He used the threat of her meeting the DC to bully me into agreeing to discuss more contact.
I had suggested that an impartial person might persuade him that introducing his girlfriend to his kids within a month of them finding out about her, wasn't a good idea. That I'd been advised a year.
He twisted this by suggesting mediation had originally been his idea and that, if I agreed to it, he would postpone her introduction.
I said I'd sort it and he called her off.
But I can, and will, take my time about organising. And when I call I will say he is abusive and I'm being blackmailed into it.
Then I will tell him exactly what kitty has said. And he can stamp his feet and bitch and complain. Then he can introduce her. And I will continue to stick to my word about not badmouthing him to the DC.
I have made no such promise, however, about what I say about her and I will not pretend that I like her. I will tell the truth. I will tell the DC if they ask that she did lots of things that were extremely hurtful to me and that I don't think she is a nice person.
I think if LCB believes my DC are ready to meet her then he must also think they are ready to hear some truth about the hurt we have all suffered at the hands of him and ow. Even if I tell the DC the age appropriate truth, I will still have the moral high ground.
He thinks he can intimidate me (and he can at any given moment because I don't have the coping skills yet) but I will always have truth and goodness on my side while his weapons are manipulation and lies.
And, one day, the truth shall set us all free. I need to believe that justice will prevail; not just in the long term.
I need to believe that I won't always feel the way I do when my phone goes and I see his name. And that my wonderful DC will not be scarred by their dick of a father in a similar way.
Please tell me we will survive and my DC will forgive me for all of the mistakes I've made in all of this. And that they will understand why I made those mistakes.