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Should I ask him out?

159 replies

SomeoneShakeMe · 21/11/2016 14:53

I really, really like a guy. We've known each other about a year now, both were in other relationships to begin with so initially nothing more than friends. Both now single.
We work together, see a fair bit of each other out of work & text lots too.
He's a good friend, we mess about & have such a laugh. There's definite flirting too, but I keep doubting myself and convincing myself I'm reading too much into it.
My last LTR was EA and has left me with little self confidence and although I have improved a lot I still find it difficult to actually believe it when someone shows an interest. I'm driving myself a bit insane with the does he/doesn't he like me thing!

A little while ago he tried to steer the conversation that way but like a fool I just laughed it off, mainly as it was a bit out of the blue but mostly because I thought he was joking around until I thought about it later Blush needless to say he's not broached the subject since.

Now I don't know what to do! I can't casually ask him for drinks or a meal etc as we already do this. HELP!

OP posts:
Dozer · 22/11/2016 14:20

No probs there then. Since you already see each other regularly you might just want to ask him - face to face or by text! - whether he would like to become more than friends!

BoxingHelena · 22/11/2016 14:26

Someone, trust me ;-) it doesn't even have to be tequila ;-) gin would still work
in fact I had people doing it to me (I am notoriously thick when it comes to read signes) but as I opened the door they lifted the bottle up - can you picture that? and I remember thinking oooooh I get it .... ullalla

Dozer · 22/11/2016 14:34

Sounds like this bloke is keen - even simple Wine might be enough of a hint!

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/11/2016 15:42

Surely there's a work do for Christmas if all else fails. Happy memories Grin

SomeoneShakeMe · 22/11/2016 19:05

Yes, there's a work do. Do not want to be making a spectacle of either of us at that though.

Do not get wasted, do not get wasted...

Think I'm going to have to bite the bullet & go for it aren't I?
Next suitable opportunity will be Monday, so just 5 days of trying not to work myself into a state then!!

OP posts:
Dozer · 22/11/2016 19:34

Yay!

CakeLover0 · 22/11/2016 20:43

Did you ask him out OP?

CakeLover0 · 22/11/2016 20:45

Oh there is a 2nd page haha! Just read your recent post Smile

SomeoneShakeMe · 22/11/2016 21:36

Aaargh, I don't feel very Yay! I feel a bit panicky!
Good job I've got a busy few days coming up to help distract me.

OP posts:
Dozer · 23/11/2016 07:56

Text him and put us yourself out of your misery!

SomeoneShakeMe · 23/11/2016 09:36

Noooooo!
We're both at work together now & I'd rather not have to spend the entire day feeling a fool if I've got it wrong.

Does mean I have to try & be normal around him for the next 3 days though..

OP posts:
BoxingHelena · 23/11/2016 09:42

how exciting - I am nearly jealous, haven't felt that kind of frisson in ages Envy

Amandahugandkisses · 23/11/2016 09:48

Oooh this one sounds like a winner!!
Do update OP!

userformallyknownasuser1475360 · 23/11/2016 10:18

What about a link to this thread and ask him what he thinks she should do?

SomeoneShakeMe · 23/11/2016 14:21

Haha, can you imagine anything worse... "See this gibbering wreck of a woman, what should she do?"
Cue much mocking of said woman.

I will report back, of course!

Anyway, he's looking particularly cute today and I'm struggling to remain focussed Blush

OP posts:
MrsTerryPratchett · 23/11/2016 15:29

What about a quick, "Looking good, MrHotGuyAtWork"? You know, set the stage...

Amandahugandkisses · 23/11/2016 15:51

oh dear Grin

SomeoneShakeMe · 23/11/2016 18:10

I keep wanting to tell him that he's now known as MrHotGutAtWork cos it'd make him laugh. And he'd soo love it, obviously he'd pretend it was embarrassing but he'd secretly love it!

OP posts:
LifeLong13 · 23/11/2016 18:15

I'm the name would make him laugh Wink anyway more importantly ask him out! We all want to know!

MrsTerryPratchett · 23/11/2016 18:29

That's a story for a little way down the track. After you've seduced him

Emmageddon · 23/11/2016 18:34

Hoping for a romantic Christmas movie style resolution Flowers

SomeoneShakeMe · 24/11/2016 09:31

Noooooo Sad he's just told me that some hussy woman has asked him to go out "for drinks" on Friday night.

OP posts:
GinIsIn · 24/11/2016 09:34

So now's your chance. Reply back saying "interesting. Or you could go for drinks with me, instead....?"

user1471455262 · 24/11/2016 09:53

Yes, he's definitely trying to make you jealous! Get in there before he accepts!

BoxingHelena · 24/11/2016 10:10

he was asked, but did he accept?
do blokes really play the jealousy card?
how old are you guys ?
OP you are not pulling our leg are you?