Another day, still a bastard!

[FuckDaddyPig]

I was woken up this morning by my DP asking me what the time was my answer "I dont know' just opening my eyes about to reach for my phone (eyes still closed) then I hear him say 'forget it ill just go all the way downstairs to find out'.
Me- ' its ok wait there, its half 8'.
He walks out with our baby ( me not realising WW3 has started in his head), and downstairs to make a bottle. I follow him (im awake now) I start to clean up (Christmas bomb site) my DD comes down, so I start to talk to her about Christmas, can hear him in the kitchen mumbling something. Then comes into the front room and asks me why 'I didn't tell him the time, and I always say I dont know and it pisses him off' he says.
Me- Oh ok im sorry I hadn't opened my eyes yet, so my first response was to say I dont know (whilst reaching for my phone).

Well I guess that's not good enough as he walked off calling me a "fucking cunt" and usual other names. My DD is helping me tidy whilst listening to this. I just apologised to her and carried on him still in the kitchen mumbling away obscenities towards me. I ignore and carry on though now im shaking like a crazy person. (He went back to bed) he will probably not come to my mums for boxing day dinner and I have to explain to people why, this will just make him look like an even more horrible man to everyone than already!
We had a great day yesterday. Well everyone else did mine was busy I dont think I sat down once .
Then today he wakes up in this foup mood, and he says its because I didn't telp him the time?!

Does that sound normal to you?
It sounds batshit to me?
I know the real reason he is pissed off because he was woken up by our DD again. His thoughts are he expects a lie in. Personally I cant remember the last time I layed in (3kids) I leave him in bed most mornings as im taking the kids to school, he sometimes goes back to bed during the day time for hours.

I dont even know why im writing this. Im just hurt, shaky and confused. We have a great day then wake up to Mr Hyde

Well done for leaving FDP!! Enjoy the rest of the festivities without him!

Pleased you're at your Mum's. Get the locks changed and pack his stuff up and leave it on the lawn. Can your Mum help with handovers for access to the DC so that you don't have to see him?

Glad you are safe OP

AnyFucker I really don't mean to be disrespectful but what are your 'credentials' for posting on threads like this?

You come across as being very tunnel visioned - I assume you aren't a DV survivor?

Yes the ideal solution is to get off MN and kick the bastard out but it's rarely that easy is it? DV sufferers are usually isolated and completely worn down by their partner. So an anonymous Internet rant might be all a person can manage... yet it's a massively important step as even admitting something anonymously is a start.

Sorry to to single AF out. I see a lot of it here though. Women clearly having never experienced DV offering such little tolerance of those that do and how fucking hard it is to "LTB"

Sorry AF I do realise I've gone against MN guidelines to name you / single you out so feel free to report me

I have called Women's Aid before Op. They are literally the nicest people to talk to. They don't ask anything of you, they just listen and advise if that's all you want. It's all at your pace. I would make that call asap. It gave me such a sense of empowerment to hear someone neutral say 'this isn't right'

I won't report you, crunchy. You are entitled to your opinion. You might want to look up op's other threads though as it will fill in the background in all it's awful glory.

Fair dos and thanks.

Wanted to apologise publicly for singling you out as opposed to pm'ing you.

AF has already aplolgised and withdrawn the comment she made earlier and the OP has accepted her apology.

This is a discussion board, no one needs any credentials to post here. Mostly it's obvious when someone knows nothing about the subject.

You might not agree with someone's advice but the beauty of MN is that you can post a different view. Usually it's best to do that without attacking someone as a person or their questioning their motivations.

Oops cross posted

Glad to see you are all friends now

No worries, crunchy

I don't have any more "credentials" than anyone else who posts on the relationships threads and have never professed to

There is a sticky at the top of the topic that warns posters of this salient fact and directs them to sources of RL help

The rest of us just post as we see fit

Women clearly having never experienced DV offering such little tolerance of those that do and how fucking hard it is to "LTB"

Out of interest, how can you tell? Not being snarky or anything. genuinely interested.