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Going to the school to see my girls

662 replies

Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 13:50

DD2 and DD3 ... The school have told me that they will have to inform ex I am going because they are aware the girls have been staying with him. Despite me having the court order to say they live with me. He's not even on their bloody birth certificates !
That can't be right surely ?
If he's there I'm just going to say hi and walk off ...

OP posts:
MargeryFenworthy · 08/12/2016 18:03

Nothing here makes sense. You need help. You were trying for a baby in recent posts. What makes you think that is sensible? You seem to thrive on chaos, drama and hysteria. Your children need stability.

CremeBrulee · 08/12/2016 18:07

Bloody hell. You have put this drama into play yourself, you do see that don't you?

The only reason those girls are with their father and not at home with you is because you asked home to take one of them and then insisted the other went too to look after the first one!

It's a bit rich that you're wringing your hands about them not wanting to come home (not surprising really) and him potentially snatching DS and him seeking CS from you.

Stop the drama. Get help - medical and legal help.

Newbrummie · 08/12/2016 18:09

Iamdobby63 no I don't think her income does count. You have to remember from what I can ascertain they started living together on Friday. Prior to that my kids were being taken to a travel lodge eow with just him, they'd not met her, now she's a mother of two grumpy teens who don't approve of extra material sex and are rather vocal about it 😂

Newbrummie · 08/12/2016 18:14

He won't start proceedings. Apparently I have a very strongly worded letter on its way from his highly incompetent solicitor who couldn't even draft a consent order. I'm just sitting back and letting it unfold. As others have said I've spent 4 years racing to solicitors etc and I win every time but DD3 isn't happy, so until she walks through the door of her own free it's better to just leave it. My brother knows them and me and all that's happened in our family and he agrees just wait it out. I'm sending them both photos of DS doing stuff do they are in the loop - note super dad didn't come to that today did he?

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 08/12/2016 18:15

You were trying for a baby in recent posts.

Seriously Hmm

myoriginal3 · 08/12/2016 18:20

Do you really think they care what little bro is doing?

Montane50 · 08/12/2016 18:24

Whats you occupation op? I asked earlier-where i work we're offered a free counselling service thats confidential-you say you have a good job-is this a benefit you are offered?

Newbrummie · 08/12/2016 18:30

myoriginal3 yeah I think they do actually

Montane50 · 08/12/2016 18:44

Whats your occupation? 3rd time lucky

Offred · 08/12/2016 18:44

Urgh... I'm going to have to hide this thread... your attitude to all this is absolutely appalling me. I feel so so sorry for your poor children. Sad

They are going to end up over on the stately homes thread.

Manumission · 08/12/2016 18:50

Why would any sane person answer something so outing and specific mont? Confused

I thought you wanted to know if she had access to employee support through work? Occupation isn't vital information.

Megainstant · 08/12/2016 18:52

I'm hiding it. My mum was a narcissist, occasionally violent and tbh I can hear her voice in the OPs posts. She was a terrible mother and I barely see her now.

Newbrummie · 08/12/2016 18:52

I swear she can smell disaster in the air, my mother has passed a message via my brother she would like to get back in touch. New Drama free me made it very clear where she could fucking go, small steps forward.

Montane50 · 08/12/2016 18:56

Trying to establish the type of work and unravel if its a profession that usually have a support network due to the stress of the job, got a problem with that manu? Id say confirming occupation is not outing but any person who knows op would no doubt read the hundreds of posts and instantly recognise her.

Manumission · 08/12/2016 19:05

I disapprove of your strange badgering if that's what you mean.

She could have told you whether there's an employee support scheme. You don't have to guess based on occupation Confused

Iamdobby63 · 08/12/2016 19:11

I think OP said she lost her job last week if that answers your question.

Iamdobby63 · 08/12/2016 19:15

If your mother is a drama queen then you are better off without her in your life.

bobbinpop · 08/12/2016 19:15

newbrummie I used to feel terrible a week before my period. Depression with anger and uncontrollable outbursts. I was diagnosed with pmdd and took citalopram for that week each month; totally changed my life. Worth a google.

Iamdobby63 · 08/12/2016 19:18

Yes I know someone who was volatile and unpredictable she was put on citalopram and is now running life on an even mood and all her relationships now run smoothly.

Montane50 · 08/12/2016 19:18

Thanks iam, i was a bit confused when op said she couldn't reply yesterday as she was in a meeting-i now realise that could be any type of meeting tbh.
Manu? Oh im not even going to justify myself to you, check out the threads started by pissssedup, and now newbrummie who turns out to not be so new just the alter ego of pissssedup.
I like 99% of posters on this thread have shown empathy and despair, eventually followed by disbelief. I suggest you read everything before you comment on my questions-afterall? Im worried about the poor kids-i suggest you grow a conscious and do the same

Newbrummie · 08/12/2016 19:19

bobbinpop - thank you I will.
Iam, there are no words to describe that woman, best leave that one alone

Manumission · 08/12/2016 19:21

Yes I know who she is thank you Hmm

Newbrummie · 08/12/2016 19:24

citalopram the side affects sound far worse than I feel now. Bloody hell

Iamdobby63 · 08/12/2016 19:26

Doesn't mean you will get the side effects though. They would start you on a low dose.

Newbrummie · 08/12/2016 19:28

Mmmm no thank you. I'm sure there's plenty of other options first