Brave Babes - reconvene here!!!

[dementedma]

Hi all
We seem to have finished the last thread but no-one has done a new one. Don't get lost! Gather here until we can sort it out.

I think I'm going to focus on taking as much of the unnecessary stress away as I can. This means less contact with my DM but she's becoming a trigger for me, I drink the night before she comes and straight after she leaves so I'll maybe try to put her off a bit.

Go you organising social activities though I'm avoiding people for a bit and maybe starting to go for walks in the evening.

Do you have tcp? I put it on spots a the time, pity it stinks to high heaven

I know LW, I had a good cry this morning, and I would love a wee nip to remember Little. I have the lovely candle.

I did DJ, and I didn't even feel that elated about it this morning. Do I stay AF, wheat, caffeine and sugar free?

I am going to continue with the LuxuryWoman stuff, that has been so worth it, just a wee amount of time set aside in the day just for me.

mouse big bosies for you and wee nemo, thinking of you all and sending much love xxx

42 sorry you have so much going on It's not surprising you feel anxious. I can relate to the need for a better way to deal with feelings too. I've never been one for meditation or anything but have done lots of yoga this last month to help with back issues. Just YouTube videos mainly- there are some good short routines. Starting to find it really relaxing- do you think making time for something like that might help take the edge of some of the anxiety? I know it doesn't solve anything, but I have found it quite calming.

elf well done on the meeting. Hope they get a date sorted soon for the detox- sounds like you are so ready.

flowery hope it went ok with the health visitor, and that ds is ok.

I'm hungover again today. Just worked out thought that I was af for 21 days in January. Think that's probably why I'm noticing the effects of drinking so much. I'm not even dressed yet, and have reverted back to the toast and banana diet- just worked out I haven't had an actual meal since Monday lunch . It's all down to alcohol and it's pointless. I also, bizarrely, woke up on the floor in the hallway in the early hours. I do occasionally sleep walk so could be that, but I don't actually remember going to bed. Either way, it's not great.

Going to try really, really hard to not drink for the rest of the week. Will be at work a lot which will help.

Hello my dear, how's the running coming along? Are you progressing? Meant it about sponsoring you if you're running for a charity xx

Hey lovely dubh, how are you doing? Thank you! I am running for Mind via the Heads Together campaign, but haven't set up a sponsorship page yet or told many people in real life as I'm still don't know for definite that my back will hold up for it. What I do know though is that spending my time drunk or hungover will not get me round 26.2 miles so that's a good incentive! I think I'm progressing though, should be up to a 10 mile long run this week hopefully. Have a half on the 26th so that's my interim goal.

I will give you a heads up though when I have sorted a sponsorship page- really appreciate that! Or alternatively, I will be making a donation to this charity www.thecalmzone.net/ as a sort of tribute to my brother, and might ask a few people to do the same. He wasn't one for grand public gestures (nor am I) and would of cringed if I made it all about him, but he will be in my mind on the day.

Hope you and the terrorist are ok- give her an ear rub from me xx

Thanks elba for the support.
Your running distances increasing are v impressive well done you.
Have always done yoga classes but not for the last year (lone parent!) and can't seem to get to it at home once the DC are in bed.
Even on AF days. Will try harder
I'll defo sponsor you - MIND is a great cause.

Afternoon, ''tis me, Mouse

I'm sorry not to name you all or gotten to know you yet but I'm sure in time and the wee small hours of the day will help with that!

Ma - I'm sorry but it seems that I missed something to do with DS? Is he okay?

I really hope things are better soon very soon. out every

Sorry, I've clearly been away too long! I can't post!!

I meant to say I've been out to my art therapy group today which was good but I'm shattered now and need a doze zzzzzzz......,,,,,

Be back later, hopefully! And on my new laptop. I hope you're all okay, mouse xxx xxx

Hello babes, hope you don't mind me jumping on board again?

Glad to have found you all. Managed Dry January but not sure how I progress from here as I fear as soon as I start on the booze again it is a slippery slope for me back to drinking most nights and sparking my depression off again.

Will be reading along for inspiration here.

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ooh, just a quick question for you Lux, or anyone else in the know, I have treated myself to some Clarins Double Serum having read some good things about it. Anyone here use/used it?

It's ruddy expensive but if it works, then I'm happy..feeling old and haggard!

Yo Dave can I sell you a lovely moisture bomb? My shares are soaring

I'm in the same boat as you, wondering where to go from here.
I have to conquer wine for good, that's clear. Right now I think I can have the odd lager or gin but I can't let them become the new wine if you see what I mean.

I heare good things about the serum Dave but not tried it. Let me know what you think?

oooh a moisture bomb sounds awesome ..I feel like my whole face/body needs as much moisture as possible, although I do think laying off the wine this last month has helped me look slightly less haggard!

Tried the serum this evening and it felt very nice going on, and I think made my skin look a bit 'dewy'. Going to use it morning and night and will report back my findings!

One win for the day is that I ordered it from Amazon, a 30ml bottle, and they seem to have sent me a 50ml bottle by accident! So saved myself about £25 which isn't too shabby!

wine is totally my nemesis too Lux. I can drink it like fizzy pop.

Yes yes yes stupid stupid stupid wine
AF here, off to moisture bomb
Have lovely evening babes and thanks for being here on this brill bus

Yes stupid wine indeed. I've been under the spell of something that wrecks my sleep, buggered up my digestion, aged me, damaged my family, cost me dearly in £££, caused rows etc. And why? It tastes nice.

Talk about short term gain for long term pain, the opposite of the old expression.

I have not spent £180 on booze in January, seriously that's a really nice new wardrobe, 6 months and you're looking at a holiday ffs.

It's clear to me I have to leave the witch. Like an abusive relationship it's easier to stay but it will never be OK, not for me.
I'm not mad about champagne, perhaps in the future I can raise a glass in toast. But not Pinot.

Time for my vit e oil. Peaceful evenings everybabe x

Not send a few. Hope they track us down if they need us.

LW right I've nip+fab padded my face, can I put on the bomb mask now? Or should I do a serum or oil?

I am busying my hands for all I am worth, I may be beautifying all evening.

In an effort to sort my face , I made a mask from some dead sea salt and manuka honey earlier and sat with it for an hour. I had a cool shower and had a nap.

elba, would be proud to help you support your charities. A 10 mile run is a flaming brilliant achievement, you are getting stronger my dear, keep going one step at a time. I have no doubt that you will get there, you will do it. xx

Tonight I am drinking rhubarb and ginger teapigs. I bought a shitload of teapigs from the nice coffee shop in town. All different flavours of loveliness. I am trying very hard.

Back in a bit, xx

42 happy masking

oooh Dave high five for the marvellous bargainous serum! Definitely keep us posted, if it's good stuff I might be tempted to invest.

My piggy bank is heaving with the 'almost bought some' money. Does anyone remember the old NatWest piggies?

I would do the bomb another day, don't want to overload your skin Dubh might end up with a woozle like mine.

Tell which which Nip Fab pads you have please? Boots have good offers and I have advantage points

If you want to keep busy how about some hand pampering? Oil your cuticles, done mine and I'm sliding over this phone.

The nip and fab stuff is great. My face looks way better.
Wish it could work miracles on my body but one can't have everything. Cocktails with soldiers tomorrow night. Wish I could lose weight in my sleep....

I bought the daily cleanse ones and the extreme night ones. The night ones you do 2-3 times weekly.

My first time using them, I had to google how to use them, the writing on the tub is teeny wee.

Thank you LW, Will do my face mask tomorrow, I have some decleor iris oil serum, I will clart that on.

ma you lucky article, cocktails with handsome men. Have you picked out something to wear?

AF tonight and in bed- 5.30 start tomorrow. Pleeeeeese let me sleep 😴

dubh I may of made this up so apologies if so, but did you say today was a difficult date for you? Either way hope your ok xx

Just checked the weather for Friday, which is 'long run day'...we have rain, gail force winds and a met office warning. Meant to get used to running in all weather but feel that may be pushing it But it's literally the only time I can fit it around work. I may be sporting the soggy, windswept look on Friday...

Also extremely jealous of the cocktails with soldiers ma

Anyway need to try and sleep. Night all

Oh elba, thank you, it's a bit daft really, it's the second anniversary of losing LittleLab. She was a rescue who had been beaten so badly before I got her. Broken jaw, eye socket, leg, ribs and spirit. Then they starved her. She was scared of any loud voices, and took refuge half way up the stairs if she felt overwhelmed.

She turned into the most loving, loyal little beastie who took joy in taking my coat, or scarf or gloves to her bed. She was so grateful for everything, she loved having a loving family around her. She died so suddenly. She had a splenic mass which ruptured. It came out of nowhere, she had been x-rayed and blood tested merely 5 weeks before and everything had been fine. One day happy and wagging, the next morning I lost her. I was the centre of her world (and she mine) and life just hasn't been the same since.

She got me through some dark, dark days, we used to head for the river where we could spend happy, quality time. Sometimes I would sing to her, sometimes I would tell her all my troubles. I was never happier just watching her being happy and free, paddling in the sunshine. After I broke my leg and we started going out for walks again, she walked so carefully and slowly to match me. I loved her so much and still miss her dreadfully.

With GentleLab we knew and could prepare, it wasn't easy but we could accept it. I never had children, they got every ounce of love I had to give.

It's been a hard day, but I'm almost there. My little terrorist has kept me going, mainly because I have to entertain her so much and partly because she keeps me busy repairing her bed time and time again

Wishing you the sweetest of dreams elba, may you have a peaceful night's rest, I will see you in the morning, xx

Oh Dubh your post was the first thing I read this morning, the lump in my throat gave way to a little sob. she was so lucky to have that love in her last couple of years, and to slip away knowing she had your devotion.
I think with our pets the grief can be so powerful due, in part to the fact they trust us so much, and it's a very simple kind of grief, there are no or few regrets, little guilt or bad memories.

Hope everybody had a good sleep, lets face February strong and determined, with lovely complexions.

Ahhh. Here we are!
My whole office is away today in meetings darn sarf so I plan to spend the morning catching up on this thread.
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