Brave Babes - reconvene here!!!

[dementedma]

Hi all
We seem to have finished the last thread but no-one has done a new one. Don't get lost! Gather here until we can sort it out.

Thanks theansweris42. I think I will need to re-read that book a few times, but it really made an impression. The author acknowledges a debt to Allen Carr and Jason Vale, and I can see similarities in approach. All very refreshing and uplifting after some of the AA messages.

I want to throw everything at this problem - it's gone on for YEARS and wears me out really - but I do struggle with the "powerless" but of AA. Maybe that's the point? I don't have to do this myself. I can let people (and my Higher Power) help?

ah... think I've just had a minor epiphany... I always feel I have to be the strong one, the one holding things together. But in the process I've knackered myself with alcohol - my "crutch". It's turned on me - and it's time for it to go determined face.

(and yet, at the same time, I want to drink.)

AA calls it "subtle insanity". Yep. Right there.

Still haven't started my blog. Feel I could witter on for days - but will spare you that joy! Off to my prep group this morning. Have a fabulous day, everyone!

(carefully peeking from behind a massive 'missing babes' pile)...

My dear, dear darling babes! I have missed you so much!
ma - how are you????!

I have to catch up... shaking from the excitement of FINALLY find you all!

Hugs to all!
K

Hello Khalisi!! So so good to see you again? How you doing?

I'm bored. AF still but bored. Am going to distract myself by investigating this nip fan of which you speak. Arcane mystery, but I will initiate myself.

Dubh, my heart goes out to you. I'm properly teary reading your post. LittleLab ended up being the luckiest of dogs despite her hideous start to life (blood boils at that story). And you got the love and loyalty you so richly deserve. My thoughts are with you.

Waves to all.

Oh dubh she must have loved you very much.
If we ever come across the bastards who hurt her, can we run over them with Gerald? Will cheerfully squish them.

elf AA is weird and awesome at the same time! It really is a case of keep showing up but also just nod and smile at the bits you don't agree with. It is free,anonymous and it DOES work. But you don't have to go for ever either, it's fine to move onto other more modern stuff whenever you like. I did, it's fine to come and go as you please. I met some of the most incredible people who have changed my life and my viewpoint and I did an awful lot of growing up. Good luck whatever you decide.

Big wave to all, lovely to see babes climbing back on board.

Right. I am now (copiously) inducted into the mysteries of Nip + fab. Superdrug had them on two for one so I shall blame you lovely babes for (a) impending penury and (b) my dissolving under the onslaught of bee sting and dragon venom. Weird stuff.

Superdrug you say?

I can feel a thirst coming this evening, I think it's the sense of January done, must distract.

Anyone recommend any books? Either frothy novels or non celeb biographies.
Social history is a favourite too.

Will do nails and a moisture bomb tonight. We will be the shiniest babes in town at this rate. Like a larger, and maybe older version of Girls Aloud (cos we're worth it)

Flowerydems and everyone else.
Thone face bomb sound amazing! I shall hit Boots tomorrow.

lux how about:
Charles Dickens and the house of fallen women - Jenny Hartley
The Floating Brothel - Sian Rees
Wolf Winter - Celia Eckback
Travels with Myself and Another - Martha Gellhorn

Diary of a Provincial Lady E M Delafield is hilarious

I could do with hilarious so will look that up thank you!

Well just with the caveat that one babe's hilarious is another babe's tumbleweed...

Product update - have used the Clarins Double Serum twice now and oh my goodness it's awesome stuff! I may be deluded, but I swear my skin looks smoother, softer and generally less haggy

Definite thumbs up from me anyway.

Dave less haggy sounds good. Pricentral but worth it? Just done a moisture bomb so smooth skinned myself.

Managed to ignore the gin despite my yearning. But I think I'll try a af cocktail tomorrow. Hoping it will feel treaty.

Hope all babes are having a peacefull evening

Pricey not that weird word my phone chose

haha that word looked a bit like 'placenta' to me for some reason!

Yes it is pricey, but I managed to get a big bottle for the price of a 30ml from Amazon, so a bit less painful. I also think it will last quite a while as a little goes a long way.

Well done on voiding the gin Lux. There are some bottles of Becks in our fridge which have been trying to flirt with me each time I open it, but managed to stay strong and drinking my favourite non-alcho drink, Feel Good from Sainsbury's.

Had a day of it today with my 3 year old too who awoke suddenly from her nap earlier screaming and distressed with a horrible blobby rash creeping up her arms. It looked like nettle rash..so weird, so ended up running her to the GP, by which time she was fine again. I did give her a dose of Piriton which seemed to take the rash down, but no idea what caused it. She was really hot and upset, poor little mite

I'm ready for my bed to be honest.

Hello Bus. You are all looking glowing and youthful. 😀

Kids are such a worry. They can look proper ill one minute and fine 5 minutes later. When mine was about 4 she had a terrible cold, lasted a few days, on the final day she suddenly burned up, flopped back with her eyes rolling in her head. I panicked thinking meningitis or similar and ran to grab my phone and call an ambulance, I pressed 99 and she sat up, asked for a cold lemonade and could we watch Balamory now, right as rain. Literally had pressed two nines and I'm pretty calm about illness!

I've been reading how children are affected by drinking parents and it's given me extra resolve to kick the witch.
I've never had such resolve

khalisi well holy fuck girl, where have you been????
Great to see you.
Well Babes , thought long and hard about telling you all this but here goes. Work is shit and very stressful. I love it, it so my passion, my everything but due to funding cuts etc, it is a day to day existence. Very hard. Also, I am menopausal, cold turkey on HRT and Ads, battling booze and weight gain, have a daughter with mental health issues, a father in care and an alcoholic brother. Just setting the scene. So, today, everything goes wrong at work Everything. I am stressed, behind with stuff, things going wrong.Smashed my keyboard in a rage because I couldn't type fast enough without typos....
Tonight I have a cocktail event in a nice hotel with potential new clients, and existing clients. And the Chairman of the Board. And the Directors. Etc.
I get charged into skirt, heels etc. i get to the venue and get set up. I meet and greet the guests. We have cocktails I get ready to do my bit and walk through hotel foyer to my place,clutching large tumbler of drink and crushed ice. I trip over leg of chair, stagger,wobble,stagger again and in agonising slow motion....I go down. Full faceplant on carpet. The works. Drink goes everywhere. Hotel grinds to a halt. I bounce up with tinkly laugh saying I'm fine. My knee is fucked. My tights are ripped. I cry all the way home.

Evening everyone, I just wanted to say thank you for your kind words today, I've had so many people say to me 'she was just a dog'. Not to me. She was a very good friend. She listened, she didn't judge if I ate a packet or two of jaffa cakes, she would cuddle in if i was down. And in her own little way she made sure above all else I got some fresh air when I was struggling to face the world.

guggs thank you, I would gladly flatten him but I would attach a seed drill to Gerald beforehand. I would then spray surgical spirit over the holes. Wha daur meddle wi us. xx

SmallFox thank you, I hope beyond hope that she felt lucky, and loved. She was unique. She won the hearts of everyone who met her. Her squint little leg made the most interesting paw prints in the sand, and she had a squint in one eye from the fracture. To me she was the most beautiful dog in the world. She used to smile at you, literally grin and your heart would melt.

Bee sting and dragon's blood? I went for the plain old glycolic, must check those ones out too.May they bring you a glow my dear xx

LW thank you sweetheart, what you said about the grief brought me great comfort. And some peace.

I know these are a bit old now, but I loved The Book Of Human Skin by Michelle Lovric and Perfume by Patrick Suskind. Well done for beating the temptation of the Gin Goblin. I'm away to put my Bomb mask on in a minute. May it bring me a miracle xx

Khalisi??? Where ya been? Whatcha been doing? Lovely to see you chickadee! ((((((((((((((((((((((((((welcomebackbosie))))))))))))))))))))))) xx

Dave whhoooo, sounds like you've had a fair day of it you poor thing. Glad your bairn is okay, that must have been truly scary. Thank you for the product update, will break into the piggybank next weekend I think, xx

mint hello quine, Moisture Bomb masks are 99p in Boots, I can't wait to see how it works! I will add that it sounds like you had a very productive morning xx

Oh ma, what an absolute pisser. Are you okay? Your poor knee! Please tell me kind soldiers rushed to your aid. What you need is the Men In Black memory zapper thingy. That'll sort it. xx

No. Everyone either tried not to laugh, or looked away embarrassed for me.

Oh ma, what a shit night even without all the other crap. I hope you are tucked up in bed now, lots of ice for that knee. Cold turkey on ADs, especially with all the other stressors, will probably be making you feel extra shit. Would it be worth a GP visit if you feel they (and the HRT) weren't doing what you want them to? Lots of different options available to try; it's really not a 'one size fits all' thing. Be kind to yourself x

Despite good intentions I'm drinking. Got home about 40 mins ago having left at 6.30 this morning. I've learnt enough to know that being tired, hungry and thirsty make me drink after days like this. But am still at a loss to know how to prevent the above without a complete change in career, which is not an option. Have a meeting tomorrow am though re cutting hours, so maybe that will help. (Just have to not turn up stinking of booze...will go to bed shortly)

Night all

Oh ma I want to hug you. But nobody will remember that in 6months, and you weren't even drunk so please try not to keep replaying it in your head.

CuileanDubh
They are never just a dog. They are our companions and part of us.

Ma for you too. aliasjoey is right you know. It could be worse, you could have sneezed a string of gunk over your bosses hand whilst at the same time doing a large smelly fart after drinking far too much gin at a very posh works outing at the races.

elba How are you today? Good luck with the meeting.

My luxury today will be again having the office to myself and its pay day. I am also impatiently waiting for 9am to order Train tickets (band not Thomas). I have long wanted to see them and they are coming to Glasgow in October. Big grin here. And I am going to Boots to get the moisture bomb mask and some Yardleys Violet perfume. It's my beloved Gradmas anniversary and she loved them so much. And I also won two Boden dresses on ebay. Very Mumsnet I know but they will be fab for the office. And breathes.
Last night OH bought me a bottle of wine as it's the end of dry January. I'm not sure which bit of I don't want it he didn't understand. I am now telling people I'm doing the 90 day challenge. It seems to stop them trying to pressurise me to drink. Sitting here last night watching himself get drunk was a real turn off for me. He's not the nicest. I lit the fire in the other room and caught up on Casualty and Call the Midwife.
It's howling a gale here and the rain is lashing down. I probably could get away with not going in today...

Thanks all. Mint that made me smile.

Not going into work today as haven't slept and knee too sore to drive. Feeling very sorry for myself