with ow for 6months either. I read them all.

Wondermoomin · 07/02/2017 12:58

Sorry but it doesn't sound good.

A contact called Z = buried way down in the contacts list so it wouldn't appear if you caught sight of his contacts. Doesn't necessarily mean Zoe or Zara or whatever.

If he is playing around, he's an idiot for not disabling message previews on his phone. From experience with a nosey mother not an extra marital affair

blueskyinmarch · 07/02/2017 13:03

Was it a text or was it an e mail? Sounds a lot like spam to me.

wispagold1234 · 07/02/2017 13:04

Well no her marriage wouldn't be fucked for looking Hmm
Asking won't necessarily give the truth, and then gives them chance to delete and hide any evidence.

OliviaStabler · 07/02/2017 13:09

That sounds like spam to me. Trying to sell a new diet or gym membership.

Even if it was a true message, it sounds like he has told the other person he is happy and not interested.

ImperialBlether · 07/02/2017 13:10

How can it be spam if it's saved to his contacts?

Peakyblinder · 07/02/2017 13:10

If it was spam it wouldnt be saved under a contact though would it ?

EverythingEverywhere1234 · 07/02/2017 13:12

It isn't necessarily a contact though? Barclays, for example, come up as 'Barclays' on my phone and I have never saved their number. Some companies just do!

QueenyLaverne · 07/02/2017 13:14

Don't confront him yet, snoop like snoop dog til you get all/any information you need and then confront with something concrete. Otherwise he will bin all the evidence and you'll always be wondering.....

NinjaPosse · 07/02/2017 13:14

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WaitrosePigeon · 07/02/2017 13:14

I'm sorry, it doesn't look look great.

PurpleDaisies · 07/02/2017 13:16

I agree with everything-I get messages from businesses whose names appear as the sender.

I can't screenshot because my other contacts will appear but I've got them in my inbox from "LaRedoute", "Carphone" and "theAA" amongst others. I've never saved their numbers.

LexieLulu · 07/02/2017 13:18

It doesn't sound like spam to me, sorry OP. Please confront him and ask to look through phone, if he doesn't oblige or the known text has been deleted worry.

If the text has been deleted, I would call Z off his phone

MysticTwat · 07/02/2017 13:18

Spam messages give themselves names. companies i've bought something off, suddenly text me with there name as if it's one of my contacts. There is a z lifestyle digital marketing company. I imagine they would send such shit as "are you happy with your life?" "We can help you achieve contentness" "just click this link to start your new life"...............

SnotGoblin · 07/02/2017 13:19

Having seen your second message, you have to go with your gut. I thought 'Z' was your choice of shielding actual name. The message does sound either spammy or bantery but with further context and gut feeling, you have to ask him about it really. You'll drive yourself nuts otherwise. The thing is, he'll probably deny it if it is 'something'.

blueskyinmarch · 07/02/2017 13:24

I get texts from the bank, my dentist, doctor, nail/hair salon, vodaphone, parcel deliveries, airlines (i could go on and on) and i have none of them saved in my contacts.

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ughwhattodo · 07/02/2017 13:30

Sorry to answer a question a few have asked..
It was a whatsapp message, not a text or email. Confused
I think that makes it even less likely to be spam

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LexieLulu · 07/02/2017 13:31

If it's whatsapp you should be able to see who z is if they have a picture? Even if their name is saved as something else

ChippyDucks · 07/02/2017 13:33

It does make it unlikely. I've had spam what's app messages but they're always foreign numbers and show the full number because I don't have it saved on my phone. Can you check the number that's saved under 'Z' and see who it is?

Bluntness100 · 07/02/2017 13:40

I get spam what's app messages and have to block the sender.

blueskyinmarch · 07/02/2017 13:41

Surely anyone involved in dodgy messages with another keeps their phone right by them at all times? Did you watch him check out the message?

GloGirl · 07/02/2017 13:43

I have had spam what's app.

Honestly tonight I'd reply "Thinking of you x" and see what came back.

OnionKnight · 07/02/2017 13:45

I get spam via WatsApp and a name appears as though I had saved the number, I haven't.

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