DH has just joined twitter without telling me

[StrawberrytallCake]

I'm a bit worried as my dh has just joined twitter, as stated - made his profile private and not joined up to me...all whilst he was supposed to be looking after our two children. Just before he made it private (he didn't realise this would happen I suspect) I had a notification that he has joined and saw who he started following within which were two relatively famous attractive sports women. He has been working late the last few nights - I know not having an affair because I know the people he was with, but if he had nothing to hide he would surely tell me?

I've got a really horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach, should I catfish or just wait and see if he tells me? Was looking forward to a nice night together tonight and now my heart is racing. Am I being over the top?

Twitter is for mostly following people and reading tweets, honestly I wouldn't worry too much about it, it isn't like he has joint a dating site... I don't think you'd gain anything out of catfishing.

But why wouldn't he tell me or follow me on there...he seems able to follow other women!?!?

I also have an issue in the fact that he does fuck all around the house and has no idea how to look after the children, the one night he has (the last 3 hours) he's spent watching the tv and creating a twitter account.

Catfish?

Lol at not using the internet while looking after children

Twitter isn't suspicious. Any other red flags? I don't tell my husband every time I do anything online.

You are being over the top. It's Twitter, he's done the very sensible thing of having his profile set to private, he's followed some female famous athletes. It's not exactly screaming infidelity.

oh ffs op

you arent his bloody minder

Yeah I use the internet whilst looking after the children, but he hasn't seen them all week.

I didn't know DP was on Twitter but then he is also on Facebook and I'm not.
I trust him, so to me it doesn't matter.

Has he given you any other bad vibes or is it just the lack of telling you everything?

Tread with extreme caution Op, I'd be extremely cautious. Twitter is rife for it. Innuendos become flirty direct messages & before you know it, boom! When I left my marriage, I protected my account so my ex couldn't see it but, there are a lot of lonely, desperate people on there who crave a bit of attention. If he had nothing to hide, he wouldn't need to protect

three hours to log in? is he very slow?

I think you are over reacting. I hope that doesn't sound harsh as you sound very insecure unless there is a backstory... Surely joining twitter is not a big deal? I don't think my dh told me when he joined (I don't have an account anyway) and I know that ha follows some attractive sports women (who will never have noticed that he is following them 😀). Why not just say that you had noticed that he had joined up?

Also, creating a Twitter account isn't exactly onerous - he could easily look after children and do it!

He has given me bad vibes recently - he's constantly bothering me for sex and seems to only be interested in me when he wants that, yet he won't do anything around the house and I'm fed up of being the family slave.

It takes 5 minutes to create an account and some people have theirs to follow sports news or train companies and so on

Yeah I am insecure, gahh wish I hadn't used this screen name!

Yes you're being very over the top It's Twitter he's joined not a dating site. He'll be doing what most pei0oe do following random celebs etc Twitter really isn't what you'd use if you were up to no good.

Insread of making a drama out if it why not just send him a follow request. Catfish?? Really

There are some seriously scary women on MN at the minute.

Ah ok OP there are more issues there but I dont think the Twitter thing is one

If you've had a notification he's joined, why not just tell him you've seen he's joined??

Massive overreaction

Twitter is no different than any other neutral social media like Facebook

Yes, it can be used for cheating. But only by cheaters.

I would be more concerned with him being a lazy twat. But that was OK before he joined Twitter ?

Just ask him?

My Dh joined fb and ddnt tell me. I sent him a friend request and he refused my request!

No of course it wasn't ok - we have discussions about it and he apologises and promises he'll do more...then he doesn't.

I guess I'm worried he's a cheater! I know I should trust him but I don't think I do.

StrawberrytallCake I understand that you are concerned about the whole situation, he is the only one who can answer your questions.

Focus on the real issues here:

Twitter isn't a problem. My DH and I don't follow each other in Twitter. There's nothing sinister about it.

As long as the children weren't being neglected or being ignored does it really matter that he was online or watched tv while they played.

If you are annoyed about the division of labour in the home or how much attention he pays to you - sit down and have a discussion about it.