Rate your relationship

[Pinkiepie1985]

Semi light hearted thread not made to make people feel bad. Just curious how happy others genuinely are... some of my friends seem to have found such a perfect match it's unreal, surely all partners are annoying at times?!

I think mines pretty average/crap at times. Sometimes feel it's the beginning of the end. Other times we're happy. Married 8 years.
Based on a 1-10 scale , 1 being awful and 10 being perfect marriage I'd say we're a 5/6 what about you lot?

[RentATent]

10/10

We've been together 12 years. We're best friends, we have a wonderful life together, we both have the same attitudes and opinions about the 'big stuff', we both have the same ambitions.

He pisses me off when he's ill because he's very dramatic. He's been ill with a horrible cold for the last week or so and, genuinely, the other day made a comment about it being like pneumonia . So, when he's ill, I'd probably downgrade to a 9.85 but the vast majority of the time, we're 10/10

[noego]

Single 4 years. Non monogamous, polyamorous, open relationships.

10+

:)

[Shoxfordian]

I'm a 9 with my man
Been together about 9 months too

[PhuckPaulDacre]

...can't stop coming back to this thread. Do you think it's a sort of repeat of the time someone in Chat started a "how much do you earn" thread and everyone said they were £60k plus?? Like, the tone had been set by the high earners and those, like me, on average earnings were too intimidated to comment? Should I be worried that I'm married to a lovely person, but feel my marriage is 7 on a good day?

[Stuffedshirt]

I can't believe how highly everyone is rating their relationships. Really?

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

Stuffed I rated mine a 9 much earlier in the thread. But really I underestimated. It's closer to 10 (25+ years together). I'm not surprised at the high scores at all. Quite saddened by all the low scores though.

[Stuffedshirt]

If you look at the divorce rates in this country, you might need to reconsider.

[PhuckPaulDacre]

Exactly, Stuffed. The other threads in Relationships do not suggest the MN average is a 10...

[Boolovessulley]

I'm in a new relationship and would have stayed single if I hadn't have met my male spul part 😀
Would you be able to picke up from kierans pleaseI'd say we are a 10-9.5.

[Boolovessulley]

Not quite sure what happened there so I'll try again.

I'm in a fairly new relationship.
I was quite happy to stay single unless I met The One.
I feel I've met him ( fingers crossed).
I had very high standards.
I've never ever been with a partner who I feel such a likeness with.
We are incredibly similar.

He says he has finally met someone who gets him.
We share the same values and have the same opinions on basic principles.
Id say we are a 10-9.5.
Nothing he does annoys me.
He doesn't even snore ( unlike my ex).
Life is so easy with him.

It has taken me a long, long time to teach this stage and like I said, I made a pact with myself that I would not commit to anyone unless ghey made me feel this way.

[FannyDeFuzz]

1. I would say 10 but I'm cautious and sometimes he really annoys me
   

We have had quite a lot of pressures and worries in our time together, but they have been external and I think it's brought us closer together. We don't have any serious problems with each other and are very compatible

[Pinkiepie1985]

I too never expected so many 9s and 10s when I started the thread. To be honest I was hoping I'd make myself feel better by seeing I'm not alone to have an average relationship or maybe it's more we're just going through an average patch. I've come away feeling a little lousy as so many of you seem to have such amazing relationship. However as I mentioned before i am pleased for you x

[PastoralCare]

Pinkiepie, I think it is self selection. Only those people who are truly happy are eager to share their score.

Maybe those who are in mediocre or miserable relationships don't want to be reminded.

[Perfectlypurple]

phuck I expect people on this thread marking high don't tend to start threads in relationships. My '9' was an overall. If I had posted yesterday it may have been a 3 as I have pmt and he was annoying me. 😂

[Perfectlypurple]

Posted too soon. Generally though I'd rate as high as some days we annoy each other but most of the time we don't and we have a good healthy relationship. The odd annoyance is different to some of the same things we see in relationships.

[BumDNC]

I actually feel bad about being happy sometimes and don't tend to speak about it much with friends who I know are unhappy or just not as happy. It ends up being unspoken - there are probably lots of people who don't say anything out loud very often because of this. I suppose this is normal and I do try to be thoughtful but it's almost like it's embarrassing but ok to talk about things when they aren't as good.
Last night I was with a single friend and I felt uncomfortable talking about how lovely/funny/thoughtful boyfriend is. He's like my 'guilty secret'

[BitOutOfPractice]

We've only been together 4 years. We've had some really rocky patches (my fault) but I'd say we are a 9.9. As a PP said, I found a kind man and everything else flows from that. I'm only giving us 9.9 because he'll probably read this and I don't want him getting complacent

[SuffyBummers]

Another one who is (pleasantly) surprised how many people rate their marriages as perfect here!
We're reasonably happy, together 10 years, married for 3. I'd give our marriage a 6.5-7 out of 10. Maybe an 8 on a good day (like on holiday when life doesn't get in the way!)

[hmcAsWas]

Goodness - you would never suspect from this thread that the UK divorce rate was so high

[BumDNC]

How many people actually marry? I've never been married

[BumDNC]

How many people actually marry? I've never been married

[ninnypoo]

3 years in I'd say 8 (purely because of the long distance). We will gain +1 when we live together again but probably also -1 for living together annoyances!

[Lilybensmum1]

I think it peaks and troughs, been together since I was 20 married 19 years, we have had some really tough times where we nearly split. We worked at it and it was worth it. It genuinely is a 9.5 most of the time, he gets me.

[Summerisdone]

I'd rate a 9.5... I'm single but definitely rate my relationship with myself rather highly

[misnoma]

4 years together. Has been as high as 10 but also as low as 1. Peaks and troughs - we are a team though and we get through anything together. Currently a 6.5-7