Brave Babes - reconvene here!!!

[dementedma]

Hi all
We seem to have finished the last thread but no-one has done a new one. Don't get lost! Gather here until we can sort it out.

checking in, hope all are okay.
dubh and ma hope you are alright (esp the knee!)
so interesting and reassuring (I am not alone!) to read all your posts.
I dunno about addictive personality.
I've done it all - smoked (gave up, can now have the odd 'party fag' if out, never would go back to it), recreational drugs back in the day for a good while/years but all those are easy to not do any more.
It is eating and drinking.
My weight fluctuates, I control with Weight Watchers and because being fatter smashes my confidence. I can drink less when doing strict WW fo same reason.
Both food and alcohol offer that "feeling squishing" effect.
And, YES are easy options when I want to be "nice" to myself without acutally putting myself first or doing proper self care.
Blimey you lot are insightful. Thank you.
It is so great not to be alone with this. It gets discussed with friends a bit but I downplay it - we all acknowledge we drink "a bit" too much but I don't think they drink as much as me.
Day 3 today. Will drink tomorrow and Sat (moderation anyone?)
happy Thursday babes. I am off for a .

AND I only see my friends now and then (families, jobs, kids, life etc ) but the marvellous bus is always here rolling along...is ma still driving?

42, I think Ma's knee might be a bit tender - Gerald's a big old wagon - has to be, there's lot's of us on-board, up top and in the sidecar .

Where do you fancy going? My hand is hovering over the satnav. It's grey and cold down here, can any other babes see the sun?

Tis grey here. Sunny climes sounds lovely.
Eco Orang-Utan (sp?) safari in Africa??

I'm up for a safari (as long as we can have proper loos!)

Hmm addictive personality, not sure, think for me it's more 'creature of habit' and habits form easily. I do smoke, dabbled with drugs in the 90's but mostly to say I'd tried something and wasn't really interested.
I'm extremely organised, very neat, and put a lot of pressure on myself for things to be 'just so'
If I get it into my head I want to get something, anything, could be a hair conditioner, lightbulb, washing up bowl, anything I have to get it almost immediately, I can't think 'Oh I will do that tomorrow' perhaps drink has been a way of letting my high standards slip.

Interesting possible breakthrough today, I have had a piece of news which gives me cause to celebrate. It fleetingly crossed my mind to grab a bottle of Prosecco, but no, I have some expensive hair oil instead, who would have thought it 6 weeks ago

"Go Lux, well done you! (wish I had high standards {looks at the sock strewn living room - thanks dog - and the grubby jeans }

Yes, 42 somewhere completely different, lets treat ourselves to a cuddle with baby orang-utans!

I'm working from home, and wondering how on earth I manage this stuff when I'm drinking (heavy concentration since about 5am with only short 'Bus breaks'). Of course, the truth is I don't manage.

I have high standards sweet I didn't say my family do
that's part of it actually, the drinking to block all that out, then as I've mentioned before getting bitter about how unappreciated I am.

Nobody will die if there a couple of mugs that need washing, or yesterdays newspaper is still in the sitting room.

So sorry I didn't say hello to everyone, hope today is a good one for us all.

Here you go, one each

Oh luffley sweet thanks!

Oh the cute things!

Yes to the safari but like luxe I must have a proper flushing loo😀
I too am a perfectionist and a neat freak but the downside is that if I think I may fail at something new I won't attempt . I have absolutely got to nail it........and it's a horrible trait. It has stopped me doing so many things and I think it has all got to do with having to be in control. Yip my fecked up childhood just keeps on giving.
Anyway a friend contacted me today to share some good news and I suggested lunch. She refused because she won't be able to drink and couldn't see the point😳
I found myself saying " what difference does it make.......of course we can still celebrate "
Now that wouldn't have happened a few weeks ago.......it's a strange place this bus😁😁

It is a strange place, heading on safari with a moisture bomb on, rose lemonade in hand and you and I keeping the bus tidy!

lux
BTW I noticed that I added an extra ** e. onto the end of your name last time.
I think it looks quite posh.......shall I continue?

Oh I want a baby monkey!

Feel grim today- hungover, cold, voice has disappeared and back is playing up. Have so much stuff to do and doing none of it. Need to not drink tonight (famous last words).

I'm not sure about an addictive personality, but I have always been very much all or nothing (from no excercise to attempting a bloody marathon is a perfect example) and my drinking probably reflects this. If I could just keep to the constructive stuff then this might not be a totally bad trait, but equally when I self destruct I go all out...

I think it looks quite posh.......shall I continue?

Oh, I think so

Take your pick, Elba.

DS has a friend over this afternoon for tea.

2 x 6 year old boys tearing the place up + 1 grumpy 3 yo DD who wants to play too but is being ignored = VERY tempted by the bottle of Pinot I have sitting in the wine rack!

I deliberately took it out of the fridge to stop the temptation of it being ready to drink so to speak.....

HELP

Put it out of sight, Dave, then go and brush your teeth - can't help with the DCs unfortunately!

Can I put the kids out of sight?

Argh someone actually make me do something....it's like I'm glued to my bed just faffing about on my phone. Not even dressed Two days now basically wasted to a hangover and I've achieved fuck all. I'm pissing myself off now!!! Need a slap I think!

elba what can you do which would only take 10 mins but might make you feel better.....anything?
Report back when completed and we will give you another task 😀

For me it's less about an addictive personality and more about association. Among other things I associate drinking with: when I'm happy, when I'm sad, Friday night, any meal out, any family occasion, the entire month of December, holidays, birthdays, weddings, funerals, etc. In my head, none of those things can take place without a drink in my hand.

For me the key would be to cut the associations but I really don't know how to do that.

Stares at elba ........have you moved yet?
I will be back to check young lady and if you haven't moved then I shall want answers
MOVE.....NOW !!!!!!

No not moved...Need to cook, eat, run, and was meant to be having a big clear out as new bed arriving on Monday and I'm scared what they will find under the old one Going to shower and get dressed now which I've been saying to myself for the last four hours

Okay but I will be back to check on you