Online Dating ... and this is a thread for while we are waiting! Dating thread 109

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I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

I am having the same problem Blobby! I am 45 and seem irresistable to men over the age of 70. 😡

Donatello why do men feel entitled to much younger women? I'm also 45 and get the same. I only used tinder because you could set age ranges and then they would lie Always because they were young at heart/didn't feel their age/could still keep up with the young uns. Don't they realise that no one feels their age? We are all 21 at heart!

Blobby it's so hard not to come across as shallow when you have a deal breaker requirement that is a physical one isn't interested?

myuser and mrs so glad things are going so well

I have been ghosted. Was expecting it and I'm not too fussed but after 4 months I thought he may have the balls to end things decently. Hey ho.

Is anyone doing any RL dating? I'm going to give OD a swerve for a while it's too brutal and I think it picks up more in the new year. I may be feeling more robust by then.

I'm thinking that people are out more coming up to Christmas so there may be more opportunity for RL encounters? Trouble is I don't have any single female friends and it's hard to find suitable places to go alone. Any tips?

Having chatted to my single male friends, it seems to be a very similar experience whichever side you are coming at OLD from. They find matches don't want to chat and just ignore, they have been ghosted, dates cancelled at last minute, people looking nothing like their photos, lying about age etc etc. All the things we experience. It's easy to think it's easy for men/women but actually it seems to be a pretty universal human experience.

Sorry blobbly should have said isn't it not interested. Damn autocorrect.

Number 11 on the first post - why men like bitches, believe me they do - only it's not bitches really it's just girls who stick up for themselves and value their time etc
Your part in that is that you have to make an effort, no point in demanding to be treated like s princess 20lbs over Weight with hairy legs, it works both ways I find.

Oh great guy I've arranged to see on Saturday has sent me up to date photos and looks nothing like his profile pic, they must be 10 years out of date. I'm blocking him, if they play that game they get what they deserve

Got an OLD in a couple of days; basic Facebook/LinkedIn stalking indicates that his POF photo is at least 3 years old but am going for it anyway because he's just too damn clever, interesting and funny to pass up. Fingers crossed he likes me

daddypig how can you say 'we nearly all do' with regards to men preferring thin women?

Not all women want a 6'2 man and not all men want a size 8 woman. There are gorgeous women who are size 14 in happy relationships with men who are 5'8 and I'm sure they wouldn't change anything about one another. We're all entitled to personal preferences and online dating allows us to do that albeit in a slightly brutal fashion.

I'm sorry Daddy, I didn't know I needed to run my preferences past you! I'm 6'0", so is it OK if I would like to meet someone as tall as me?
If you'd come on here looking for genuine advice, an opportunity to chat I am sure you'd have been made welcome. Instead you've chosen to come on here and attack a bunch of women, who you don't even know, because of your own lack of dating opportunities. Perhaps you're having no luck, as your profile reflects your bullying nature and women can read the bitterness pouring off you!?!

You weren't pointing out anything, you were on the attack. Bloody hell, some of us have come though some absolute crap to get to this point, never having expected to be back out there dating. So if some light hearted chat and support of others helps us with that, who are you to criticise.

Oh and my date is actually shorter than me and slimmer than me, perhaps he needs you to rescue him from me Daddy?

Right, so you would like genuine advice?

daddypig you are coming across as rather goady. Is that intentional?

Men have contributed on and off to this thread over the years and it has been helpful for both them and the women on here. After all we are all just people who are hoping to find someone someone we connect with and giving each other support along the way.

Is there an actual polite question you would like an answer to? Or a particular area of dating you would like to discuss in a civilised manner?

We are all real living, breathing, feeling people on this thread and you are coming across as a bully. I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt I case you are new to posting and haven't considered the etiquette.

If you are genuinely the person that you are presenting here. Can I suggest that the petrol head forums would be a more suitable place for you to post.

Sorry cross posted.

There's no double standards, I want a gorgeous 6'2" Adonis and am well aware of what my side of the bargain is to get what I want. The short fat guys who date the penny Lancaster types are millionaires .., are you a millionaire daddy 😜

Oh do you know what, sod off, stay bitter and alone. I never said you'd not been through anything, but my God, you're coming across as a right arse! Get the stick out of your arse - there you go, that's my advice!

Right I'm crap at keeping up with this thread it just moves to fast for me

But.......I have a date tonight guy off POF, been chatting for week and he seems promising and saying all the right things as in regards to what he is looking for but we shall see.

We get on great by text and have chatted on phone 3 times and all good so fingers crossed the actual date will go as well.