Fresh eyes please on this

[Messedupmethinks]

2 year old toddler away from mummy for a week including xmas

He's just swing it from his and his family's point of view.
I'm seeing it from mine and from my toddlers

Seeing it *

You didn't agree to it!

The fact you didn't agree, and he did it anyway, is EXACTLY why you need to be making a fuss

Unless there's a massive drip feed I don't really see anything wrong with it, he's the father after all so it's not just 'your' toddler.

Yes I agree can you contact the family and say you didn't agree? When is he due to come back?

Me n the father have a on off relationship. We were very much together till last week.
We were out of contact for a year before recently rekindling.
We did make plans to be together for this week then xmas toddler to see his extended family.so for 2 days which I agree is appropriate for this situation.
However the father seems to think toddler will be fine without me n should get to no his side of family

So you didn't agree to your child who cannot reason yet being taken for a week?

How? Why? When? Who?

Ooh Mavis: that is spot on . But I don't want to fuss this early on

Ok, so you've recently broken up? After a year of no contact, and getting back together.

I'm sorry, maybe I've read too many threads about abusive men, but this is all raising so many alarm bells in my head.

You didn't agree. He took him anyway. You're recently broken up. You didn't agree.

Yes your on the right tracks Mavis.

OP I would be demanding that the child be brought back tomorrow, or I would be calling the police. If you did not give your consent for the child to go for a week, then I cannot understand why you would not step in to protect him now and ensure that he is with you.

Personally I would not have given my 18 month old to anyone even for an overnight. However, as I read it, you thought the child would be with his father and now you have found out that he has been dropped off with extended family. You know your child best, but how can you be sure that he will miss you after a few days but not now?

And imo, he isn't much of a father to a child not even 2 years old if he didn't see them for a year. How comes he gets to call the shots now?

Sorry if that came across as blunt.

Wtaf

Get your kid back.

Get rid of the twat of a man you are in an on off relationship with.

Focus on your child and spending time with them. I am shocked you are letting this happen.

No it's all cool thank you, not quite grown up :
Child's in no danger .
Yes I know he shouldn't call the shots

OP, are you absolutely, positively sure this isn't a play for custody?

Then why on earth is he?

Go find your backbone! He didn't see his child for a year and has just taken him from you against your wishes, to be with family he doesn't know!

He won't get custody.

I'll let child stay for few days . Then by Wednesday start a fuss

OP, why didn't he see his child for a year?

You don't "start a fuss" by Wednesday. You go and get your child on whatever day YOU choose to!

This is bizarre!

Just tell them! Nobody but you chooses these things.

I am horrified by this thread. Op get a backbone and tell the twat you want your child home.

Op if you are unhappy with this situation (and in some of your posts it reads like you are) then get on the phone and tell him your child needs to be returned asap.