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Going to the school to see my girls

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 13:50

DD2 and DD3 ... The school have told me that they will have to inform ex I am going because they are aware the girls have been staying with him. Despite me having the court order to say they live with me. He's not even on their bloody birth certificates !
That can't be right surely ?
If he's there I'm just going to say hi and walk off ...

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HoopsandEverything · 07/12/2016 21:20

You are unlikely to be given free, medium termed counselling within the next six months.

Just so you know. But as you can afford to pay for a flat for your DD, you could perhaps use some of that money to pay for low-cost therapy.

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 21:20

DD1's money is for DDs education and won't be touched, not making that mistake again

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 21:21

HoopsandEverything - and that's why I haven't wasted their time before, nobody knows that better than me

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HoopsandEverything · 07/12/2016 21:21

Ok, well whatever money you were going to pay for a flat with.

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 21:22

HoopsandEverything - oh you mean the consent order money that we are back to square one with

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Nirvanababy · 07/12/2016 21:22

pissed have you had a drink today? You're coming across like you may have had a drink (or something else) - ha's no one else seen this??
It also looks like you're jealous of your DDs relationship with her dad.
Your posts have become increasingly agitated and aggressive. It seems like there's a jealousy over the kids relationship with their DD. Do you feel like you've been there for them no matter what but they still chose their dad over you?

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 21:23

Do you see what I mean? One step forward, rug pulled out again

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 21:24

I don't drink, however it may seem, even I know that's hardly going to help matters

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Hermonie2016 · 07/12/2016 21:24

Money would not have solved the parenting approach you took with your dd.

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 21:26

Money would have meant they were never in lots of the situations they were and plenty of the "blow ups" for want of a better description would never have happened in the first place. Extra frustrating when you know it's sat there and the process of releasing it as been purposely delayed

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 21:30

Perfect example, last winter my car was hit and written off. No car for 3 months, buses and taxis every day to school, late when the taxis didn't turn up etc, kids in detention. Ex gave my £40,000 car to his new girlfriend at the time, the one that died. Said £40,000 car is now locked in a garage that ex's girlfriends ex husband only has access to and he won't release it. Ex has lost keys. It's little things like that that frankly have all added up over the years.

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Montane50 · 07/12/2016 21:31

I don't see the alcohol link tbh, but yes the irrational and eratic replies are plain to see. Also, when a point is raised frequently, its ignored for ages then suddenly addressed, i.e call a solicitor, speak to ss, ring the gp.
Op if you don't mind me saying? I don't believe for one minute that you have addressed any of those 3 points.
For the sake of your children i strongly recommend you do, because this whole thing has tradegy written all over it. And the victims are you children.

Face your chaos and start to make moves to provide a calm atmosphere for them

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 21:35

Montane50 given you don't have any evidence that I haven't it's a bit rich to call me a liar isn't it ?

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 21:41

With regards to the kids relationship with their dad, DS doesn't want to know, DD1 hasn't seen him in months which even SS picked up on last time we were in court that he'd basically raised her since a year old and she didn't want to see - why was that - but nobody probed it. DD2 was getting to the stage where she had to be cogoled to go, she had better things to do on a weekend. It's only been DD3 who's consistently wanted to see him and been hurt when let's face it choose not to in moving around.

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BumDNC · 07/12/2016 21:42

It doesn't make sense. You can't give a car away without signing the log book over

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 21:43

BumDNC - I've got the log book, no bloody car though.

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HoridHenryrules · 07/12/2016 21:45

That is theft you should report that and get your car back.

SparklyMagpie · 07/12/2016 21:45

I give up

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 21:45

There's also outstanding credit on it in joint names, so which one of us can't rent a property do you think ? Who is completely unaffected by this and yet caused it, car can't even be repossessed because it's locked up

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LIZS · 07/12/2016 21:46

Dd1 isn't his so it isn't relevant. ds isnt old enough to decide for himself. Dd 2 is there now. Sometimes kids say what they think you want to hear. You need to rise above the emotional chaos and insist ds maintains contact as per the court order. If you don't you may find it tricky to rely on it the other way.

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 21:46

HoridHenryrules - done that, nobody cares. If it had been insured, all good. Of course he hadn't insured it had he.

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abbsisspartacus · 07/12/2016 21:46

If you have the log book call the police or go to court

LIZS · 07/12/2016 21:48

Why was it up to him to insure it?

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 21:48

SparklyMagpie - you've given up and you're only reading it. Imagine how I feel living this crock of shite

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Pisssssedofff · 07/12/2016 21:48

Because he had the car LIZS

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