Being used for sex?

[Lorettalynn]

I'm pretty sure I am, would just value some opinions , been seeing guy for six months now,met online, see each other once a week due to work commitments,
Started well, in contact every day by text , good laugh and made me feel great
He says he loves me but I know he's been messaging other women online, says he's lonely and just wants to chat (I know!)
Messages have tailed off, he says he doesn't want to end things but our conversations just seem to be general chat, he sometimes ramps it up a couple of days before we're due to meet and I'm pretty sure it's just to keep me reeled in for a regular shag
He treats me badly after we've had sex, it's like he can't wait to get rid of me and can barely look at me
I'm writing this and know I should end it, I love him, how do I get my self respect back and tell him it's over, I just can't seem to do it

If it helps to know it's not just you, I discovered my ex (female) back on the site we met on, contacting other men . Took her back only to get hurt again. It was never meant to be a NSA relationship.

Thanks for posting about this, it has given me a helpful perspective on my situation. I've been guilt tripped and was struggling with NC. It's hard, isn't it? Try to stick with it.

I'd also give sex sites a wide berth, if I were you. In my experience, people use those all have issues and cannot be trusted to have a committed relationship of any kind. I don't suppose that it ever ends well for any of them if that is any consolation!

Good luck.

It is hard, and yes I got what I deserved signing up to a sex site and should have known better , I had no intention of using it to meet I was just being nosy and like I said he wore me down with weeks of messages about how it would be different with me
I'm feeling very strong now however, onwards and upwards 😀

the texting after (bad) sex with you.... sounds like he is into cuckolding of some sort and humiliation, often the case with small dick men - there is a whole section on it - if we are talking fl , OP?

he must have touched some very odd spot for you to get so hoocked - glad you have stop this stomach churning - no more pls !

No not that one Helena, it was fs
I think I just liked the chat more than anything, but it's over and that's it

Lorettalynn: For what it's worth I spent 6 months seeing a guy from PoF who was a total loser, crap in bed, wouldn't commit to me, was a manchild, unattractive etc. WTF was I thinking....I honestly think what drew me back was his aloofness and it was handy and he thought the sex was amazing so that was an ego boost. But it got toxic and then what kept me involved was the unfairness of it, I didn't want to let him get away with the unfairness of it, so arguments would arise and then make up sessions.....Anyway it was a total waste of time.

I've slept with someone else last night...who is an adult...has a big penis....is very funny...is respectful...understands that it is ok to have casual sex and still remain respectful and nice and friendly

Sorry I had to run for lunch there, anyway it's great(!!!!!) to break the cycle and brush the cobwebs away and realise what a waste of space the narcissist small prick manchild is...YAY!!

So well done you (and me! lol)

That totally resonated with me patsy, I'm almost wanting him to text so I can ignore or reply with no thanks, see ya ! Lol its got a lot easier now and am seeing new man on Friday (6'3"mmmmm)

Thought I'd update if anyone is interested, still no contact with tiny cock thanks to the strength I found on here
New man and I met today for second time and it was fabulous, he looks at me like he's won the lottery and was so gentle and lovely , been messaging constantly 😀

tiny cock sure... you're just saying this because you're angry at the guy

I used to do exactly the same thing. I don't understand why we have such a hard time being honest with ourselves these days. When I started being brutally honest, about everything, myself and everyone else my world became clearer, simpler, better and open.

I am angry at him, or should I say was angry at him, that doesn't negate the fact that he did indeed have a tiny cock
It was problematic in that couldn't have sex in some positions , me on top for example as if I started to move it would just fall out

so why did you like him so much then? Doesn't make sense

I've said previously in the thread that I like the chat and the constant texting and attention

TBH, OP, and I mean this as kindly as possible, wanting 'chat, constant texting and attention' and 'messaging constantly' doesn't sound like a good basis for getting into any sort of relationship with anyone...Sounds kinda needy.

Good luck to you, But take it from me, OLD is full of women looking for just that. What do you offer? You've got to remember you are getting involved in someone else's life. What do you offer in return? Don't sell yourself short..

Sorry if this seems harsh. Best wishes.

Well done keeping NC
And so pleased new guy is turning out to be good.
Enjoy it. You deserve it.

Actually I didn't say that's what I wanted, it's what I got with him instigated by him and I liked it, there's a difference