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Going to the school to see my girls

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 13:50

DD2 and DD3 ... The school have told me that they will have to inform ex I am going because they are aware the girls have been staying with him. Despite me having the court order to say they live with me. He's not even on their bloody birth certificates !
That can't be right surely ?
If he's there I'm just going to say hi and walk off ...

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Montane50 · 07/12/2016 23:40

You seriously expect us to believe that the finance company are not chasing a 40k car? Yet another lie. Yup i just called you a liar.
At this rate? You're probably doing a whole catfish and you're a fat 65 year old male virgin with no kids ffs hahaha

Original poster
Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 23:40

No I started posting just before I went to the meeting and if you were that keen you'll see there's a gap where I'm in the meeting.

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Original poster
Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 23:41

The finance company aren't chasing me because I can't pay. Don't know what contact they have with him obviously

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Montane50 · 07/12/2016 23:45

They would chase you both to see who they can get the debt repaid from, as he has no assets and you have it would be you. Best tell the planned au pair it aint gonna work out so best look for another job..

Original poster
Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 23:47

Still need the au pair, 2 down 2 to go

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Evilstepmum01 · 07/12/2016 23:48

Montane I would give up.

You're just feeding a narc, sadly. Or a catfish! Grin

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 23:49

I'm just laughing now because as I stated earlier truth is stranger than fiction

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Montane50 · 07/12/2016 23:50

All the parents currently struggling to get access to see their kids will have read that last post 2 down, 2 to go, with the utter contempt you deserve. You are a disgrace to the human race and not fit to be a parent

Nirvanababy · 07/12/2016 23:51

Nope pissed not goodnight. You don't get to tell me when to stop posting. Ignore me if you will, however, I can and will, continue telling you how abhorrently you are behaving. And I will echo the many posters before me that you need to think about your kids.

On a personal note though, you really ought to seek help from MH teams or your GP. If you continue this behaviour then you need to realise your kids may go NC with you in the not too distant future because of your narcissistic tenancies
How will your kids see you as a kind , open mother and perhaps grandmother one day if you so readily packed them off as soon as it became too difficult not about you

Original poster
Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 23:52

Whatever, you're a nasty person I'm responding with nastiness to you

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Montane50 · 07/12/2016 23:52

Yep im off, i think pisssseddup should be unconscious soon Grin

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 23:52

Post away nivarana. You've not added anything that not been said before and responded to over and over,
Thanks for the input.

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TwoLeftSocks · 07/12/2016 23:59

You sound just like someone I once knew, the only reason I know you're not her is because she had two sons.

Will you see your GP about getting a bit of stability in your life, including talking with a counsellor or psychiatrist as, if I'm honest, you sound all over the place.

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HoridHenryrules · 08/12/2016 00:29

Nice to see mn is a great place for support. Has it ever occurred to you that this woman is in pain and is very vulnerable.

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Manumission · 08/12/2016 01:45

Seriously cod and nirvana?! Shock

TwoLeftSocks · 08/12/2016 06:44

I'd agree that the OP is vulnerable but that her children are more so and that it's deeply unhealthy for them to be caught up in all this.

Getting a referral to talk with someone suitably qualified (and then actively working with them) would help all round.

Megainstant · 08/12/2016 07:17

If these posts are true you need help. Sadly if they are true it also means you have extreme narcissistic tendencies so will just cherry pick the bits of your life that validate you, so won't seek help as it may come with perceived criticism.

Your poor children.

myoriginal3 · 08/12/2016 07:19

Save your time posters. This woman will not seek help.

Why would she? There's nothing wrong with her.

LotsoNumbers · 08/12/2016 07:47

There's absolutely no love for your kids coming through in your posts, it's very odd. You talk about going to Australia without some of them like you're popping to the shops. It sounds like they'd be better off without you really. Your kids want you to want them to prove you love them and it sounds like you couldn't care less

saoirse31 · 08/12/2016 07:50

'2 down 2 to go'... Ur poor kids.

I just can't see any thing in your posts where you don't resent your children. V sad, for them.

Trifleorbust · 08/12/2016 08:10

To be fair, I think my mum would have come across on a similar way 20 years ago - emotionally closed off, inappropriately chirpy about serious issues. strangely detached, pragmatic to the point of narcissism, passive aggressive, erratic. She didn't mean to. She had just been hollowed out by parenting and was resentful of the sacrifices involved. She also had substance abuse and mental health problems and was suffering from extreme stress. She needed help. The problem for the OP is that she is the only one who can seek that help and that involves being honest with herself.

LotsoNumbers · 08/12/2016 08:16

2 down 2 to go?

Your poor children have no chance

Carmen1001 · 08/12/2016 08:18

Ugh, read 2 pages of this post and I'm ashamed. What poor children. There are reasons birth control are readily available I feel you are one of them.

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