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Going to the school to see my girls

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 13:50

DD2 and DD3 ... The school have told me that they will have to inform ex I am going because they are aware the girls have been staying with him. Despite me having the court order to say they live with me. He's not even on their bloody birth certificates !
That can't be right surely ?
If he's there I'm just going to say hi and walk off ...

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 16:59

Trifleorbust They will be fine with him

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MrsPeelyWally · 07/12/2016 17:00

Someone mentioned MNHQ stepping in and I think thats whats needed because these threads are either the biggest piss take ever or the OP is extremely unwell and needs to be directed to help, and the thread closed down.

Manumission · 07/12/2016 17:00

How does your mood feel to you OP?

Sirzy · 07/12/2016 17:01

Which is it - he caused a child to need sedating or they will be fine with him? Hmm

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 07/12/2016 17:01

LIZS I didn't say I do want them home.

Which contradicts all you've said as does your they will be fine with him post.

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Trifleorbust · 07/12/2016 17:01

There we go then. They're with their dad, that's fine with you and they are better off. Leave it be. I am not sure why you posted tbh.

UnbornMortificado · 07/12/2016 17:02

OP im sorry I haven't read your other threads.

You sound manic in your posts. Im saying that as a sufferer of it myself.

Putting your children to one side for a minute. Are you under the mental health team or on any form of antidepressant, antipsychotic or mood stabiliser?

Iamdobby63 · 07/12/2016 17:03

You say that now OP because your defensives are up, in the next breath you will be turning up in a coffee shop or at school wanting to see them.

MrsPeelyWally · 07/12/2016 17:03

Ive reported the thread. It gets worse by the minute and I think the OP is either taking the mickey, or she's extremely unwell and this thread is not doing her any good whatsoever.

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 17:03

I'm just numb to the whole thing tbh. I feel like I've moved heaven and earth for these kids, given up my own career, dreams, home, friends, boyfriend everything and with the assistance of ex have had it all thrown back at me by a 12 year old who just wants her dad no matter what he's done to her and the 14 year old just loves her sister and doesn't want her to be alone and scared in the situation

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Trifleorbust · 07/12/2016 17:04

Yes. And since you are incapable of separating those feelings from their welfare, the best thing you can do is leave them where they are.

WordsAreWind · 07/12/2016 17:04

Do you have a Psychiatrist OP?

HoopsandEverything · 07/12/2016 17:04

MrsPeelyWally How do I make it happen? MNHQ? I know that dragging up previous post is rubbish but i've read them and I would like to know that those children are safe and well cared for.

We've gone from "father who has no rights having them and I want them back" to "they will be fine with him" in a very short space of time.

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 17:05

Sirzy I guess we shall find out if he's in a better place now with the support of the girlfriend. He was on his own when the last one died

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Iamdobby63 · 07/12/2016 17:05

That's just what we mothers do. Don't throw your relationship with DD's away just because you've taken offence.

DD1 said one of them wanted to come home.

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 17:05

WordsAreWind - I do not but thank you for your concern

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Manumission · 07/12/2016 17:05

So probably depressed then? Understandably in the circumstances.

It's true that you do also sound a bit hyper.

Accessing some support via your GP might be a good idea. You've got a lot going on.

HoridHenryrules · 07/12/2016 17:06

I have read the op posts on other threads unrelated to her issues and she has always consistently sounded the same. She has had a hard time getting him to step up in the past. That is what I have understood from reading past posts. Unless I'm wrong that's my impression. She does sound angry and frustrated.

WordsAreWind · 07/12/2016 17:06

I agree that you should see your GP for support.

Manumission · 07/12/2016 17:07

Yes but bereaved to new cohabitation THEN DC moving all in the course of 2016 is quite a lot of change.

Manumission · 07/12/2016 17:08

For him, I mean. You'll want to be sure it's all working out.

UnbornMortificado · 07/12/2016 17:08

I've reported as well.

OP I think you need to see a GP. I'm not having a go or saying it nastily I have bi-polar myself. Manic behaviour can be hard to recognise in yourself.

You have children to think about and you need to be well to do that properly.

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 17:08

Manumission - and that's why I don't want more going on. I want my eldest through her GCSE's she is number 1 priority, she only has me ... I cannot let him make me fall apart for her sake so the younger two will just have to stay there for now

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 17:10

Manumission well he should have thought about that then shouldn't he before billy big balls stepped in to save the day. I feel quite sorry for her, she's not got kids just cats

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MrsPeelyWally · 07/12/2016 17:10

MrsPeelyWally How do I make it happen?

Just go the opening post and press the 'report' button thats on the right hand side of the post next to Add message.

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