Going to the school to see my girls

[Pisssssedofff]

DD2 and DD3 ... The school have told me that they will have to inform ex I am going because they are aware the girls have been staying with him. Despite me having the court order to say they live with me. He's not even on their bloody birth certificates !
That can't be right surely ?
If he's there I'm just going to say hi and walk off ...

2 down 2 to go

What an awful thing to say.

EB is Essential Baby, a forum in Australia.

OP has a VERY long history of drama, she thrives on it. Kids have been dragged to and from Australia, between warring and philandering parents, huge fall outs with everyone from immediate family to in laws and nannies, employers and schools.

She appears to hold no insight to the fact she is the common denominator in all of this, and remains oblivious to her children's needs. They are but a means to maintain a high level of drama.

Screeds of posters have offered support and advice, but this is not what is required. The OP simply requires an audience to her train wreck existence.

It is terribly sad for the children enduring all this.

I wish I knew how to search other posts but I think I have gleaned enough information from this thread alone. It is terribly sad to read what they're going through.

Completely agree Jerry. Sounds like a narcissist. As a mother, your children come first. You don't just cart them off because you can't be arsed with them. You love and support them through good and bad. That's parenting 101. The OP seems to be devoid of any reasonable intelligence and common sense.

EB is Essential Baby, a forum in Australia. Yep, really well known. Like on every freaking web page you pull up

Op in October you posted a thread about getting engaged and said 'he's sort of asked!'. In August you posted about going on a failed tinder date. Did your meet someone and start talking about engagement after 2 months? Are you still together? You haven't mentioned your partner

Op, I understand what you are saying about (one of) the complications being DD3's attachment to her Dad. But that doesn't actually mean she would survive emotionally if you just abandon her to her father and go to Aus. Let alone DD2 who didn't want to stay in the first place, but you insisted so that she could 'look after' DD3. Of course she now wants to come home! You can't possibly consider leaving her, surely?

I hope you do get some legal support to get the girls back home, and get things back on track.

Please do take the advice about counselling. Of course you feel as if you would combust, who wouldn't, but the sad fact is that your actions when under massive stress are , unfortunately, hugely self-destructive. Both last Friday, and when you made a short term decision that cost you your JOB!

You sound intelligent and with the capacity to earn decent money. You need support to stop you shooting yourself in the foot.

Oh, and Internet contacts the other side of the world are not to be relied on for current advice (seeing half, or less) of the picture, or future support.

So easy to sit on the computer being 'supportive'. Look at me . But seriously, I wish you well, but I'm not offering to come and help out in any practical way. And that's how it is.

This is a very sad thread....
In amongst support & advice, I don't know how the OP has withstood the vitriol that has been heaped on her. Some of you have been horrible - how do you justify this? Does it actually benefit her kids/the situation in some way? No. You have got a very strange idea of what the moral high ground is! If she is as vulnerable as has been suggested, then its a very dangerous & cruel thing to do.

Ocelot. If a mother came on here saying they had left their child for five minutes while she popped out to the shops, she would be flamed.

This poster has outlined a series of grossly manipulative damaging behaviours on her part.

She is spending the first dds money.
She ducked her twelve year old out.
She then decided to send the Dd2 with her as she knew Dd2,would get upset and give her ammunition against the ex.
She uses the son as her prop.
She has decided to fuck off to Australia and that along with the tanned boys will surely lure them all back into her lair.
She is emotionally abusing them all.

Yet we can't comment?

Have you stopped claiming benefits for the 2 DC who have moved out?

I was commenting on the manner/wording of some of the comments. Its a forum so obviously invites comments.
But for some people saying they know similar people/situations in RL, I was almost hoping - with the increasingly wild unfurling of the story - that its not true so that no-one has been damaged...

How did your appointment this morning with the GP turn out OP?

JerryFerry

Are you saying this is the same poster?

Tups I can't answer for Jerry but I've read those and it's sure one big coincidence if it isn't the same poster.

I don't know how they worked it out it it is absolutely the same poster/voice.
Someone who is very unhappy with life...across a range of scenarios...

Has she not just name changed?

I can't log on under pissed off - maybe for the best, numerous PM's not all pleasant i'm sure, but thanks if you did send a supportive message last night. Yes those posts are from me.

So Jerry, lets look at those links one by one shall we ?
As you've taken the time.

The in law stoush
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1497882-Guests-bedrooms-beds-and-children

The whole trip for her, the MIL wasn't enjoyable, she fell out with her son by the end of it, basically she felts that she should come before me and the kids and now she does, boom she's a happy lady again.

The school stoush
www.mumsnet.com/TalkTalk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1629683-Would-you-be-happy-for-a-photo-of-your-child-dressed

There is a reason why you are given a form to sign to ask your permission to post publically photographs of your children. I did not invent that form and therefore it can be pressumed i am not the first person to not want photo's of half naked daughters on the internet.

Another woe is me
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/lone_parents/1781796-Knackered-already-how-do-I-make-this-work

Yes - I was knackered - AND your point is what ?

More woe
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1746926-Completely-lost-it-this-morning

Again, what's your point ? In the midst of trying to get to bottom of Ex's affairs I lost my shit, big deal, that was also the day he threw me across the sofa, DS still talks about it.

Employer stoush
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/employment_issues/1463565-Discrimination-case-help-please

"Then the HR chick asked me if I had misunderstood, please resign and come back when your children are older and you can cope with the job. I don't think he could have been any clearer tbh."

Again, you think I did something wrong in that situation ?
DS was 11 months old, ex was working away down south, I was trying to claw our way out of debt as he hadn't worked for the previous 2 years and I think that was in the May, exdh had been fired by the same company 3 months earlier I now know for emailing other woman on the company laptop and server explicate messages which IT and HR read.

Nanny stoush
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/childminders_nannies_au_pairs_etc/1655842-Final-straw-Nanny-WWYD

First three responses :

She sounds awful - I'd sack her on the basis of those incidents alone.
Add message | Report | Message poster iluvkids Thu 10-Jan-13 11:13:59
Sack her.

She cannot keep your children safe, and as for 'grabbing' a child's face... ....She clearly hasn't installed boundaries very well, and doesn't know that its 'all' in the 'tone' of voice.,..
Add message | Report | Message poster iluvkids Thu 10-Jan-13 11:16:30
oh and if your still keen on getting a british nanny, theres a nanny on NJ who'd love to nanny in perth, whos a brit.

So again, run by me what the WTF that frankly demonstrates other than I'm a good Mum who looks out for children and wasn't happy with the level of care they were receiving ?

Welcome back OP - how was the GP appointment?

My head hurts. Have you been to the go today op?

You had a good old rant last night and I don't blame you. The good thing about it is no one knows what you look like.

If you don't have people to talk to this is the place to go and vent. Learn a thing or 2 about your self and your levels of tolerance. There is no book on how to be a parent you just have to take each day as it comes. I think the op who is a single parent is doing her best. I think she is in uni and has a job as well. You can't kick a trier.

It went ok, he gave me sleeping tablets that I can't take because DS gets into bed with me most nights at some stage, I can't risk rolling on him or something. But I saw the same GP I landed on in semi hysteria when ex announced he wanted me to abort DS at 9 weeks, so he knows some of the history but obviously the doctor doesn't have a wand.

Had a meeting before that with DS's head teacher who will refer us to an early invention service and that allocates us a support worker, obviously DS is going to be affected by this so he will get some extra support at school.

DS gets into bed with me most nights at some stage, I can't risk rolling on him or something...

He's 6, not 6 months. You're not going to suffocate him.

The benefits comment just made me laugh, we haven't been on them for a while but yeah sure that would be your first call wouldn't it. A friends son died of leukemia a few years ago and on the way out of the hospital same day they said to her don't forget to cancel your child benefit for him, naturally you wouldn't want to forget that would you ffs.