Brave Babes...braving the Autumn

[Mrsmimsy]

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elba his behaviour- staring and then his comment afterwards, is not normal. It's just not the done thing. But I think you know that. Have you considered counselling or cbt? It sounds as though their abuse over time has skewed your view on what relationships should be like.

elba your dad's behaviour is not normal or ok. You're not overreacting at all. Please take care of yourself

Have lost track of the thread so just checking in.had a productive if dull day doing housework and,believe it or not, wrapping Christmas presents!
Just the two DDS home tonight so they are cooking and we will all watch a film or something. House is today, all candles and night lights ready to be lit...and I dont have to cook dinner! All good.
Where is horrid baby doll by the way??????

He told me it was his right as I was his daughter. For some reason this keeps playing over and over in my head and I genuinely can't work out who, if anyone, was wrong or if it's just me overreacting.

Elba the reason that this keeps playing in your head is because your gut instinct is spot on. Listen to it as it is alerting you to potential harm. You are not overreacting at all. No-one has rights over you. Your mind, body, health and wellbeing are all your own to control as you wish x

Ma it's lovely to have a tidy house and cosy candles isn't it.

Also, we get an extra hour this evening

Having problems posting. Just checking in

Lost my post, grrr. Love to all, I am still here... if mr la proposed then it wouldn't be the end of the world, although he is significantly younger than me... oops he is back home, will check in later

Hi to all
I've been crap and bought wine.
Seeing H for talking on Friday. Sigh.
Hope everyone's okay.
Have had Wed to Fri off with DC, then the weekend. Has been good. But then slightly hungover Monday. Sigh.

Hi theanswer from your post it seems that you don't really want to drink? It may seem simplistic but if you don't really want to drink, then don't. Especially as it's monday and I presume you've got work tomorrow? Just think how rubbish you'll feel tommorrow. Think further than the first few glasses, think of the stumbling to bed, the churning stomach and throwing up, the bad sleep, the waking up tomorrow and feeling like crap, think about how you'll feel tomorrow. Put the wine in the fridge for another day, make yourself a cuppa, and drink lots of water or if you're like me, lots of squash. Keep drinking water and that'll help you for tommorrow. Hugs

Checking in .
Anyone else doing Monday to Thursday ?

Yep, Monday to Thursday here.

thanks made I logged off last night.
I didn't drink too late though I prob had a bottle or nearly.
But not too bad today. Thank you for posting.
I often (usually) feel I don't want to drink AND that I do want to drink
I am in for AF Mon- Thurs

glad you're ok theanswer How are you elba? Any news la? I think the second interview went well but even better - I've got an interview on Thursday for a job in a children's home near me! Better hours, chance to do overtime, plus it'd be support work so something I really enjoy! I'm not looking too far ahead atm but if nursery offers job tomorrow I'll take it - but say I can't go in Thursday - and then if I get offered the 2nd job I can always turn down the 1st job, I think so anyway? (Not too sure but I know an employment contract doesn't mean you can't leave the job, and as I asssume I'd be working in job1, less than a month if get job2, I don't have to give much notice surely?) Gone from no interviews to many at a time - bit like a bus Only downsize is it requires getting to Cardiff Bay (not familiar with it) by 10.15 Monday so we'll need to leave at 8.30 latest (sob)

My alcohol tolerance is down I reckon, I had a bottle of wine friday night and felt like shit all day Saturday, and not so long ago a bottle of wine didn't have many effects!

On my second very strong G and T
Shit day

ma hope you're ok my lovely

Hi all checking in quickly. ma hope your ok, sorry you had a shit day.

made the children's home job sounds exciting!

Just finished a marathon 6 day/65 hour stretch at work. Head still a bit all over the place, and the father saga is ongoing...not spoken to him, but he got his slightly crazy friend to email me with the date of an eye op in December and will I go to look after him. Have said I'm working (I'm not) but will try and swap to buy time to work out what to do. I don't want to, the thought of being on my own with him for any length of time is making me panic already. But of course the guilt is also setting in...

Off to stay with best friend for the night tomorrow so will spend 24 hours doing nothing but cuddling tiny baby twins and drinking tea. On day 7 af, which makes 28 for the month. Having a wobble about it though, and thoughts of drinking opportunities are creeping in.

Anyway, I'm going to bed and hopefully to sleep...averaging about 4 hours a night currently

Hi elba I know, it's amazing! No wonder you're not sleeping much bless you, that sounds really hectic! It;s easy for me to say but try not to feel too bad about your dad if you don't go - the hospital won't discharge him unless it's safe to do so. I.e, if there's no one at home and he needs looking after they'll keep him in until it's safe. At no point will he be left to completely fend for himself, they're not allowed to. I understand if you do help but if you don't, don't feel like you're throwing him to the wolves lots of single people must go through similar ops and manage, after all. Your plans for cuddling babies sounds lovely and well done on your 28 days

The nursery rang and ive not been successful :( i just want a job, any will do! At least ive got the interview on thursday to focus on amd am going to apply to tesco too

elba so so so proud of you. I've not done an af day since I had my accident, which has resulted in a permanent scar and a formal absence review meeting with work, even though I was signed off by my doctor with severe concussion and facial injuries. Huh. My work are on a bit of a workplace cull at the mo, and I fear I may be next, even though I get there at 6.45am every morning and work through until 4.15 - no breaks. Seems slightly unfair. Enjoy twinny cuddles, I had cuddles with my best friend's baby the other day, she is four and a half months and I just want to squidged her all day long (my phone just typed in squish - no I don't want to squish her!!! Well I do, but with kisses and cuddles). You are doing so well babe (in the MN spirit of the thread, not in a chav way).

made that doesn't seem fair, but good luck with the rest of the interviews, something will come along for you soon...

ma sorry you had a shit fay yesterday, what happened?

In other news, I am flat out here, off to ride the ponius horribilous, joy. Not sure how it's going with mr l. We seem to rocket from extreme happiness to barely talking, plus he woke me up at 3am 'because he wanted a cuddle' (or more honestly, the duvet back), so I have been shattered all day. Walked dog, and now off to stables, and there is still a bowl of washing up that he promised faithfully he would do yesterday after a day off work with a hangover migraine. Not sure what is going to happen.

Hate the fact that it gets so dark so early now. So depressing. I am a fan of spring. Anyway, hope you are all ok.

Just work stuff. Am in a hotel in Glasgow tonight so a night to myself

Drinking in secret in my friends spare room Don't know why, thought tonight was 'safe' after so many days af, but been it's been building up the last few days. Know I'm going to regret it tomorrow. Crap.

Hi everyone, hope you're all ok ma how are you doing today? elba hope you are ok and not feeling too bad today

I've spent the day going over interview questions, legislation etc - have prepared for the difficult ish questions I think and stuff like teamworking etc I can wing. Interview wear is all sorted - black trousers, black blazer, white top, black flat shoes, black socks. We're leaving at 8.30 in the morning because even though destination is 30 mins away, we're guaranteed to meet traffic or get lost or similar. Documents are all packed in bag as well as purse, ID etc, all I need to do tonight is iron my clothes and straighten my hair (currently resembling hagrid hair, will take hours and lots of product to calm it down)

Good luck made fingers crossed for you

Good luck made sounds like fantastic prep.
Hope you're not too fed up today Elba you've done a lot of AF days.
I'm OK, saw H yest and we didn't say much but no fights.
AF today, am shattered as youngest is up in the night every night. Will he ever grow out of it?
for all

Thank you Hagrid hair is now gone! Ddog is currently in doghouse ... thought it acceptable to run to mums room when we were chatting on landing, and in 2 minutes, leap onto the bed, gulp down a chicken ball from the bedside table and then cover another in slobber before dumping it on the floor - boak

made sounds like you are well prepared! Good luck, and hope you're getting a good sleep in preparation!

42 hope your little one is allowing you some sleep tonight.

sober how are you doing?

Only a bit hungover today but the increase in anxiety was huge...still had a lovely time with friend and babies. So why am I getting drunk?? On second bottle of wine and feeling sick but still fucking drinking and hating myself for it.