Need some clarity. Been smacked in the face

[Ineedsomeclaret]

Boyfriend just made my lip bleed by smacking me in the face because my printer didn't work. I'm sat in the bath, he's left my place.

He's under a lot of stress and this tipped him over the edge, he could see I was upset but shouted at me saying I should've known that it wasn't working.

I'm just so fucking confused now, thinking I should have helped with that more. What the fuck?

Call the police, have him arrested and charged.

End the relationship And get safe. He's slapped you twice in quick succession. Violence always escalates if you tolerate it. A slap becomes a punch becomes a kick and so on.

Pick up the phone and call 101. Who can you call for support? Sorry you've been ill so you need more support. Never let him use that against you.

Call the police, change the locks, block his number, never speak to him again.

Honestly uou should have binned him the first time. Come out of the bathroom and said he's just smacked me one.

Let uour friends take a bat to his head, but yes call the police and when uou text him to bin him, tell the fucker that's what you've done. Because he will go on to hurt other women.

Thanks so much guys. The more time is passing the stronger I'm getting. I feel like I'll look ridiculous when I cut ties because everyone has seen I've been on the whole happy with him. I feel gutted as I get on so very well with his family, they are due here tonight. What shall I say?

What would you do if your boss hit you in the face because the printer didn't work?

Police, ditch him, change the locks, take pics.

And I'm so sorry this has happened.

You text one of his family members and say: Your relative has physically assaulted me so our relationship is over. I am informing the police now. Needless to say, tonight is cancelled.

No conspiracy of silence. Tell them straight (although don't expect any support).

Call the police, you've been assaulted and are injured.

He took my bank card I see. I just messaged 'I need my bank card'

You won't look ridiculous and uou need to cancel the family visit. The rule is one hit and it's over. There is no excuses no second chances.

I have a friend who is a senior police officer and he told me the most soul destroying job is on domestic abuse. He said they burn thousands of man hours dealing with complaints, then the women say " but I love him" and by that stage the women are barely human any more, they barely resemble women never mind human beings, they have been beaten down so bad. You don't want that to be you,

End it, and tell him to cancel his family and call the police. The fall out is his to deal with.

Oh and he's left all his stuff here too I noticed. Wallet etc, important stuff

Cancel uour bank card, right now. It's been stolen.

Cancel your bank card - ring your bank now and say it's been stolen.

Do not see this violent fucker again.

Had he got a key to your place?

Get rid and get help. You'll be so much better without him by the sounds of it and hopefully stronger. Good luck.

Forget what people might or might not think or say. Ime it's time to be open and honest. Nobody will judge you. I found I was supported and it was a relief. Please call the police or even better go down and the police station and report it in person. Ring a friend for support.

Calling the police is important, even if nothing happens to him now but a caution - it will help other women in the future if they experience the same so please do it; it'll be on record.

Good luck! Bastard.

Sorry, I keep x-posting. When you text the family member to cancel tonight, tell them that his stuff will be outside from 7pm if they'd like to collect it.

Then either put the stuff out at 5pm and go out to a friend's, or have a friend come over from 5.

The police will get your bank card back for you

Yes, tell him stuff outside by x time and have a friend there well in advance of that, tell the friend the truth he has been assaulting you and very likely stealing from you too,

Cancel the card. Do it now. Good luck.

OP have you called the police?

Cancel your bank card. Leave his wallet outside in the street or give it to the police when you call them. Do not let this man in your home again, he is a danger to you.

call the police, put his crap on your doorstep and do not answer the door and also call Women's Aid and get yourself on the Freedom Programme asap. Also see your GP too. Get yourself checked out.

So hes left his wallet and taken your card. I guess he knows your pin. You are about to have your bank account cleared. get on the phone to the bank now. he knows the relationship s over and he won't care about your money - other than getting his hands on it. What a low life

No one will think you are ridiculous for dumping a man who smacked you in the face and split your lip! And anyone who cares about you will be glad you got rid no matter how happy you appeared to be with him or how well you got on with his family. Everything else is eclipsed by the fact that he hit you and that's what you have to keep reminding yourself when the worries that you've 'overreacted' creep in or you catch yourself making excuses for him in your mind. There is no excuse for hitting you, no reason good enough to even consider forgiving him and you should tell everyone, bullies thrive on secrecy and you will find it easier to stay away if everyone knows what he did. Sorry this happened to you OP but be in no doubt, this is a major flaw in him, nothing to do with you or anything you did or didn't do.