I've been ghosted... it's made me feel so crap !

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A guy I went to school with got in touch about 6 weeks ago and we been chatting regularly ever since. He works away but we made plans to meet when he home Sunday and also xmas weekend, he had been ringing me everyday and was acting very eager to meet me.

On Wednesday night had a long lovely phone call and then Thursday nothing, just stopped texting me...no explanation nothing.

It's really put me down in the dumps and kind of ruined xmas..sad really as we not even met

Self esteem rock bottom now..anyone else this happpened to?

Sausage no I text him I wasn't happy yesterday when I saw he blatantly read my texts then ignored them.

That's terrible alazuli to do that when you were feeling so low.... men can be such tossers!

If you have already let him know you aren't happy, then he won't be contacting you - I think you may both have had a lucky escape. he owes you nothing and it's only been two days since you were in contact - unless there's a huge backstory, that's a massive overreaction.

If it's ruined Christmas then perhaps you need to look at why that's the case, I get it's annoying but you appear overinvested.

And of course he's not going to reply if you text him you aren't happy - it's a bit 'bunny boiler'

Alorsmum no not married I'm on his facebook and I know him, could be seeing someone though

Don't let this insignificant little man ruin your Christmas, OP.

And don't get caught up in "seeking closure". The only closure to be had comes from YOU. I hate to see women humiliating themselves in search of this ineffable "closure" from dick men.

It's not bunny boiler when he been doing the constant chasing/calling/texting really... it's just good manners at end of day... if u not interested say so!

How can you tell if someone has read your texts? My phone doesn't tell me.

WhatsApp you can tell, that's how we message it goes blue when they read it

Of course. I didn't think of WhatsApp. Sorry you have been ghosted. It happened to me a lot when I was a teenager in pre mobile phone days.

Don't text him again...but people have lives, and are busy. 2 days isn't so bad but giving him a hard time about it is just a bit mad.

Hey OP,

Know exactly how you are feeling & quite frankly men like him need a good punch in the face! (Yeah I'm angry on behalf of all women, men have done this too!)

I was with a guy for 8 months, 4 weeks ago.....he did the same thing to me! Worst part?? I'm bloody pregnant with his child!

Please don't dwell on it too long, I'm 4 weeks in & still angry & upset, I know il hate myself for how much I've got upset over it.

Hugs for you! You are worth more than him

Wynter

Know exactly how you are feeling & quite frankly men like him need a good punch in the face

Anyway your situation is a little different - the OP hadn't even seen the bloke in the flesh for years

Yeah I agree my situation isn't nearly as bad as yours Wynter that guy wants stringing up! Does he know your pregnant ?

I agree it's not the same however the feeling of rejection is EXACTLY the same.

I once only ever spoke to a guy over the phone. We never met but I felt so strongly towards him, if he had ghosted me. I'd have still been upset.

He knows full well I am pregnant, he was there for quite a few months from the day we found out yet got up on a Saturday & that was it....gone out of my life, nothing since.

Can't imagine how you must feel, this has made me down n we not even met let alone carrying his child. What a f**king loser

Given time il get over it, I've used Mumsnet as a way of releasing all my anger because I can't release it on him.

Of course you'll feel down, you liked him whether you both met up or not, rejection in any context is tough to deal with

Am I being really stupid- one of you is allegedly pregnant by someone you've never met???

Or you've been 'ghosted' by someone you expected to fall crazy in love with a woman he's never met / spoken to who is currently knocked up with someone else's kid??

Lol no,
OP, met a guy in school but didn't have contact with for years, they reconnected for 6 weeks and then he ignored her.

I'm the one who is pregnant, her post is pretty clear to be fair

Gotcha- was coming over with a dose of the vapours at the idea of that tbh!

Anyways ignore me!

Back to OP, it's about her...as I said, she invested in this guy for 6 weeks and let's be honest, a lot can happen in that time, it's still hard to suddenly be ignored

Wynter.

hodd No - OP has apparently been ghosted by someone she has been in contact with for a few weeks but hasn't seen since school - after she decided he was ignoring her, she kicked off.

Wynter is pregnant by a bloke who is now ghosting her and wants to punch people in the face and the thread has kind of become about that now.

hodd Sounds like something from the Jeremy Kyle show

No no, you have continued to make it about that because you have decided to post about it.

The jeremy Kyle show is about people who are on drugs or some sort, sleep with their brothers and sisters, have 10 kids by different dads & live in council houses.