NoCapes thread 2 - No cape necessary

[NoCapes]

Can't believe we've filled up a whole thread
But I'm still not ready to be without you all yet ...

Have just read DH the Horsey! Long face bits and he laughed out loud :)

Hello Capes, I've been lurking and cheering you on as you make huge strides into the fuckwit free zone- you're doing brilliantly. I've been here/free just over a year and I've gotta tell you it's way better than I could ever have imagined

Had to post because I'm crying at horsey and so is my teen DS. You may want to amend your username to GiddyUPZackHunt

Ha ha married! Excellent!

I can't find the Spotify playlist
Could someone please reclink if??
And is lily allens fuck you on it??

its here Huck! and yes fuck you is on it!

Morning all, just popping in to see how capes is (and the rest of y'all).

Morning Nige
Giddy please change your name, married's suggestion is brilliant!

I'm not feeling great today tbh, I just feel a bit overwhelmed with life
Kids have been playing up and I just feel like there's so much to do but I don't know where to start
Feeling a bit ... Claustrophobic??

DD locked us out of the house this morning and after really bad behaviour from them for a few days this was just the final straw and I lost my shit, shouted at her, then I cried all the way to and from school, and I've had a headache ever since
Not my finest hour tbh

Don't feel guilty! We all have bad days. (And this morning could have happened when you were still with him and he was too drunk/hungover/comatose to let you in)

Big hugs, and break everything down into chunks. It's easier and less scary like that.

I totally understand what you mean by there being so much to do. As for where to start.. Is there anything that's really super urgent? Like an important phonecall or email or something? Because that should come first. Then just break it down. Do something, then have a break, or a . Continue. If it doesn't all get done today/this week. Then don't worry about it! Just put it on tomorrows/next weeks to-do list.

100% agree with madginger breaking down into chunks makes it so much easier.

And everyone has their off days, your DD will have forgotten all about it soon!

(and some for later!)

Please don't beat yourself up over shouting at DD.(It happens to even the most Saintly Mothers !)
You do have all the responsibility now & it isn't always going to go smoothly.
but honestly, XP wouldn't have been there to help would he ? as madginger said.
Actually I think it's good for the children to see you as vulnerable too. They can be very selfish, & tonight maybe say sorry, but it isn't always easy.
You need to help each other more than ever.
Chin up. (could you leave the key with a neighbour for next time?)

Everyone has bad days. DH calls it the Carrie scale. One day two weeks ago in the heatwave a bloke ( he didn't look the full schilling) stepped right into my space and made a remark about my tits. ( I'm 7.5 months pregnant) I was in a grade 10 Carrie and I made a noise I didn't think I was capable of. He made a whimpering noise and ran away. Can laugh now but was furious at the time.

Hi Capes, don't be too hard on yourself. Kids have a funny way of pushing our buttons on the days we really could do without it. Mum showing she's had enough is no bad thing, they (like all kids) need to learn enough is enough. DD pushed every button I had this morning (2.5 hours sleep, pissing down and she was slower than a week in the jail on the nursery run this morning any suggestion of hurrying up was met with huffs and eye rolls. About 100 yards from nursery I snapped and told her she better move her tiny butt or I'd carry her into nursery like a baby! Thankfully she shifted!) xxx

Oh the shouty baaaaad mummy moments... I am frequently grateful we live in a detached house so nobody can hear me bellow.
And I don't know what the weather's like with you bit it does feel oppresive and heavy today.

hope all goes well tomoorow will check in see how youre doing

Just caught up with the thread. Thinking of you for tomorrow. I'm not sure if you said what you were in for, not that it's any of my business. I've had more than my fair share of hospitals so you have my sympathy.

Oh I wasn't just shouty Mum, I was slightly hysterical screechy Mum but DD was all about the cuddles last night so I think she forgives me
Thank you all for trying to make me feel better about it though

Lynn nothing major, just a hysteroscopy to hopefully see what went wrong with the pregnancy and to possibly remove a couple of polyps depending on size

Thinking of you today Capes I hope everything goes well and they find what they need to find!

Aww glad you had cuddles with DD! They're good for that kind of stuff are the kiddies

Hope you don't get any crap of the XP today! If he does I'll be quite happy to come over and insert his head fully up his arse for you

Just checking in to say I'm thinking about you today Capes, hope all goes well

He can look after his children, but not in your house.
Bon Courage for hospital.

Hope today goes smoothly with the minimum of discomfort on all fronts

Just also coming on to say hope it goes well at the hossy capes.
I also went ballistic at dd1 last night.In fact I had to leave the house and stand outside for 5 minutes as I was so livid.(tween age stropping off the scale from her, for literally 3 hours before I could take it no more-combined with a very bad day on the anxiety front from me, did not a happy evening make).chalk it up to experience and move on. (I did feel super guilty afterwards though).

Good luck today NoCapes. I don't post but check in often to see how you are getting on. You are sort of a virtual hero on MN now :)

Hope all goes well today - we're all thinking of you

Thinking of you today Capes xx

First post on your Thread Capes but wanted to wave my pompoms in your direction and snigger derisively at your Exs handling of the situation.

1. He behaves like a selfish disrespectful pig and makes your life a misery.
2. You call him out, chuck him out and tell him its over
3. He bombards you with lovely conciliatory messages and pretends to be a model father.
4. Once, just once, you reply to one of his relentless 'I miss you' messages with 'me too' and he smiles to himself, nods his head, thinks 'I've sorted that' and immediately switches to behaving like the twat he is. Honestly....how gullible does he think you and all of MN are?

Hope your hosp. appointment goes well today. Hope his cock drops off and gets recycled by a womble..