Fallen out the the in laws. Well f I l to be precise. I feel sick. It is gorrid

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I have no recollection of events but FIL called tonight to say that due to my spiteful and unkind behaviour he hasn't slept for a month and they will not be coming to stay ever again.
They will see the grandchildren and dh but he will no longer see me.

Now I have had issues with him but I suck it up and whinge on here or to friends. I am the most fucking hospitable daughter in law he could hope to find.

Dh is distraught but totally backing me to his dad saying that it sounds like he is talking about a different person but good lord FIL is sticking to his guns.

Dh is an only child we live his mum and dad no matter that they have frustrating habits and gave no idea how to get through this.

Any tips greatly recieved. Really don't want things to get worse. Only to heal and her better.

My MIL suffered from vascular dementia, little undetected strokes over many years caused it. FIL thought he knew better than the doctors, the 'falls' she'd been having were in fact strokes. She could have been helped a lot more if he'd told anyone about these 'falls'. She also suffered with paranoia, she thought the police were listening to her conversations, she'd hide food, only spoke in a whisper in conversation whenever FIL was in the room, it was hard to get her to speak at all yet she'd have full blown conversations with herself if she went into the kitchen to make a cuppa. Perhaps a similar thing is happening here, if he's getting worse.

Sheesh, don't let yourself be left alone with FIL. Gawd knows what he'll invent or misconstrue next.

if hes done this before she really should be taking himt o the doctor

like others said dont be alone with him but be gentle he might be very confused

OP, your MIL seems to be weirdly blasé about her husband's behaviour. If my husband had 'form' for doing things like this I'm sure I wouldn't be so accepting of it. I get the impression she virtually shrugs it off as just one of those things he does.

I personally think anyone with normal cognitively function would remember if they said and did that or not.

Did you do it and are pretending you didn't?
Do you have a memory problem?
Did you say something you intended as partly jokey?

Cognitive!