Going to the school to see my girls

[Pisssssedofff]

DD2 and DD3 ... The school have told me that they will have to inform ex I am going because they are aware the girls have been staying with him. Despite me having the court order to say they live with me. He's not even on their bloody birth certificates !
That can't be right surely ?
If he's there I'm just going to say hi and walk off ...

You go ahead and focus on my perceived 'wrongdoing'........anything but actually admit to what you have done, what you need to do etc....
Always someone else's fault.
I can say what I like free country :}
No doubt I will also pop up on the next 207 threads you post.
'My au pair and FIL have left for a round the world cruise'
'My husband has changed sex and ran off with children one and three'
'Considering buying a maisonette in Maida Vale with CSA back payment but how will I afford the council tax'.........
Snore...........

Reasons, have you actually read the thread ?

The OP has had endless advice even supported advice ( some I gave) and it's been ignored

I'd love to say " I'm doing one" again but I'm interested in hearing the development and making sure her children are OK

Read through past threads, then maybe you'd understand

I felt angry towards op and then felt for her and offered her some advice and tools she could maybe look into/use that have been ignored

Don't post such crap when it's obvious she only entertains the replies that might get her wagging again

Actually I don't think I can be arsed with the is anymore.

Op let your children stay with their dad and you suit yourself

Sparkly, i have read all the replies and you have been one of the most sensible contributors-its true when they say you just can't help some folk.
Wannabe, lol that about sums it all up

Montane50 - thank you!

I felt so much anger at first but then when she went into how she's feeling I thought the best way would be to offer some tools or what I've used and found to help me in time of need.

She usually replies to me but I've noticed she tends to reply to anyone who feeds her

I pray to God this isn't real but I have a strong feeling it is and that's so upsetting

But I don't think know I can contribute anymore now, I really did feel for her, I have no idea how it feels but knowing I'm a single mum myself though I could help in just the tiniest way, that's not the case and I won't waste my time

I wish her well and hope she can gain some control but mainly over her mental health so she can give her children some security and stability, but it's just her show isn't it?!

The children don't really come above her feelings, which as a mother, despite the hard times, for me is hard to grasp.

I thought it was a long shot but when she's rational it's easy to see her side to some extent and I honestly thought their was tiny bit of hope we could help support this woman and her children

But I think I'm done :(

I think what posters (and myself) have found it hard to accept is the lack of insight into the cause of the drama and also the damage it is clearly doing to all 4 kids.
Both parents are equally behaving dreadfully and are obsessed with revenge. It's clouding all reasonable judgement. I don't think OP will ever be happy or content or fulfilled. Even ex's GF dying didn't make a difference. Sadly you did have kids together and sometimes it's about being the bigger person and taking the high ground. I think you will wait all your life for revenge on him and never get it. I also think in years to come when you need your kids you will be sitting back watching them repeat this mess in their own lives and they may not be there for you. You want more of instant gratification instead of looking at things long term. Problem is, he's the same. Both of you are driven by money, status and to your dying day both of you will never want the other to get the upper hand. In the middle are kids who are already damaged by this never ending resentment competition.

To conclude:
What a waste of 6 lives!
Do you really want to be this person? You can change it

I don't think she can change it though as she can't see that she has done anything wrong.

This isn't something that has just happened this week, this has been ongoing for YEARS.

And advice has been given out to her for years and she has taken very little of it onboard...

The only reason people post is the hope that OP will have a sudden ephiphany. This is not going to happen. OP does not want to parent the 2 girls and this has been a long time coming. I just feel aggrieved at wasting time giving advice where it is completely pointless. Spare your free time for someone who actually needs it

OP - just curious, not ideal, though I don't think either of you are, but how would you feel if ex agreed to take all children on?

Actually ignore my last post,I think it's quite obvious.