Need some clarity. Been smacked in the face

[Ineedsomeclaret]

Boyfriend just made my lip bleed by smacking me in the face because my printer didn't work. I'm sat in the bath, he's left my place.

He's under a lot of stress and this tipped him over the edge, he could see I was upset but shouted at me saying I should've known that it wasn't working.

I'm just so fucking confused now, thinking I should have helped with that more. What the fuck?

I really hope you dump him. I really do. You're setting yourself for a lifetime of misery if you don't. You deserve so much more than this - with or without a mh illness it would be a nightmare of a life.
Dump him and please tell your friends and family why you have, you need all the support you can get.

Dump his sorry arse ASAP.
He's an abuser.
Just tell him that it's over; pack his stuff up in a bag or however many you need to, tell him to come and pick it up and leave it outside the door, which you need to lock against him.
Change your locks, even just the barrel; get a chain on the inside of the door as well and please block him on your phone and social media.

Hey OP. If you're worried about what other people will think/letting them down, think about what you'd say to a friend whose boyfriend had beaten them up.

Would you say "oh but you guys get along so well" or "get the fuck away from him"?

If your family member beat his girlfriend, would you tell her to stay with him because you've got a family meal planned?

I doubt it. From one person w/ bipolar to another, depression often follows mania. Your self-esteem will likely be in the toilet because of impending lows and the fact your "boyfriend" is a disgusting abuser who beats you up. But you are worth so much more than this and you need to get out. Other people will either understand, or they are not people you need in your life.

Call the police, report stolen card. Do not ever, ever let him back in your flat.

Tell the police, tell everyone, there will be no confusion from anyone else. He has hit you more than once, and once would have been too often.

As you get on with his family, and his brother knows he is a bully, use them to get your stuff back, and give his wallet to him.

Do not let him in, do not let them in if he is there.

Do photograph and inform police.

Tell us you've cancelled your bank card by now, don't let him take your money. You don't have to give the bank a reason, just say you can't find your purse and are worried it's been stolen. Do you know the number to phone?

Popped back in to check on you OP. Hope all is well.

Police and don't make excuses for him.

Are you ok op?

If I came up to you in the street, punched you in the face and took your bank cards what would you do?

Just because you have a relationship with this person makes no difference.

He is a violent thug.

Please call the police, your bank and the his family. Don't lie tell them the blunt truth.

Not read all your replies yet but I will. Just wanted to let you know what happened next as you have all been so understanding and non judgemental to me...

So he turned up not long before my friend did. I opened the door abs he was there and just said 'I'm really sorry' I went off on one saying he crossed the line one too many times and that was the last straw. Arguing on the doorstep is never a good look is it?!

Then my friend came and we took back my card, handed over his stuff, my friend took his number put the phone, blocked... All that. He didn't quite believe what was happening and the severity of it?

Friend here now and I'm cooking dinner. Surprisingly that was easier than I thought.

He was snivelling and grovelling like you all said he would do. I'm strong now, I hope I don't crumble...

Can I just say too that had I not had you to talk to, at that moment, well... Fuck knows. I'm so very grateful to you all. Sincerely

He def needs to fuck right off now - done. Really hope you report this op they need a record of it.

He's hit you twice since Saturday, he is a violent and dangerous man. Please report it to the police. I don't know how long you've known him but he may have done this to previous girlfriends and maybe even worse.

How long were u with the twat op? Can your mate stay a few days?

Just read the thread on my way home from work. You legend. Well done, you are so strong. He thought he could push you around and control you and you showed him you couldn't.

Nicely done OP, you know where to come if you feel yourself crumbling, we'll talk you round

Well done OP

Well done! Now please stay strong! I guarantee you he will say ANYTHING to change your mind, he might cry and beg, he might be super-charming, but you know his true colours. Remember that. He will not change just because he says "I'll change".

Fantastic work there. It's probably one of the most helpful things anyone has done for the selfish bastard as well. He has seen what happens when people stand up to him.

He won't change, btw.

They never do.

Well done! Thank goodness uou did it. Snivelling and grovelling and he's smacked you twice since Saturday, split your lip, and did it at a party, then took your bank card. What a snivelling piece of shit. Never let him back in uour life and if he comes to your door, then call the police, don't let him back in.

You will meet a good man, you don't need one who assaults uou because the printer doesn't work or assaults uou in parties. And as others said, these animals don't change. If you ever let him back in, whatever his promise, next time he will hurt you worse. Celebrate you found out before it was too late.

you are going to call the police aren't you?

That's great news

BUT

PLEASE get it logged with the police

Well done OP.